i am 23 yrs old and am seperated from my husband whom is 32. i recently found out he had been having an affair with a 34 year old woman (an affair that he had been carrying on a month b4 we married). we are now seperated because he wanted to pursue a relationship with this whore (and b/c she said she would'nt be with him anymore unless he seperated from me) and i am devastated. he even had the nerve to call me crying about everything ''he gave up'' when she dumped him to sleep with another guy and hes back with her the next day. i dont get it, this whore is 34 years old, extremely unattractive, sexually promiscuious, is an unfit mother and does drugs, i on the other hand am 11 years younger than her, college educated, very attractive, and have only had sex with one person-him my entire life. what i want to know is why he would leave me for someone so disgusting and why is it after all the hell ive been thru (moving out of my home, getting tested for stds) would i still love him?
2006-07-21 07:35:00 · 21 answers · asked by kt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She gave up the balloon knot and you didn't.
2006-07-21 09:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That I want to know why. I am 35 and if I married to you 23 and I should be the happiest man int he world and would share with one person and not want to be with no one and just you.
But he did everything before you were married wow ewww. and you are right about getting test for stds and other stuff for your health reason. and so he seperated because that woman told him to and he did and then now he not happy and crying want you back.. Hell no way... You are right you only had sex with one person with him your entire life. wow. you know that he knew what he doing and he blew it.
You are very well educated and smart and go on and don't look back... I love my wife more than anything the world and You know I dump her when we were girlfriend and boy friend and she was so nice to me and everything I dump her because Not use of her being to wow. than any other 30 ex GF who mean cheating stuff. I know that it took me 5 years for her to get back with me and I worked so hard for her to have her trust me and she did trust me again and I was so happy now we are married 9 years and have 2 beautiful children and I really enjoy it alot I thanks her for giving me second chance and we really love eachother alot. She is 34 and I am 35 smiling.
I do know that you are very attractive and smart and beautiful and you can find a guy like me out there somewhere that really show you how lucky that person to have you and share wtih you only no one else.
The guy well he learn the hard way and you are free you not need to do anything hard all you pack up and leave and know where to find right guy and really does love you .. smiling. I don't know if this 10 points really help but I like to share with you smilng.
2006-07-21 08:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has issues, and you may be getting your second chance at life. You are onlu 23 yrs old, and while I understand you love this man, it is obvious he has no idea what he wants. It seems that you have a pretty good head on your shoulders, I would suggest moving on before things get worse and he comes back only to give you some disease because the "whore" he was sleeping with gave him one...that and you do not have any children, it is much easier to get out now...good luck to you.
2006-07-21 07:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly she is giving him something you don't. I don't mean that in a sexual way. You sound like a wonderful person who deserves better. Maybe this guy is threatened by you and wants a woman that he has to take care. Where you sound like you can more than take care of yourself.
You still have feelings for him because he was your first sexual experience and us women tend to equate that with love; whereas men it's just means to an end(satifying themselves).
Kick him to the curb and find a real man.
2006-07-21 07:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by JenKat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because as women we give our heart and everything to our husbands.We love so much that we forget about our own happiness.Men always go after women who are ugly.She is nothing but a whore and home wrecker.If he want a whore let him have her you Will be a whole lot better. He will miss you and things you do.If he wants to chase that let him do it alone.He will reap what he sow.let him go please don't waste time trying to work something out that's a dead issue.When he calls don't answer stop being there for him.Change your actions towards him and watch him change.Good luck
2006-07-21 07:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well theres a perfect example of how stupid a guy can be. the problem is that guys dont think b4 they act. that whore did you a favor because you found out what kind of a dog you were married to b4 u wasted more years with him. i know its so very hard to move on when you love someone but you have to love yourself and not let any piece of crap like him treat you like that. he is not gonna change. you are always gonna have love for him but you have to understand that his behavior is not acepptable. you deserve a man that respects you. good luck and i hope that god gives you the strenght to move on and let that scum bag be.
2006-07-21 07:43:22 · answer #6 · answered by 2_good_2_be_true;) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly normal. Its hard to fall out of love even when you your spouse is dirt. The best advice i can give you is Move On. Take everything you can from your marriage, but move on. Dont let him back in because he will do it again and come back again. You dont need that crap. Find a person that will love you and be faithful. I wouldnt even take calls from him. Tell him he made his choice and now your moving on. In the long run you will be fine, he will be misserable!
2006-07-21 07:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by ally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong! Some men just can't seem to keep it in their pants. Maybe he was threatened by you, maybe he's insecure with his manhood, maybe he is just a JERK! Most guys don't cheat for the sex, it is usually the element of excitement, to exert some form of control or power (the power to hurt you,) to feel less responsbile, to try to recapture their youth, whatever, BUT YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!!!! I know it is hard, but try to remember that you have everything to offer a lucky man and this loser did not/could not see what you had going on! Get some counseling and try to pick up the pieces and move on!
2006-07-21 07:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by ambullmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't just turn your feelings on and off like a light switch, but just know that you deserve much better. Let him go be with this woman and try to get on with your life. You are still young and you will find the right guy, your husband is not the one.
2006-07-21 09:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate. My exhusband left me for a whore that he knocked up. she has no education, she isn't attractive, and she already had kids. But I think that guys always want something new and different especially if she makes him feel good. But you married him, of course you still love him. But remember that he hurt you, and would you trust him not to hurt you again when some new whore came along?
2006-07-21 07:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be cruel, but he may have left you because of your sexual inexperience. You said, she's a slut and he was your first and only.
Sounds like she's giving him something he needs. Heck, he was even willing to return after she gave it to someone else (and will again).
It's probably something you could learn how to provide. If you wanted him back - just tell him you're willing to learn. However, at this point you should forget about him and move on.
You sound very sweet and deserving of better.
2006-07-21 07:41:55 · answer #11 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋