Now i contacted the girl to get the truth cuz i knew he was lyn to me about his where abouts and y he was spending so much time with this particular friend.He was meeting this girl at his friends house, they've kissed but never had sex, he told her we werent together over a month ago. da last time he seen her was a week ago and i found all this out because she called his phone and i saw the number and called it back on my phone. she said she was calling to tell him bye cause she knew he was goin out of town, which was with me to VA. Now I've changed my number and broke it off, am I over reacting if they didnt have sex? I know Im not but i would like get others opinions!
2006-07-21 06:03:42 · 14 answers · asked by foxzie006 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't think you're over-reacting at all. You have to realize you are having a baby and you don't want the baby to be born into a dysfunctional home? Be civil to him because you are having his child, but you need to realize that a relationship with him isn't going to be healthy for the baby. That is what you need to worry about.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, what a jerk! But I guess you can see their true colors now, it's better you ditch him now then once the baby is born. That way its less traumatic for the child.
2006-07-21 06:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by Modern_Monroe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way honey - this guy cheated on you with another girl, knowing that you were pregnant! this should be a time when he is most caring towards you. if you do take him back, how do you know that hes over this other girl, he might just go back to her! but whatever you do, keep the baby but remember to get a babysitter in some nights and get out and about - there IS another guy out there for you! good luck!
2006-07-21 06:18:20 · answer #2 · answered by beckyzbonkers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am six months along my dear, so I can relate. Do you want to be with your ex or are you just upset? I can imagine that you probably want to have a family together. Just remember guys don't always get it. Try not to get yourself too worked up, because it's not good for you or for the baby. You need to make a decision about what you will and what you will not accept in this relationship. What kind of a man do you want to be a husband to you and a father to your child? Pray about it, because Jesus cares so much about the big things as well as the little things in our lives. He will help you to forgive your ex, because you don't need to continue a relationship with bitterness. Just remember that we all fail and make mistakes, but God is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and to cleanse us. Only in Him can you have success and blessing in your realationship and in your marriage. Concentrate on being a good mother to your baby, have patience with your ex, and give the rest to the Lord. Check out Tommy Nelson(on line) he has some awesome Cd's about relationships-no matter where you are now. It may be good for you to listen to them first, and if your man wants to step up and make things right, he will listen to them, too. May God bless you and your family!
2006-07-21 06:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Loo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! You should stay away from this creep. Even if they didnt have sex (which u may not know for sure) he still cheated on you. And if trust is not there, then u have nothing. Sorry u have to go through this while you are pregnant but its better to go ahead and get him out of your life.
2006-07-21 06:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by momma2jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
foxzie, your concern now is to take care of the child. You need to stay healthy and not get depressed over some idiot who does not know what real commitment is. When the baby comes, focus on raising a vibrant, healthy child who knows love by being that example to the child. Focusing on some guy who couldn't commit and doesn't know the meaning of maturity is not healthy for you or your child. I wish you well.
2006-07-21 06:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by gratifythespirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no your no longer over reacting, do no longer take him decrease back! do you quite believe that they didnt have sex? shes mendacity to you, and so is he. do you pick him to carry you living house an std? he should be spending time with you you're his pregnant gf, no longer his stupid a$$ acquaintances. im sorry yet im pissed 4 u. it upsets me that those adult males are such doggs, he quite has some nerve. i understand its not basic because your pregnant yet you need to be solid on your unborn toddler, in case your bf is doing that to you at the moment who's conscious how lengthy hes been doing it and hes no longer gonna change. dont take him decrease back in spite of you do! good success!
2016-12-06 02:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by anteby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets be real, your exboyfriend is not going to tell you everything. the best advice i can give you is call your doc. or on your next vist tell her that you would like a std's test done and explane why. the reason i am telling you this is because you dont want anything to go wrong with your pregancy. just rember that he cheat on you so he did not tell you everything from the begining. what else did he do.
2006-07-21 06:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. If you forgive him he will think he will be able to get away with it again. Stand up for yourself, BUT make sure you take him to court for child support. Most states now garnish right out of their paychecks.
2006-07-21 06:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and see where he's at on
this one. Your clear on what you want. Having a child
is a wonderful experience and something that can be
scary for men at times. Listen to what his feelings are too.
Be clear on your relationship and see where it takes you.
Taking time for your self is good. Consult with a good
friend who knows you can ease your stress.
2006-07-21 06:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by tychi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just b/c they say they didn't f#ck, don't mean they didn't. You aren't overreacting, but make sure you get child support and let him visit the kid. If he doesn't want to see the kid, or if he hurts the child it is okay to stop visitation, but do not let his cheating be the reason father and child can't visit. The child will resent you when (s)he gets older.
2006-07-21 06:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋