I am pregrant olny 20 and my family is mad and i am very happy and so is my bf we have been together for 5 years and i am excited should i keep the baby and do you think i will have problems taking care of my baby?
2006-07-21 06:45:19 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
20 is not too young. If you two have been together that long and you are happy about the baby by all means keep it. Don't give your child away just to make someone else happy. Once the baby is born your family will come around.
2006-07-21 06:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if your family is mad! You are 20 years old and been with the father for a few years. You are grown!! What is your sitution? do you work does daddie work? do you stay with you parents? would you be able to live with your boyfriend? You should have any problems if you are mentally ready for this. if you don't think you are then take a few classes for new parents, research online things you aren't sure about, ask other people advise (like you are now) Just because you are 20 doesnt mean you will have problems taking care of you child. I was preggo at 20 and had zero problems, thats how I know! Good luck
2006-07-21 13:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 20 years old not a teen parent, your family should be happy/ You and your boyfriend are happy and excited that's all that matters, you are your own boss. I think your family is being sefish your an adult. Have you spoke to your boyfriend about marrige? If yu have been together that long and now are having A child, maybe you should think about a small wedding. I hope everything works out for you, BE EXCITED you are going to be a mommy. It is up to you rather or not to keep you baby. Just think you now have your own family. But if you don't feel better about your family not being excited than talk to them with your boyfriend by your side about why they are mad, disapointed or about there feelings. I hope everything works out. With all of my love and incourgement I wish you all the best and god bless you all
2006-07-21 13:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by mommy2faithat19#3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be 20 in a couple of months and I think if I was in this situation I would keep the baby. If you and your honey are happy that's all that matters. So your family will be mad but wait until you bring this bundle of joy in the world they'll forget about how mad they are and embrace your child. It just takes time.
2006-07-21 13:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by CPSweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider getting married (no wedding, just a very small ceremony--you've jumped past the normal order of things....)
If you are able to care for the baby and yourself financially, then you are an adult and your family can mind their own business if they won't celebrate with you.
If you are expecting them to continue supporting you AND your baby, then you are sadly immature and they have every right to be upset.
A baby doesn't change anything, it changes EVERYTHING. And, there is no guarantee of the perfect, healthy, calm baby. Even a kid with normal sniffles and ear aches can run you ragged.
As long as you are ready to put every other aspect of your life as a lesser priority, you'll be fine.
2006-07-21 13:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES!!! that is your baby! and if you want to keep it then DO!!!! you are 20 honey. I hade 2 by the time I was 20 and thay are 4 yrs apart. I am still very succesful and went to collage and every thing. Dont you EVER let NE one ,family or not, tell you what to do with your body and your baby. Happy you should be!!! I am happy for you. And if thay cant be happy then avoid them till the baby is born. that will change every thing thay feel!!!
2006-07-21 13:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 23 when I had my first child. My family and I weren't on speaking terms and the thought of not having my daughter did cross my mind. The long and the short of it is, your family will come around and support you in the end. Also, your family being angry with you should have no bearing on whether you can take of your child. If having this baby is what you really want to do, you will do everything possible to take of him/her.
2006-07-21 13:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Pstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart. Once that baby is born your family will not care anymore the love will flow Be happy because you are about to see a miracle happen when that baby is born
2006-07-21 13:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to look at it from your parents prospective. I can see if they are upset if they have strong thoughts on marriage before or what not. But everyone is right. You're not a child and you will totally regret if you get rid of it. Just make sure you give that baby all the love and attention it deserves.
2006-07-21 14:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by glassflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your 20 .. and you have a good job and you can take care of the baby well then of course you should keep the baby.. have fun ... it really doesn't matter what your family thinks if you love the baby keep it... good luck =]]
2006-07-21 14:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by MILKCHOCOLATE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋