Ex and I was together and broke up last week. Agreed to be friends. The break up was not one-sided but a mutual decision. Hemoving back to home state, but I had to tell him my period was late. He said if I was pregnant he would stay, I told him no I still wanted him to go back was I wrong? I will not be sure for another two weks when I get a blood test done, my uring test all came back neg, but dr told me it could be because it is too early to tell and my hormone levels are low.
2006-07-21 07:13:49 · 17 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He glot his old job back and starts on Monday. He has two teenage daughters in home state and that was the main reason for him going back because he missed them and we really did not like living together.
2006-07-21 07:24:59 · update #1
No it wasn't wrong to tell him to go home. When you find out whether or not you are pregnant you can tell him. I am sure if he was going to stay with you that he would make arrangements to be with you if needed, if that's what you both wanted.
2006-07-21 07:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doc is probably right about test. Home test measures level of hormone you produce when pregnant. Wait about 1 month after the missed period.
Staying together for the kid doesn't guarantee that you and ex-bf will magically start liking each other. Probably end up still breaking up after the child is born which will be even more traumatic. Sounds like you made the right decision.
One thing to know is if you are pregnant, your ex-bf will be involved in your life since he's the dad. Doesn't mean you have to be together.
2006-07-21 14:27:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sleepy Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be late due to all the stress of the breakup. The store tests are pretty accurate, so I would take another one before your blood test. To answer your question, "Was I wrong?", I don't think breaking up with him was wrong, but if you ARE pregnant, you will need his support, both physically, emotionally & financially. Not to mention, the baby need his daddy...That doesn't mean you have to get back together, but you need to be a "team" for the baby's sake. Good luck.
2006-07-21 14:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you said your period was late because you wanted some attention and deep down inside you don't want him to go. But, I can tell you from experience that just because you are pregnant it is not going to make the relationship better. It could only make it worse. If it is meant to be you guys will find your way back to each other whether you are pregnant or not. I was in a similar situation just let him go and everything will work out from there trust me because if it is true love he will miss you and he will eventually find his way back to your heart whether there is a baby or not.
2006-07-21 14:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Revea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, the trauma of an ending relationship is enough to throw your system off enough to delay or even skip a period.
Take a home pregnancy test. They don't lie very often.
Listen to your doctor, honey ... he's telling you the truth!
Oh ... and good luck on finding a guy with whom you match up better and can build a long-term relationship with!!
2006-07-21 14:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rob R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dont think your wrong, i really dont think its right either but its pretty much both of your decisions if you are he has the right to stay and he can make that choice to stay, you cant blame him for atleast staying for both of your child's sake. i think he's a good person to even ask if he should stay even before you both know the results. most men would have been gone along time ago and not even wondering "what if..." its really both your decisons and if you are pregnant from then on it will be both your decisions on what to do and how to figure how to raise your child. this is" what if" you are pregnant.
2006-07-21 14:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by ???? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a toughie. Remember: two sane separated parents are always better than a feuding couple. He can still be in your child's life (if that's the case) w/out you two getting back together. Good luck.
2006-07-21 14:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by mutterhals 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant and you are not gonna be together, then it is really up to him if he wants to stay.... How close does he want to be to his child? Does he want to be a part of the child's life??? Only he can make that kind of decision.
- But for the child's sake, I hope he stays...
2006-07-21 14:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by dk_angel2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel, if he is going 4 ever, u shouldn't ask him to go back. however, if he is going for a weak or two, its fine. cause if u are pregnant, u may need him, as an emotional & physical support.
2006-07-21 14:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by useless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you can take care of the baby alone ( if you are pregnant ) then you did the right thing.
2006-07-21 14:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋