yep, we haven't had sex in a while but last night he told me that Sometimes i need to be more aggressive because sometimes im so lady like.
2006-07-21 05:33:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh honey... just go for it! be the aggressor! let that inner tiger out... it's in there and once you unleash it, you'll see how easy and enjoyable it really is. good luck!
2006-07-21 05:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider Urself lucky that he felt comfortable enough to convey that to U. 2 often men and women (yes even the married ones)
find it difficult to express to their partners what they really want in bed.
Now that U know what are U gonna do about it?
Being aggressive in bed can be a real turn on for both of U.
U just have to take it slow and not get too carried away...lol
Talk to him ask him how aggressive does he want U to be, is it during foreplay or intercourse?
Once U understand what he wants it will be easier for U to give him what he wants. U R married there is NOTHING wrong with pleasuring each other it's what sex is all about. But U also have to be comfortable with it.
Talk to Ur husband and take things slow, U might find that U get a real rush outta being in control.
But watch out, being in control can be addictive...lol
I myself LOVE to be incontrol, sometimes I like to sit back and let him handle things but then there are other times when I wanna be the one to take the reins and be in COMPLETE control. Men find that very erotic for a woman to take over.
Good Luck to U and hey HAVE FUN.....That's the name of the game.
2006-07-21 05:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aggressive isn't about being physically imposing in any way. When you are ready for some bedtime fun, let him know. There are ways of being coy and flirtatious that will convey desire without being degrading.
Put on something skimpy, sit in his lap unexpectedly, and begin kissing his ear. It's not much, can be kind of romantic, and yet it gets the point across.
For someone like myself, I don't like making moves or suggestions of starting things. It's just easier on me to be led and told what to do or when someone wants something done than beginning it. After something like the trick I mentioned above, I can get the hint and take over, but still be convinced that it was the other person who began things.
2006-07-21 05:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by syshonblast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By aggressive do you mean you initiate it sometimes. If that is the case that can be a real turn on for most men and women. If by aggressive he means physical - then that is something that you have to feel comfortable with. Being a lady does not mean you cant have fun.
2006-07-21 05:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one spouse always iniates sex, the message is "you aren't interested enough to start something so I guess I will." Think about it like this, if you want to see a particular movie, you probably don't wait for your husband to suggest it. With sex, men are "supposed" to be more aggressive. However, if you are in the mood, showing him says "I'm interested in you and sex." It doesn't make you less lady like. It just makes you more honest.
2006-07-21 07:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long you have been married, if the man is always the one who initiates intimacy, he is constantly coming up with scenarios in his mind to make things new or interesting and romantic. Perhaps he is having writers block, now you are married what harm would there be for you to live out one of your fantasies? You know what goes and doesn't go just be careful not to go outside the established boundaries too far. Have a wounder-full time.
2006-07-21 05:42:23 · answer #6 · answered by dhebert244 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? Should you become aggressive or how to become aggressive? Men need their partners to participate actively. Shed your shyness and read a good book on sex and marriage. It is fine to be actively participating in sex. Don't lie down like a log in bed while he is panting and puffing. Join him and enjoy.
2006-07-21 05:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agressive could be many things. Try showing up for bed with a teddy or other skimpy night clothes. He will quit complaining quickly I think. Have some fun, start something yourself a few times.
Good Luck!
2006-07-21 05:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Wild Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try to suprise him and be the first to make a move i take it as he saying you need to be more aggresive in the bed room you can buy se x toys and try them out or some laundaray have you ever tryed on top? that would be an aggresive move take him into the bed room tell him you want to show him something and take charge lol. good luck
2006-07-21 05:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by karmen0085 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he wants you to make the first move once in a while.
You could try seducing him in various ways. Tell him you want to watch a movie together, and pop in a porno.
Next time he is in the shower, pop in naked and offer to wash his back. Next time you go out together, wear a dress and a garter belt and stockings (no panties) and then at a fun time, tell him you are not wearing any panties.
2006-07-21 05:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by Kyawoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to Agent Provocateur and pick out the most expensive and risque little outfit you can find. Put it on, and walk into the den while he and his buddies are watching a game. Then give him a ********, and see if he likes that better.
2006-07-21 05:38:07 · answer #11 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋