What should I do?

Question

I've been broken up with my son's mom for over 6 months and I'm dating this new girl for a couple of months and I'm reall starting to like her.. Now my ex want to be a couple again.. Should I go back and leave the girl i'm with now or should I stay with her? What would be the right thing? And how should I go about it?

Answer 1

you broke up with your son's mother for a reason, if you can be a father to your child without having to be a couple with the mother, then stay with your current girlfriend especially if you really like her and she makes you happy, your child's mother is going to be in your life forever whether you guys ever become a couple again or not....

Answer 2

What's best for your son might not be what appears obvious. Don't renew your relationship out of comfort or to save money. It's simply the wrong thing to do. You and your ex broke up for one or more reasons. Have these issues been addressed? How likely are they to manifest again? Are there any trust issues (traditionally the most difficult to overcome) between you? If the answers are all positive then holding together your family is what's best for your son. If not, then time may help resolve some issues, but with a son to raise you'll already have your hands full. Since the die has already been cast and your son's life has already been affected, why not move on? By starting over and making a life for you and your son you can be a successful father as well. This can also be what's best for him. Although I don't know you, I always think people take too few chances when striving to achive happiness. Also, I recommend that you always stay cordial towards your ex as you lives are forever tied together. Who knows, you may end up with a friend who knows you better than most and can provide sage advice when needed, but she'll need to be settled and have found someone else to get to this point. Until then there may be a few arrows slung your way. Just be a man and absorb instead of retaliate or you may overextend this period of instability. Focus on the goal and you'll get there quicker. Know that in the long run a stable relationship with your ex is what's best for your son. Whatever you do, AVOID AT ALL COSTS sexual relations with your ex to make this choice work. Hope you make the right call...for your son more than anything.

Answer 3

I've seen this situation over and over again. Girls just can't stand to see the ex happy and in love with someone new. It drives them crazy and they nearly always try to make a comeback to get rid of the new girl in the guys life.

Don't allow your ex to get over on you. You have the upper hand right now. You have moved on and you have a chance to be happy with someone new. Keep your pride and respect and carry on with your new girl.

Think about the problems that you had before you broke up. They are not going to go away. Your child will not be happy living in a home with two people who are together for the wrong reasons. It almost never works when people try to stay together for the child. I know so many people who divorce in their 40's and 50's, as soon as the last child is grown and gone. It will be much easier for you to start over now, while you are young. It will be much easier on the child, too, since he's not old enough to know the pain of divorce.

My husband and I had so many loud arugments when my son was small. I have so much guilt about bringing a child up in a household with so much anger. Your son would be much better off visiting you and your new wife or girlfriend in a happy, stable relationship than living in a home with parents who are not happy.

Because you have a child together, you will always have to have a relationship with your ex. Don't let her get in the way of your new relationship, though. As you have said, you have to make a decision. If you stay with your new girlfriend, work hard to let her know that you have no interest in your ex. Take her with you when you go pick up your son so she will see that there is nothing going on between you and your ex. When you go to pick up your son, call ahead and ask her to have him ready so that you don't even have to go inside the house.

Since your are still vunerable to your ex's advances, it would be best if you were not alone with her. I'm sure that friends and family would be more than happy to help by doing things like riding with you when you go pick up your baby for visits or staying with you during the visit if you don't take the baby out for the day.

Don't allow a jealous ex to mess up your chance to have a happy future with someone else. You'll get over her soon. Not many things are more powerful than an ex dangling hot sex in front of you. She knows your weaknesses and she will do anything it takes to get her way.

Keep your self respect. She'll most likely dump you a few weeks after you went back to her anyway(after she gets rid of the girlfriend). It's one of the oldest tricks in the book where we women are concerned. Don't allow her the chance.

Answer 4

If you really like this girl and she has given you no reasons to quit the relationship, don't quit it. As for the ex, tell her no thanks, you're happy with where you're at right now in life and you will always be there for your son but this is a no-go with you and her.

Answer 5

Better join your broken up, for your son's sake at least, or moreover, your ex's also want, Y not U ? Afterall, it's upto U, It's your life.

Answer 6

exactly. you broke up with your son's mom for a reason, dont look back. stay with ur new girl! best of luck. =)

Answer 7

that is up to u and how you feel about both of them the main ?is why did u break up with the baby momma in the first place that should answer your ? for u

Answer 8

go back with your ex for your son's sake.