Well for starters he isn't that type of person that is violent or anything but he doesn't like me wearing anything that's too revealing or even going to places alone, he's told me he really doesn't want anything bad happening to me but I don't understand why he doesn't trust me, I mean I feel that he behaves that way because there's not enough trust from him towards me? What can I do? I've spoke to him about it but he continues behaving that way on the other side I trust him enough to let him go to other places and I trust him enough to let him wear what he wants!
2006-07-21 06:55:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My guy did this too. You need to pay more attention to him, give him lots of love. Make him feel like he's the only guy in the world. He needs to feel special and important to you. After a while he won't be afraid anymore - trust me.
2006-07-21 06:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by plenymo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure. It can escalate into something worse, or it might not. The more insecure he feels, the more controlling he may get. You can try boosting his ego. You can try telling him you want to dress in a way that makes you look good (I'm not sure what you're definition of "too revealing" is...it may be trashy; it may just be nice-fitted skirts and tops with pretty heels to him). You probably need to gently suggest seeing a counselor about trust. Don't make it about HIS insecurity. Make it about mutual trust. Tell him you want to grow stronger, and don't bring up the clothes. You can confide (and yes, you should be able to do this) in the counselor alone about what propelled you into his/her office. Work on his ego and getting help. As my partner says "Men aren't that bright. And we're senstitive and insecure." I am not saying it...he is!
2006-07-21 07:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that he doesn't trust you....he just doesn't trust the rest of the world around you. Funny thing is, my husband and I just talked about this last night and this is what he had to say:
He said that he loves me so much he is afraid of losing me. He gets jealous not because he feels I will cheat, but more or less that he is not the 100% focal point in my life. He is afraid that I will find something that I enjoy doing more by myself then with him.
2006-07-21 11:42:20 · answer #3 · answered by trgger23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend was like that at first. So I stopped wearing the revealing clothes (because he made a valid point that I'm teasing the men and not pleasing them, they might just rape me to get pleased), but I also told him that I'm not a china doll that needs to be constantly supervised.
My advice to you would be take some self defence classes so you could tell him that you could take care of yourself.
2006-07-21 07:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My man is that way too.I think it's because he's afraid of losing you to some freak that decides he wants to knock you in the head and rape you cause your by yourself,and the clothing thing,mine is bad about that.if it's too low it's a "no".He tells me it's because he don't want men gawking over what is his "so to speak",but I don't think it's a trust issue unless you've cheated on him in the past or came close to it.
2006-07-21 07:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by oldschool_southern_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You trust him because you are secure in your relationship. You have faith that he won't cheat or leave. He, on the other hand, doesn't. Believe it or not, it has less to do with you and more with himself. He lacks confidence in his ability to keep you interested. He thinks you might find someone else's offer more appealing. Assure him of your feelings and help him feel more secure.
2006-07-21 07:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't ant some guy to come along and steal you away.....or rape you.....though it is not your fault, and you should be able to wear anything you want....guys don't see it like that.....they will come on to you....and even some will pressure you.....and on a very rare occasion, someone will follow you and rape you. Never think it is you he does not trust.....it is the guys that you will see and will see you.......they are a bigger threat than your trust.....
2006-07-21 07:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i feel bad for you i was in a relation ship like htat very posesive it end it up me being beat up and going to court s orders of protection you need to lay down the law couse if you dont it will get worse
2006-07-21 07:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by hot maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are the sexiest woman on the planet and he is just a sorry asses loser. Doesn't want you to suddenly wake up from that coma you are in and dump him.
2006-07-21 07:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is his own insecurities. He is afraid of losing you and he thinks if you dress like that you might get another offer. Try to explain to him you love him and like to look good for him. It is his prob not yours, but try to make him understand how it makes you feel.
2006-07-21 06:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋