I have a 10 month old baby boy. I know he's too young to understand this yet, but I want to start thinking about what I will tell him about my sexuality. Right now my gf and I don't live together, and I don't know if we will. I guess eventually at some point or another I'll live together with another woman.
How can I educate my child about this issue? What do I tell him? His father will be in the picture, but what do I tell him that mommy has a girlfriend? He needs to know someday and it worries me. Any advice?
2006-07-21 07:16:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I just told my daughter that there are families that have a mommy and a daddy,and families that have two mommies,or two daddies,or families that have only a mom,or only a dad,and families that children are raised by the grandparents. Then,when mine gets older,I'll go into more,but not when they're really young. Just let him know,that two people can love each other,no matter what sex they are.
2006-07-21 08:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to tell children about sexuality. When is it appropriate for straight people to explain their sex lives to their children. I don't think it is necessary.
Your child will eventually KNOW there is something VERY different about his/her mom. When that child is old enough to ask questions, then answer them honestly but age appropriately.
My nephew lived with me and my long term lover for most of his childhood. Sometimes his mom lived here, too, sometimes she didn't. He has addressed my bf as "uncle Robert" from the begining. The subject of our sex life never came up. He will be 17 this winter. I'm sure by now somebody has explained homosexuality to him and he probably has a reasonable idea of what gay people do in bed. He never learned it from me.
My opinion was that it wasn't and still isn't any of his business what goes on in my bedroom. If he ever asked me outright if I and uncle robert are gay, I would tell him yes, but I would NEVER indoctrinate him about it.
Honestly, I was more worried about explaining why some children are abused, why some children are neglected, why some children don't have parents that teach them how to behave, why some children have parents that can't get along... and why some people don't have manners, morals, or ethics.
I wanted him to grow up understanding how to get along in a horrible world and still be a good person, not about why uncle dusty and uncle robert sleep in the same bed.
2006-07-21 18:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should educate any child about love first and what loving someone really means. Then when she/he is at an age where they can understand then tell the child about sex and different sexual ways of being, just be truthful and ready for questions. Teaching your child to be open-minded, about love, and good are the most important things.
2006-07-21 07:47:44 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children must understand is that who ever it is that is his/ her family, they are loved and that never changes.
Be ready to explain why everyone in your family loves that child and do not justify why you are in your relationship. The child has no power to make that any different. You must separate your personal life and your goals from that of your child, at the same time, be ready to deal with questions, feelings and comments that you may feel will impede on your personal feelings. Answer them as a mother not a gay woman.
2006-07-21 10:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what Jesus would do. Rise him with love, stand up for things you believe and let him to make his mind about things. You can love somebody even if you are different. You do not have to accept things, but love endures forever. It is about free will. Our choices might hurt people and you might have to pay much bigger price for your choices than you are ready for, but love endures forever. You might not be with your girlfriend in future, but you will aways be the mother of your son...
You have a Father in heaven no matter how you feel about it.Take His advise, because He only wants what is the best for you. God loves you.
2006-07-21 07:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anything ever beats telling the truth...as much as your child is able to comprehend at any given age...I commend you on your parental concern/skills.
2006-07-21 07:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to introduce philosophy into his life now. Imagine how the world could be better if WE as parents taught our kids to think... I mean REALLY think. Not superficially but about the foundation of thought.........
2006-07-21 07:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by ronfschmidt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just treat it like any situation and tell him when you think he's ready that he has two mom, but also suggest to him that it's perfectly normal.
2006-07-21 07:32:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gf is in his life, there really won't be anything to explain. It will be perfectly normal to him. When he comes up with questions, as all kids do, just take each one as it comes.
2006-07-21 07:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a book called heather has two mommies... and a small series, you can try!
2006-07-21 08:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by kityjane2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋