little gay brother?

Question

I have a lil brother who bi sexual. Now he says that he likes girls but ever since he told me that not one girl have called or came over or nothing, he does not even talk to girls just guys all the time. He does lie to me sometimes but I dont know what I should believe. I think he just like guys but is embarrassed to tell me. But im dont care who he likes just as long as he's happy and he thinks when i say that that im playing and he just does not believe me.

my little brother is 15

Answer 1

ewww

Answer 2

Surprising to see so many negative responses here, on YA, in this day and age. Oh well. Anyway, depending on how old your brother is, it shouldn't matter to you what he is. If you love your brother, and have a good relationship with him (and, really, even if you don't) he's still your brother, and everything about him makes up the person that he is, sexual preference included. Now, if your real concern is that he's afraid to tell you flat out, or you feel he should trust you to not care, then that's something you guys should discuss, but only if he wants to, and feels comfortable discussing it with you. Don't force the conversation for your own satisfaction, or peace of mind.

Answer 3

If you let him know you're supportive no matter what, then IF he's gay he'll come out eventually. I DO know of people that have come out as bi as a transition, but at the same time, I've also known bisexuals who kind of...waiver. Like, they'll be about 70% attracted to males for awhile, and then about 70% attracted to females for awhile. Maybe he's either not dating (there are a lot of 15 year olds who don't date that much) or else on a male swing. I'd say don't worry about it.

Answer 4

Try and talk to him again. Sit him down and tell him you have something serious to say. Let him know that you love him and will support him, no matter what his sexual orientation. Let him know that IF he chooses to confide something personal in you (if there is anything to confide), he can trust you not to tell your parents or his friends. And, be ready for the possibility that he really is just bi, or that he may not be ready to tell others because he may not be fully comfortable with himself yet. It could be that he is still trying to figure out his sexuality for himself, and therefore is not ready to deal with other's questions yet. And, if he asks you to, drop the subject and don't pester him about it. If he knows you're supportive, he'll know he can come to you when he's ready Make sure that if you do things like say "that's gay!" if something is stupid, you stop. That could send him mixed signals, since you SAY you are supportive, yet you use derogative terms. Good luck to you and to him!

Answer 5

It is not uncommon for a younger gay man to say he is bisexual, as he may think you'll accept that better than if he admitted to being gay. He also may be confused, and not even realize that he's pursuing only males, as he may still have thoughts about female celebrities from TV or movies, or models in magazines. Let him adjust to whatever he is in due time. Labels are such a fuss. Label him "brother" and don't worry whether he's gay or bi.

Answer 6

He's probably gay or girls arent interested

My lil bro is gay too and it was the same way... after a while, you get labeled a gay even if you're bi, and girls dont want anything to do with 'em

Either that or he's confused and trying to figure himself out

Answer 7

What's wrong with you as and older sister sitting down with your bro and having a serious heart to heart with him.You need to let him know off the back that you have his back reguardless and it does'nt matter if he likes boys,girls whatever and tell him his happiness is what's important to you.Tell him you will always have his back and it's not important to tell anyone right now but when he is ready you will be there with him for moral support.Goodluck hey that's not so bad at all just think it could be something alot worse.

Answer 8

It sounds like you've got it all figured out, Shay. Many people claim to be bisexual because they think that is more acceptable than being 100% gay. He may be bisexual, but you just as well may be right. Give him time and space. If he doesn't come clean about it on his own but does eventually appear to be gay then that gives a little something to beat up on your little brother with when he's 30 and living with his husband! ;-)

Answer 9

He can turn this around. Encourage him to say no to the gay lifestyle. Don't you want some neices and nephews and a sister in law someday? Is there a man in your lives who can sit down and talk to him about being a man? Keep talking to him, girl. It is hard to be a big sister, but coming from one big sister to another, it is sooo important that you never give up talking to him. He does listen and what you say goes a long way. Don't just accept him being gay. Try to comfort and guide him.

Answer 10

Love the half *** hater response.

I have a gay brother, he is my baby brother (well now hes over 21)
He is the most amazing person, lovable, funny, smart can fix a car in a few minutes or a computer. It doesnt matter who he loves or whether its a man or a woman. It doesnt change him. I support him, I love his partner he is amazing.

The people who tell you otherwise are ignorant freaks. Love is Love and it shouldnt be messed with.

Trust me, god loves everyone and he loves anyone that has the capacity to love another human.

Give him your undying support love him, and remember hES STILL YOUR BROTHER.........the same one you have picked on, beat up, had fun with, and lived your childhood with......

thats the most important.

Answer 11

It's a pretty good bet that he is gay, but telling you he is bi-sexual to make it easier to deal with.

What you've said is sweet, but you're telling the wrong people. Tell your brother. If he doesn't believe you, make him. Let him know you will love him no matter his sexual preference. Tell him that he's your brother and you will love him forever. Make sure he realizes that you mean it.