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My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. There is just one major flaw that I can't seem to get past. Whenever he decides that he is going out (mostly to drink) he doesn't come home that night. I usually don't end up seeing him until late morning the following day. Sometimes it has even been late afternoon or early evening. I don't mind that he goes out but it would be nice if he would come home. He says that by me getting mad at him for not coming home it makes him stay out.(??) Sometimes he calls but more often then not I don't hear from him at all. At first I used to worry, now that it's such a regular occurance it just makes me mad. This behavior of his usually happens at least once a week. I have tried to talk to him about it, but it normally just turns into a big fight. What should I do about this, and how can I make him see that what he is doing is really not 'normal' in a relationship???

2006-07-21 04:52:44 · 2 answers · asked by bunnie17479 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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lol...my co-worker is going through the exact same thing.

1) He's not going to change. You have established the fact you will let him get away with this behavior, so there is no incentive for him to change.

2) BIG WARNING SIGN!!!!! Signs do not get any bigger or brighter than this. Do you really want to be with a guy forever who completely disrespects you?

You can't change him...you've already reinforced what he believes...he can treat you like this and you'll still be there.

Think long and hard on this....if you are too weak to break up with him, or give him an ultimatum and stick with it...then you deserve the lifetime of misery you will get from being with this guy. You will have no one to blame but yourself. No whining or venting about this guy....YOU have made the choice to be with someone like this. It's not going to be his fault anymore after today - it will be yours.

2006-07-21 04:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 7 0

well to answer your question,i ust to do the same thing to my husband and he also got tired of it.i wasn't cheating just partying and hanging out all night.Ive done it since i was a kid and i had no boundaries for a long time.unfortunately,my husband threatened me w a divorce about 20XS before i eventually quit.its probably just a release for him.unless hes cheating.

2006-07-21 05:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy r 1 · 0 0

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