For women only!!!!?

Question

What would you think if your husband didn't come home when he was suppose to and you ask him where he has been and he tells you that its none of your business or just totally ignores you, what would you think? Be honest please

Answer 1

geez, sorry I can't keep myself from answering this question even though I'm not a woman. Why is this for women only? Are men not qualified to answer? Do you think men are stupid and don't understand women's issues?
First of all, it IS your business. Everything that he does and he has belongs to you as much as everything that you do and have belongs to him. This privacy stuff is a bunch of baloney.
However, I would be careful about nagging him about disclosing things to you if he doesn't want to. What I would do is keep my mouth shut and my eyes and ears open. If he has something to hide, he may get rough with you, so be careful and don't let him know you are suspecting something.
For some men, talking works, but I have a feeling that this type of man you're better off not talking to if he doesn't want to answer a simple question, the answer to which you're entitled to.
If you find out he is messing around, leave. Don't waste your time with that kind of man who doesn't respect you enough to tell you the truth. If my wife wants to know what I've been up to, I will never hide anything from her. (Unless I'm trying to surprise her... and even then, I would hide it from her in a nice way not "None of your business".

Answer 2

Regina, I am going through this as we speak!! My husband comes home from 'work' 8 to 10 hours later. I have no idea where he is or has been. He says he is an adult and doesn't need to explain his where abouts to anyone. He ignores me and doesn't talk to me at all. This has been going on for years. So this week I told him there is no more hope for us. I have been in touch with an attorney and have spoken to 2 paralegals who have given me some good advice. By the way, I have been married 38 years. I have wanted to leave for 15 years. My initial thought was to stay till my kids finished high school. But now my last one is in her last semester of college !!!
So don't wait like I did. It will never be a good time to tell him. You might want to speak with an attorney first to weigh your options, especially if you have children. Best of luck to you and email me if you'd like to chat.

Answer 3

Honestly, if he has never done this before, something is definitely not right. Maybe you could try talking to his friends to find out what is wrong or where he went.
You need to let your husband know that you must be able to trust him if he wants to maintain your marriage. The home is not a hotel where he could come and go as he wishes. He should be responsible and accountable for his actions.

Answer 4

Is this common behavior with your husband? I would advise you to try again to talk to your husband in a calm non-accusational way. If he continues to shut you out and be dismissive, I think your next logical step is to talk to a counselor of some kind. It will be helpful for you to speak to a unbiased knowledgable source.( I know this from experience) A little digging around may also give you some insight too. Lastly, listen you your gut. If you feel like something isn't right it probably isn't.

Answer 5

Tell him striaght up that you would like to know whats up and if nothing then go out and do something when hes home and be gone for awhile then when you come home and he ask you where you have been just give him the same responce that he gave you...lol

Answer 6

Most husbands would be willing to give an explaination for being late unless he is hiding something from you. I'd go back to him and demand an explanation of his where abouts. If he is smart butt with me this time, I'd probably go off on him. If he loves you, he will apologize and tell you where he was. Don't settle for this kind of disrespectful attitude from him.

Answer 7

It sounds like to me that he is hiding something from you. Does he expect to know where you've been? Or it could be that he is just looking for some "him time" & could be hanging out with his buddies. If it just a recent thing, I'd talk to him about it-soemtimes men don't feel like "the man" & go through spells where they seperate themselves from their significant others. If this has been going on for a long time, then there might be more to it either way it's time to find out what's going on.

Answer 8

Something is not right, honey. Not only is he disrespecting you by telling you it is none of your concern, which, in fact, it is, but he definetley is hiding something. I feel horribly for you, I know these things can make a person feel completly hurt and helpless, but if he doesn't shape up, for your sake and sanity, leave.

Answer 9

I would think that he was cheating, and I would not put up with that kind of behavior. I would demand a proper explanation, and tell him that that **** isn't going to fly with me. But nicer than that because I am not good at being mean. I hope that you work things out.

Answer 10

this is never a good thing. one he could be cheating. two or might be planning something that he does not want you to know about. if he does not want to tell you. be a bit smarter and leave it alone for the time being. and then in normal conversation bring it up casually. or if not ask his friends or even his friends wife.