i have 7 children and cant take care of all of them financially and do not want them to suffer because of this. I recently lost my job and i am having a difficult time becoming employed, i have applied to over 75 jobs in the past 2 months. i have been to 4 interviews with no success, i am an educated individual, with customer service skills, currently attending college to receive my degree in criminal justice, the children all have the same father but we cant seem to make ends meet and we are below the poverty level and steadily dropping lower.
2006-07-21 08:23:30 · 6 answers · asked by trissa g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Make use of all of the social services available to you to try to keep your family together. Call Salvation Army, Catholic Charities, and any Community Center or Lions, Elks or Masons in your area. Call the City and the State. If you do not believe that you can make it, you could even call Child Protective Services. They aren't there just for abused kids, but for at risk kids, and yours are at risk. (Call them only as a last resort, though.)
Make sure that the problem is not depression more than poverty. It is very hard to see a way out if your brain chemistry is messed up. If it is your only option, walk in to a county hospital ER and use a fake name. But if you are feeling worse than the situation should make you, and feel no hope, and are afraid you can't take care of your kids, that could be depression. I know, I've been there! And I DID take care of my kids, once the depression was treated. Then it became possible to see that the light at the end of the tunnel wasn't a train barreling down on me.
I know how lost you feel, and if foster care for a while is the only answer, then it is, but don't give up your parental rights just now. There're too many things you must do first to try to get back on your feet. PLEASE email me if you like, I have way more experience at this kind of thing than I like to remember! The one thing I know for sure is that no matter how bad it gets, it can get better, and you can handle it. (You may not want to, but you can!)
I simply can't write all I want to say here, it'd take too much room.
2006-07-21 10:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving a child up for adoption as an infant is one thing but to wait until they are older would be devastating to them - a situation in which they may develop some serious social and mental difficulties in which they may never recover. If you are attending college in order to better yourself then it only stands to reason that your situation will be improving once you graduate. In the meantime seek out help from your family and/or social services. Churches have programs in which you can also partake - seek them out. You can turn a bad situation into a better one if you seek out the resources that are available to you. It may seem to be a desperate situation now but don't do something that you will surely regret when your situation does improve. My heart goes out to you and I wish you the very best.
2006-07-21 08:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by mzmscheeveeuhs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorrry about your current situation, but have you looked into some type of Government Program that can help you and do you have family that can help care for your children and help with some of the financial responsibility? Look into other alternatives before you make such a great decision. I applaud you for keeping the interest of your children first and feel that you are very strong for conteplating such ideas. but, in the end we all must do what is best for our children and you should'nt feel bad or guilty for doing so because you are think about what best for your children and there's nothing wrong with that. I wish you the best.
2006-07-21 08:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. You have to ask yourself - which child(ren) could you give up? How could you possibly decide? I think giving up a child at birth is noble, but having already raised seven children it would be the most difficult decision for me. Somehow you just have to believe that things will get better. Ask for assistance - from the community, local religious organizations, non-profits, etc. Soon you will be back on your feet. You wouldn't want to make a decision that you will regret the rest of your life.
2006-07-21 08:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by gremlincollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have lost faith in your ability to succeed then yes, put the kids in foster care and pray they survive to adulthood.
Pray the girls don't end up with predators who look for girls from broken families. Pray the boys don't end up in prison.
Otherwise, if you still have faith in yourself, make a plan, write it down and stick to it and just do it one day at a time.
"Where there is no vision, the people perish"
2006-07-21 08:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by Pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY TO SAY YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT OF THE STRUGGLES BEFORE YOU HAD SO MANY CHILDREN. BIRTH CONTROL IS FREE. WITH DOES MANY KIDS YOU WOULD PROBABLY QUALIFY FOR SOME KIND OF GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE WELL YOU TRY TO FIND A JOB
2006-07-21 08:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋