what does it mean if your husband tells you that he knows a woman who offered to let him move in with her?

Question

He also says that she will split the bills 50/50 and
they can share everything,but later he says that it is all something he made up.Do men really make up things like this in order to make their wives jealous or could this be a sign he wants out?I own my own home.There is no rent to pay,
only bills.But he constantly bitches that he's broke and can't handle paying them.I am 49 and
he is alot younger but he constantly tries to force me to work but I just don't have the confidence to work.I am used to being a house wife.

The reason I don't work is because I have to stay at home or else I get accussed of being the cheater.I have to make all his meals perfectly or he will push it away and not eat and start whining.He has a reasonable amount of money stored in a vault at his mothers and doesn't want to pay bills because he's too worried about putting more money in the vault to buy crap for himself.I mean stupid stuff.And he never complains about giving money to his crackhead brother.And to those who may
think that I am a rich snob with the young husband,think again.My house is small and needs work.And he refuses to
fix the leaking roof in our bedroom which is a result from hurrican Katrina.

Answer 1

This guy is too immature and a terrible mooch.

Find the confidence to get him out of the house. If you have been a housewife, you have more skills than you are giving yourself credit for!!

If he is trying to manipulate you into working by threatening to go live with another woman, again, find the confidence to kick his butt out of your house.

There is someone who will respect and appreciate you--don't block that man's view by letting this idiot hang around.

Answer 2

Smells as though he wants to renegotiate the deal the two of you have by piling up evidence to support his "new" role but can't bring himself to say something along the lines of "I'm not happy with the way things are and I need . . . .
Men? Well, some are more devious than others and there is probably only one way to find out what's on his mind. And that's put the question to him. A couple of comments before you do. IF there is a big emotional charge on your question, he may not be able to tell the truth and will lie to keep from looking like a louse. Second, just remember that you got along without him before and you can again. In some business terms, it's called putting the turd on the table. You can't solve probelms unless you are rigorous in getting at the unvarnished truth.

Answer 3

I am 30 years old and feeling how you are feeling, I work from home, the home that I live in I own and I pay all the bills but my boyfriend complains about all the bills I pay when I need a little extra. My boyfriend do the same **** your boyfriend does. I thing he want to move on. I'm a good woman that take care of everything so why is he complaining? He want out and that is his cowardly way of doing so. Mine is still here complaining(I say he just need to move on but he know he will never find another me) but I will soon take care of that I will get a job so I can have the extra that I need. Just get a job and let him go. my confidence was low but I know it will get better and it will. We can keep in contact I will be your support and you can also help me. good luck

Answer 4

Sounds to me like he's sick of paying all the bills and is letting you know that if things dont change that he has other options. Is he lying about that ? I dont know. I once had an ex tell me an ex gf of his offered him a free car. At first I thought he only said that to make me jealous but later he was driving the car. It was an old piece of sh*t but it was real. I would say to your husband that since you own the house and there is no rent to pay, that is your 50% you have brought to the table. If he moves out with another women there will still be the same bills he pays now plus rent that he will have to pay half of. Sounds pretty even to me.

Answer 5

I love this - you don't have enough confidence to work. Oh, ok, well I don't have any desire to work but guess what - I'm there everyday. Oh, and I don't feel I should have to work - but I'm there everyday. Oh, and I just want to be a queen and parade around a big home, look pretty and do nothing because I can - but everyday I'm at work. It must be nice to use your lack of confidence as an excuse. I wish I could pull that one. This guy is cheating on you - he's probably 18 and your boy toy. How pathetic.

Oh God, I hope this doesn't injure your terribly tiny amount of confidence -- then you might not be able to get out of bed!

Answer 6

It's hard to say if it's true or not. However, it does sound like he wants out. Go see an attorney and get the goods on what your rights are and what you'd have to give him in a settlement. Then let him know that you can take him or leave him. Indifference is the absence of emotion (but it takes some work). Then see how he reacts. The one who loves the least has the most power. Even if you have to pretend, don't give him all that power! And DON'T lose what you've worked hard for!

Answer 7

Your husband may be seeking attention. Sometimes, if you get bored in a relationship, a man can get theatrical in order to get more attention. You might want to see if it is just 'attention seeking' or something beyond that.

He can't ***** at you about bills. You own the house. Just ask him how much he paid in rent this past month.

Men are strange people - myself included - but trust your instincts and be forthright. Check out what he really wants from his life and your relationship.

Answer 8

You're 49, which means the kids are pretty much grown and gone. He works to support you both while you sit at home and do essentially nothing? Your excuse of lacking confidence is just that, an excuse. He wants a woman who wants more out of life than housework.... ambition, drive, hope for success....
If his story isn't true, it will be.

Answer 9

Helloooooo..... not to sound mean,but were you just born this morning? What does it mean? It means you need to toss his a** out to the curb ! Why would someone in love with you want to taunt you with something that is capable of breaking your heart? Read him the "riot" act !

Answer 10

no they don't make up things like that. sounds like confidence is something he's taken away from you.

if you own the home let him move in with her - then get a job and file for divorce. not necessarily in that order.