My husband and i have not been talking for weeks and today i had a job interview and he did not have sense to?

Question

call and say he could not make it to watch the baby.I had to call him for him to tell me he was not coming.what does this say to you.To me it states he don't care about my feelings

Answer 1

First of all ...Don't listen to HOTBarby, about how your husband doesn't give a **** about your baby. she is either a femininst ***** or just have prob with her bf / husband and decided to make enemies with all males in the word...

You and your husband haven't talked for weeks. He is mad at you, you are mad at hime, and both of you will wish to express this anger. Different people express anger it differently.

You guys didn't talk for weeks. He doesn't give a damn about your interview, and if it was him that had the interview you wouldn't have given a damn either (you would say i would, but most prob you anger would have blinded your common sense).

It is either you want to work on this marriage or you want to call it off. If you want to work on it, tell him to meet with you and talk together. Be reasonable with him, listen to him and then say what you have to say. While you are there, always remember that the world doesn't revolve around you and that there is always two sides to the story.

If he still acts as a prick, and insisted on fighting or sticking with his side of the story, call it off and sue his *** for child support and don't worry you wont die after you divorce him...

That mentioned, I am guessing that he is the one that is wrong...but if you are wrong, you have to go there, apologize and then c how it works....


if neither of you are wrong, which is the case most of the times, it is only a misunderstanding, you have to sit down together,as grown ups, and talk about your problemss..

him not caring about your feelings or your interview while you guys didn;t talk in weeks is acceptable...it is not the right thing to do,,but it is acceptable...

good luck, and hope everything works for the best....

Answer 2

Well, you start off by saying the two of you have not been talking for weeks, so why were you surprised that he didn't call? Apparently silence has been the recent norm.

Not speaking to each other, shows a lack of care about BOTH of your feelings...he doesn't appear to care, nor do you...you two need to sit down and talk and get things straightened out...

COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...nothing's going to be resolved until that happens...don't let his behavior hurt your feelings if you are participating in the same behavior...

Act like 2 people that care about each other and deal with whatever the problem behind the silence is...

Good Luck!

Answer 3

One thing to remember though that not talking IS communication and not the kind that is beneficial for your marriage. Isolation is so bad for a marriage and time together is good for it. I once heard that, in general men need to have their ego stroked and women like to feel secure in a marriage and that fights can be linked to that. Also that resolving differences comes from satisfying those things. If we as spouses tried to really serve each other like we're suppose to we wouldn't have as many issues, but we're all human too and that won't change. Still you can at least be aware of what the ideal is. Remember, you both have a baby, which is in living form a combination of both of you. Take care, no matter how much you don't want to don't isolate from each other, spend time together.

Answer 4

First off, the whole communication bit, that's not a good sign. Communication is ESSENTIAL for a good marriage. Obviously there are other things going on. And you two need to have a sit down and discuss what is going on in your home. Sounds like you two may be just constantly back and forth at each other (swapping licks persay). Whatever brought upon the non-communication, you two need to address it. In some ways I know how you are feeling (my husband -ex- ignored me for an entire week over something so foolish). So take him aside when you get home and you TALK to him. Don't talk at him, talk to him/with him. Best wishes to you!:)

Answer 5

u say u r not talking so there was some kind of a fight that lead to this silence ?? who made the fight ? who started it ? who hurt the other ? who was wrong ??
if the unswers of those questions is you then u should go and say i'm sorry o him cuz thats why he is treating u this way ,, cuz he is waiting for the sorry
but
if the unswer to the questions is him ,, then yeah ,,,it was unsensitive and uncaring of him to treat u this way ,,,
but
if u done wrong things and the past & he forgive u then its ur turn now to forgive him & be the good one and start talking to him ..
small words like goodmorning or goodnight will do ;)
and if the matter u r fighting about is silly ,then DON'T BE A CHILD both of u !!!! talk to each other..
this time ,,, u talk to him and clear things up ... show some love & u'll get love
goodluck ;))))

Answer 6

I think if you and your husband are not speaking, and this is YOUR interview, then YOU should have made prior arrangements to have a babysitter available to look after the baby.

Why would you expect your husband to a) remember that you had an interview when you haven't spoken in weeks, and b) know to be available to look after the baby and that you needed him to do so?

I think you need to take some responsibility and stop looking for another reason to blame your husband.

You may have completely legitimate reasons not to be speaking to your husband. I just can't see this as being one of them.

Answer 7

Is this a normal situation for you and your husband to not be talking for weeks? Sounds like you're only taking an issue with him not calling to let you know he couldn't keep his appointment. Perhaps, it's time to take a long and hard look at whatever caused you to stop talking to begin with. And very likely it is not "all his fault", either. It always takes two.

Answer 8

Look.If you want your marriage,then start communicating,it really is a disaster in any marriage to not talk,whether it is over something silly or serious,you should never go to sleep on it ,or it just festers,so go and talk to him now and remedy this insignificant little squabble, and tell him the good news and agree to never let things get like this again.

Answer 9

To me your right, he dosen't care about your feelings at all. He may have done that to get a reaction out of you. He has no resepct for you and only cares about himself or else he wouldn't have done that to you. Yall need to have a talk with each other. What he did was really inconsiderate. Ask him why he did that and why he's really not talking to you? Why aren't you talking to him and should you two work it out or just not be together anymore? You really need to think about it.

Answer 10

I'd say you have a bigger problem if you guys haven't talked for weeks. The other stuff is just smaller issues as a result of whatever has caused you to stop talking.