I am married but separated from my estranged husband, He does not support me in any way. Years ago I found out that he was having a baby by someone else because I left him. ( I honestly got feed up with him) He was not there for me in anyway and sometimes he didnt even come home. He would hit me ;not enough to bruise me but hit me all the same, I wasnt often but it did happen, everything I did was not enough for him, I moved in with his entire family when we were wed and I just proved to be to much, after that I had a child by him and we just weren't ready. The relationship obviously took a turn for the worst and has been spiraling down hill ever since. The entire family knew but said nothing to me so my relationship with them is awful. We still talked and were intimate during our breakup I had no Idea he had moved on. I want a divorce but can't afford one, I want to take him to court for child support but because of my past I feel it would compromise my health and well being.
2006-07-21 04:55:01 · 8 answers · asked by Latoya E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is legal aide in most towns so contact them and they can set you up with a lawyer who will provide services that are free. These lawyers are experienced in handeling cases like yours. As far as your past, don't worry it is extremely hard to take any custody away from a good mom. Good luck.
2006-07-21 05:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can go to your local courthouse and go through legal aide its either free or at a reduced price im not for sure.Im in Florida and thats how it works down here.My husbands ex wife went through legal aide and thats how she divorced him.There might be some filing charges for your divorce papers but no where near the amount it would cost to hire a private lawyer.As for the child support issue I would definitly go after him for it that child is entitled to it.Its to take care of him wether its for food,clothes or to help pay the rent or mortgage.Why should you be the one footing all the expenses for raising the child when he halped make the child?I dont think suing him for child support would compromise your well being i think it would better it knowing that you are getting financial assistance from the father would take a great deal of stress off of you.Since you say you cant afford a divorce obviously you are limited on money there are agencys in your state that can help u with many things that go on your income.There is WIC if the child is under 5 you can get checks evrymonth for milk,juice,eggs,ceral,peanutbutter or if its under a year even formula.There is medicaid if you qualify again due to income that will take care of childs medical expenses,you could also probaly get foodstamps or AFDC checks that help supplement your income.Im not really for sure how AFDC works I know its a check that you get on a monthly basis or a card like a debit card that you can use at the store you would have to ask your local agency about that.Go down to nearest childrens and familys office and see if you qualify for anything and definitly get child support.Everything will work out it will just take time to get over the pain.I wish you the best of luck.If you have anymore questions IM me
2006-07-21 05:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - go to your local child support agency and talk to them. In most states it is free. Normally the only qualifications for their help is that you do not live together and have been apart for more than 90 days. As far as the divorce contact your local court house most have self help centers or can refer you to another agency in which you can get help. If you are afraid of him then get a protective order prior to starting any paperwork. You need to get this matter settled for the sake of your child. A child needs both parents even if they are not there for the day to day stuff.
2006-07-21 05:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. get a divorce. Work out custody and child support. You have to do this now before you build it up into something that is too much to accomplish. You can accomplish it and move forward with yoru life to find someone who truly appreciates you.
2006-07-21 04:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce , tell attorney your situation ,maybe you can pay some now and some later. Let him pay for half of it. Go to child support recovery.
2006-07-21 05:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by jingles_200 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local child support office.
2006-07-21 05:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by adm2576 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in contact with a woman's abuse shelter.
Even if you don't need a place to stay most places have counselling for battered woman and they will help you with all the legal stuff.
2006-07-21 04:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him. He would get the divorce if he wants to marry the other woman.
2006-07-21 05:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋