ok heres a question for all you who work hard trying to be an equally active participant at home and at work. What do you do when your boss demands all of your time as well as your family? What do you do when you can't seem to find an happy meduim between the two?
2006-07-21 06:18:53 · 29 answers · asked by Sxyblkdiva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've got to decide how much time for each. Before you're involved in it. Like telling your boss, "starting next month, I won't be able to work more than X hours a day (or week) because I need to focus more on my family". Most bosses are actually more understanding of family situations than we give them credit for. And if they don't? I'd be looking for a different job.
2006-07-21 06:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boss to f* herself. Just because she's a bitter old single b* doesn't mean she has to ruin your family life. Uh...well if you want to get fired anyway. Otherwise I'd probably just offer an hour or two of OT every other day and remind the b* that you have familial obligations. A little lying would help too. You can tell her your husband is very ill, or out of town, or better yet, tell her he's deployed. If that b* doesn't give you any sympathy for that, then tell her she's an uncaring, unpatriotic, piece of s* that should be given to Al Qaeda. If the demands are excessive you can also go to HR.
2006-07-21 13:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by practical thinking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing more important than family and there are always other jobs. Sure, once in awhile it is ok to work extra to get the job done but when your extra work becomes just a part of the job it is time to put an end to it. All the money in the world can't replace the time your loosing with your family. My rule is I work 8 - 5 and that is it. I don't take my work home, I don't check my work phones or email when I'm home.
2006-07-21 13:24:11 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a job is a job. If you say you can't leave the money, then maybe you have too much STUFF (too big of a house, satellite tv, cell phones, cars). Maybe living a simpler lifestyle means you could find another type of work and be home more. Your first responsibility is to your family. Even if the job you work for pays peanuts, there are plenty of other jobs like that in the world.
Check your job description. If it says you will be forced to work mandatory overtime, or travel so much, then you can't really help that, but if no mention of this is made, then you just have to find the guts to say "NO" to your boss and accept the consequences.
2006-07-21 13:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're probably going to have to choose one or the other. depending on your occupation, you may be able to sit down and discuss this problem with your boss. you should also sit down with your family and discuss your situation to them as well. when i was younger my parents worked very hard for the family, and so my sisters and i picked up on the things at home to balance things out. ive been cooking dinner meals since 6th grade and now im a super cook ! i know it can be hard, but never lose hope in what you do, family or job wise. good luck !
2006-07-21 13:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Crissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple "What Do You Want". Well maybe not so simple. I know what you talking about I've been there. My job at times is terrible sometimes I couldn't imagine it being any worse, but in the same my kids do way to much we had to cut some of there activities sometimes kids do to much. My daughter was into Cheer-leading, Dance, Soccer, Basketball, Band you name it she did it and it caused stress for us as well as my daughter was starting to stress, we cut it down told her to pick one and focus all her energy into that 1 activity now it's not nearly as bad as it was, we now actually have dinner at night together something we haven't done in a couple of years. Everyone seems happier.
2006-07-21 13:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by The Pooh-Stick Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I have a husband a 3yr old and 6 yr. old. I told my boss that I work a 40 hour week and the rest of my time belongs to my family.
I did and always will choice my family first.
2006-07-21 13:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess,there are only 2 reasons why you feel the way you do about your work,1st when u are not enjoying your work n you feel it obvious when you are expected to do certain things n 2nd is when your boss is genuinely very upsetting.
so you need to sit and find out the real reason behind you feeling so and work on it accordingly.
about family,no one can take away that from you.you have to be professional enough and make sure that you fininsh all your work in your working hour so that you are not required to wait back......or things like that.
still if you feel things are'nt working,just look out.....there are better options out there.
2006-07-21 13:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job that doesn't demand so much of your time. You may not make as much money but your family needs YOU more than the money. Kids grow up so fast, don't miss this precious time with them!
2006-07-21 13:29:22 · answer #9 · answered by littlebec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him/her the family is very important...and if he/she wants the job to be better, then there has got to be time with the family.....if that is not good enough, then you will have to quit, and you really prefer not to do that.....but when it comes to family and job? there has got to be a happy center......then go and try to find another job....that will see it your way....keeping the job you have as long as you can
2006-07-21 13:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋