We've only been married since June 3, 2006 but it seems like all he wants to do is play his stupid video game, hardly ever pays attention to me and never surprises me with anything or does anything sweet for me. I am depressed about it and to the point where I already know the rest of my life will be like this. I don't know if I should divorce him or stay and just put up with it.
2006-07-21 07:24:12 · 25 answers · asked by Courtney T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried to play the game with him, he doesn't like it when I play because I'm not as good as him and then he can't play "seriously"
2006-07-21 07:30:08 · update #1
Don't seem like you should have married this man. I can answer and say learn how to play with him. But it seems your issues are beyond the video games. Have you thought about getting an anaulment. (word maybe misspelled).
2006-07-21 07:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...lots to say. I can't believe divorce is a consideration. That's crazy. Don't be so needy. Get a hobby of your own. I have been married a week less than you and I am hoping that you know the guy you married. It can't be that he just started playing video ames right after the wedding right? Obviously if he's good at them he's been doing it for a while. Guys will be guys. Don't put pressure on him to do something sweet for you. I think you got married hoping for this fairy tale life. But married doesn't work that way. You've been married a VERY short time. Let him be himself. Maybe go out with friends. Be unavailable to him as he is to you and wait for him to miss you. He will and then he'll come to you. Just don't nag him and be so needy. Guys hate that. The rest of your life is a ll time. Don't think that it will always be like this. Get into something toether that you both can enjoy. Start a project. Good luck
2006-07-21 07:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by nicki_wants_to_play 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh! I know all about this! My husband will spend hours and hours playing video games, and I hate video games. In the past I have tried to play the games with him, but I just cannot get into it.
You should try suggesting other things to do together and let him know that this is hurting your relationship, if he loves you and sees you are hurt, he will more than likely stop. It won't be forever, but temporarily...my husband goes on video game binges..where he will play for a month straight every night after work and all weekend...and then he goes a few months without it...Just try making plans to do other things....
At this point, no reason for a divorce, but if he doesn't meet you half way, I would question it.
2006-07-21 07:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys with thier toys can be quite fun if you keep a sly smile on your face and dress up for Halloween and play trick or treat. Look at your hubby and he has a fascination with touching those buttons. I think if you put some sexy controls on and make him work to save the Princess (you) you will both get what you want. Make it interesting for both of you, be fun and funny. It can be a long drawn out fairlytale not "just" a sexcapade. For newlyweds that can work for a long time. Other times you will want him to play his other video games so you can have your space. Remember sometimes mentioning the men you met who were very pleasant to you keeps your boys on his toes. But don't do anything but smile and be relaxed if he does not like it or questions you. He then will try to show you how much better he is than any man you meet. Some people say it is playing games, I say it is part of survival to "enjoy" your life. Rememeber the world is yours if you keep a smile on your face and show no traces of the evil that lurks within :)
2006-07-21 07:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by martin m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY SINCE JUNE 3?? And you are worried about this?? Don't you dare divorce him over a stupd video game..
Chances are, since he is playing these games now, he was playing them before you got married. Hes a man.. thats what guys do. Yeah, its frustrating, but we women like to go get our hair done and stuff...thats similar to why guys like video games. It gives them a power trip..lol.
Anyway, talk to him at night when you go to bed together. Thats the best time cuz you will both we relaxing and winding down. Tell him how you feel like his games are taking up all his time andyou would like it if he would spend more time with you. Give him time to play his games and time to spend with you.
Choose (at least) one night a week that will be reserved for time to spend together. Go out to dinner or a movie, or just cuddle on the couch. Tell him this "love day" is only for the two of you, noone else, including his video games. If that doesn't work, consider going to counseling together. Accept his habits, but try not to let them bother you to the point of getting a divorce over them... Remember all the wonderful reasons why you married him in the first place! Good luck.
2006-07-21 07:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by sour_apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rest of yoru life won't be liek this. Eventually he will grow up. Why don't you give him a reason to get off the video like plan something for the two of you to do, or entice for a round of sex! Or maybe why don't you try taking an interest in his game. Me and my husband play as a team on the game that he likes best sometimes that way we can be involved in something together.
2006-07-21 07:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually know a couple that is just like that except they have been married a little longer. He plays video games all day long if he could, when he gets home from work, all night long until they go to bed. It would drive me insane and it does drive the wife insane. She asks him why and I think he's just bored because they don't have cable or anything, they can't afford it. But if my husband did that I would have to say something.
2006-07-21 07:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to fine a game that you like and play with him. If that don't work tap in to you manipulative female mood and get him to do what you want him to do. Word of warning don't get him off the game permanently a big mistake. Make sure you let him have his game time but almost get your time with him too. You married him for some reason try to get him to do this things you to did when you dated or was engaged. Good luck and have a happy marriage. And if he does not get off that game get some help from a Dr.
2006-07-21 07:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by captainccc2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling you are going through, my husband is the same way and the only solution that I
I can give you is that you can throw away all the video games or give them to charity. I went thru this phase with my husband it has improved some, but the best way to communication is to sit down and talk and to let him know how you truely feel about him not paying attention to you.
2006-07-21 07:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by Daisy C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
care about something too. something that you should do when he is done playing his games. let say: working out (leave in a sexy gear!!!) or spend more time with the girls or on the phone!! find a hobby that will take your time from him and when he brings it up: say" well, lets compromise: less video games, less of me doing this (whatever it is that you will pick) but dont make it become a war,. btw, never try to openly separate the MAN from his game (they think you are controling or boring!!!) have u tried to play with im?? those games ARE fun!!! it is a marriage, give the plastation a TRY!!!
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-21 07:30:45 · answer #10 · answered by dark_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋