i have a very good friend, she is very confuse and sad please help!! she married last year Nov. she said that her husband change alot since they got marry, his attitudes towards her change (I mean in bad ways) he does not pay attentions to her anymore, they do not go out anymore, he does not like her to go out with her friend (if she did, he will keep call her )
2006-07-21 07:29:31 · 12 answers · asked by xzhou11377 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she should have sex with him again.
2006-07-21 07:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by danzahn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married last March and have experienced some of the same feelings. It does change. I went to a marraige seminar a while back. The speaker explained that marriage has constant deaths so that it can have births. Stepping stones in a marriage create this death-birth feelings. When a couple goes to being married, birth of a baby, etc... The old has to be let go off so that the relationship can move onto the next. The people in any relationship have to cherish the past and create new memories. Being married is very different than dating. I have decided that our dating was awesome and I treasure the foundation. I do voice my concerns to my husband. He is very understanding and we do things to treasure the present. The present takes hard work which is not as fun as spontaneous dating. I tell my husband, I feel sad. I miss my boyfriend. He takes his wedding ring off and we forget about all responsibilities. We talk about how we fell in love and wanted to get married (reminise). Another very important thing we do is make dates. We still ask each other for a certain time on the weekend that we want to get together for a date. We set a time. I need to have a time to look forward to dressing up and being excited to go out with the boyfriend side of my husband.
Remember to cherish the exciting start you have had. It is still there; it is your foundation as a couple. Instead of focusing on what he no longer does for you (attention), focus on what you have to offer him (your attention). Take him away from all his distractions. Suprise him and get his attention. You can do it. You are his girl : ) Good Luck & Prayers are with you.
2006-07-21 07:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by CAT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 01:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first husband was like that he changed as soon as we said I do. He had pre been in the military got out went back in when we got married we movedout of state and it hit the fan nothing I did was good enough I wasn't allowed outside unless I had his permission it was horrible I took it for 2 years and finally left. It took me years to work thru the garbage he put me thru.
I'd suggest counseling(mine wouldn't go) it's a really tough situation will be praying for you all
2006-07-21 07:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by sshhorty2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a lazy BUM!
The reason some change is because they are so fed up with life and the dating and going out scene that once they have married someone, it is usually because they have "Settled"... which means, they don't marry because of love, because they are tired of dating and spending so much time talking.
Sad.
2006-07-21 07:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time to start talking to someone if hes not willing to sit down with her to talk about the change....I mean im hearing a one sided story here so maybe its best they both sit down with a marriage councilor ...I mean whats to loses......somethings got to be done,,, to young to live like that forever. Do something before a kid pops into the problem also.
2006-07-21 07:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by Twiggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he owns her now so whats the point in trying to impress her by being a good person when she is already stuck with him. now hes being the real him and there is no way hes gonna change! she needs to leave him before it is a abusive relationship
2006-07-21 07:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anton G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guilt concious leads to no accuser what is he actually doing he probaly believes in his mind he owns her now i know what it feels like i was out one night in 1 hour & 27 minutes i recieved 29 cell phone calls ntell her to stop it now its not love its the power he is getting high on telling her what to do i swear i went thru the same thing being dumb thinking oh he loves me this is why i have to explain all to him all the while he was the cheater & mental abuser
2006-07-21 07:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She married a loser.Probably he's doing something he don't suppose to.She should get other interest other than him.Have her appearance changed? Go shopping with your friend,tell her to get her hair done. He don't want her someone else will.
2006-07-21 07:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by glo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they didn't spend enough time dating!! She didn't get to know the real him!! HELP HER TO LEAVE!! Before its to late to. This is a really bad relationship and it has to end now before it ends in a way no one wants. It will get worse before it gets better. Hopefully it won't get to bad for her. I am hoping that she comes out alive and better off. THIS IS NOT LOVE!!!
2006-07-21 07:49:25 · answer #10 · answered by t77100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they didn't date long enough so she saw the "real" him.
2006-07-21 07:31:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋