My bf is an *** ok, yesterday was my b-day and he didn’t do anything! He called me around 11am and said I am calling from work because I cant call out from my phone and he said happy-b-day and he said he will call me later so I said ok and hung up, so he called me again and said so what time are u going to see me today, and I was kind of mad and I said who said I was going to see u and he said so I will talk to u later then ok bye. So I felt bad and I called him around 5 pm and I said how are u and he said call me back in a little bit and he hung up on me, so I called him back he said I am on my way to Wall-mart to get some food so call me back in an hour since I cant call u and he said talk to u and bye again. So I got so mad I cried and cried and this morning I expect him to call me, he didn’t even bather, I my stupid, I my sick? I love him so much but he just don’t care about me or I my expecting to much I my over reacting?? So if he calls me and ask me to go somewhere today should I go what should I say?? Please help me, somebody
2006-07-21 05:35:13 · 20 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok Honey, first let me tell U that the choice is ALL Urs as to whether U stay with guy or not. No one can tell U what's best for U, what works for some people doesn't neccesarily mean it will work for U.
But here is my take on Ur situation. Do with it what U want.
First of all, it was Ur Birthday and he basically blew U off like it was Nothing. What kind of person that cares about U would do a thing like that?
It was Ur Birthday therefore he could have make that he SHOULD have been ALOT nicer to U. He just treated Ur birthday like it was any other day, instead of Celebrating the day U were born and if NOTHING else being with U.
The only gift he gave U was silence. Think about that.
I don't feel that U were overracting if ANYTHING U have under reacted. This guy doesn't give a rats a.s.s. about U.
He acted like U were distracting him from something more important. How did that make U feel????
I'll bet if U think back U will remember several other times when he has made U feel like that.
Honey, I'm sorry but this guy does NOT appreciate or even care about U. And as hard as it may be U've got some HEAVY thinking to do. Is that really how U want to live Ur life, walking around on egg shells trying to always say the right thing so he wont get upset with U. Trying to ALWAYS please him....
I think U should think about Urself here. He was in the wrong yet he's trying to make U feel guilty for getting mad.
Is it just me or is that just WRONG......
This guy needs to except some responsibility for his actions and stop looking to blame everyone else. The world does not revolve around his happiness. Speaking of happiness U need to consider Ur own. Love is give and take and it seems all this guy knows how to do is TAKE.
News Flash......U DESERVE BETTER...
If he treats U this way now, it will ONLY get worse as the relationship continues. Get out now and go find U someone who will like U for U and when it comes to Birthdays, Christmas or whatever they would MORE THAN happy to celebrate them with U.
Good Luck dear.....Remember whatever U choose it's still Ur choice.....No On can make it for U.
2006-07-21 06:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not over reacting, I get the feeling he's seeing someone else, sometimes men are too scared to break up, so they do things like that to get you to end it first. I'd do a little detective work if I was you, & when & if he does call, I wouldn't answer, not even for a few days, then if you decide to talk to him tell him you went out by yourself & told people it was your birthday & you had no one to celebrate with & a group of people invited you to join them & they treated you for drinks & food, & you had such a great time that you're going to start meeting the group every week. don't let him think you sat home alone crying for him waiting for his call. the more uninterested you act, the more he'll want to be with you, unless he's cheating, then he'll be glad not having to tell you. and go out for real, be social, don't ever let a man be the center of your life, no matter how good they are, because if one day it doesn't work out all the people you blew off to be with him all the time will be gone, & it will make it that much harder to get back in the saddle again.
2006-07-21 05:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by cheryl c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa... hummm.. well, sounds like he had something else he felt was more important to do, than to either call or spend time with you, especially on your Birthday. By the way you describe it, with the telephone calls, him calling and hanging up, if he was really interested, I am sure, he would have made time for you. Your question was: "So if he calls me and ask me to go somewhere today should I go what should I say??" Think about it..if he did not have time for you yesterday, do you think he will have time for you today? He said he was going to Walmart and would call you later. Then you don't hear from him until you called him this morning? Dry your tears and move on. I think, you can make your own conclusion from this. NEO!
2006-07-21 05:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by NEOSOUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, what the heck???? How old are you Hon??? OK be mad because it seems like you did nothing for your birthday with him, but you two are both mis-communicating with each other and mad for no reason. Sounds like you two or both immature and not ready for a committed relationship. If you are reacting like this now over petty stuff, what will happen when you have a husband and kids???? Take some time off and hang out with your girlfriends, or treat you to something, life is short. GL....
2006-07-21 05:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by BIG LIZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first of all, you both sound very young. The best hint I can give you is that the person you care about CANNOT read your mind!
That means, if you want something, or expect something TELL HIM, for gods sake! He cannot guess. Men do not think of relationship stuff the way we do.
The darlings are much happier with clear directions and get so confused when you try to lead them to doing what you want.
So just tell him straight out. Waiting for him to 'get it' will just break your heart.
Now, because you both screwed up your birthday, yes. see him again. Tell him what you wanted and ask him what he likes for HIS birthday! Have fun. It is LIFE not a drama! Mistakes happens. Deal with it, forgive and go on.
2006-07-21 05:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Kyawoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i'm sorry you should pass by ability of this :( Its a poor challenge, yet existence has a tendency at hand you a lot of those. the perfect aspect to do is only tell him, be ahead. Its comprehensible to be frightened of ways he will react because often your options is going by ability of each and every of the undesirable techniques. If hes your perfect pal he will take it the right way, hes instantly so there is not any longer a huge probability he will favor to attempt with you yet you under no circumstances comprehend! existence is about taking disadvantages so do not imagine a lot about it and do only it, that way you wont ought to experience so down :( sturdy success!
2016-11-25 00:16:21 · answer #6 · answered by studdard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the two of you have different ideas of how serious your relationship is. In any case I would say it depends, some people expect a big deal with birthday's others could care less. If birthday's are big for him and he did that, then maybe you should be looking for a new boyfriend.
2006-07-21 05:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL U SOUND YOUNG AS HELL. AND IF U KNOW HE DOESN'T CARE, OR HE ISN'T GIVING YOU EVERYTHING U NEED EMOTIONALLY, THAN WHY IS THAT OVER ACTING, OR YOUR FAULT??? U DONT'' LOVE HIM, U LUST OVER HIM. U MAKE YOURSELF LOOK STUPID, DOIN ALL THAT CRYIN, U SHOULD'VE BEEN SOMEWHERE OUT ENJOYING YOUR BIRTHDAY. IF U WHERE IN LOVE,U WOULD TRULY BE INTUNED WITH HIM, AND U WOULD KNOW HOW HE IS, WHY HE REACTED THE WAY HE DID. WITHOUT TAKING OFFENSE. BUT IT'S HARD TO GET OVER SOMEONE BUT U NEED TO GET OVER HIM QUICK. I'M TELLIN U THIS BECAUSE I KNOW. IT IS HARD BUT IF ANY GUY TREATS U WRONG, OR WRONGS U, AND U KNOW YOU'RE RIGHT, AND SOMEHOW MULIPINATES U INTO FALLING OUT
2006-07-21 05:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound very young!!! yes dear you over reacted. at least he REMEMBERED your b-day. he called u. u were the one who got all mad, and if he went to walmart, maybe the plan was for u to go and get a gift. calm down girl, or u could loose someone u love.
2006-07-21 05:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by teddybear_4u_wh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this little lovers spat is your fault. He did ask to see you and you made it sound like you were not interested did you not? what did you expect him to do? He probably doesn't feel like he did anything wrong. He told you he couldn't call out on his phone so how can he call you?
2006-07-21 05:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by smoke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋