DIVORCE and how it affected you?

Question

For anyone who has divorced parents....how old were you when it happened? I was only 2 years old and never knew what that "normal" family life was like... my question is... do you think its easier for children to deal with divorce at a younger age?

Answer 1

I was three and don't rememer them ever being together. I think that it is easier at a really young age or at an older age like mid20s. But either way the new "normal" is divorce as bad as it sounds.

Answer 2

I don't think divorce is easy on the child at any age. I think if both parents act like grown ups and put the needs of the child first then it is easier. However if the child becomes the pawn in the divorce it is very difficult. Younger children seem to adapt better than older children is some ways because they don't know what it is like to not a parents that are divorced. Older children have it easier because they can understand what has happened. Divorce will hurt a child no matter the age of the child, but I do believe it is better to divorce than have the children live where the parents are only staying together for the children. (Parents were divorced when I was 4, been through a divorce with children 4, 8 and 10 - seen all sides of the coin)

Answer 3

I was 5 (almost 6). I knew exactly what was going on just couldn't understand it. I think it is harder for younger children to deal with divorces because they won't really understand as much and most likely won't get truthful answers (from both sides) to their many questions. It also takes longer beacuse at that time in their life thats when they need alot of love and attention that will be cut in half so they struggle with these changes until their more mature to just deal with it .

Answer 4

I was 12 when they separated and 15 when they divorced. It sucked. I hated my Dad for a long time. I sometimes resent my Mom. It didn't help that they both used us as pawns to get at and hurt one another. My brothers were much younger and don't really remember my parents being together, so the divorce has just been part of life for them.

Answer 5

well i was in going in the 4th grade when my parents divorced, it was kinda hard at first cuz i didnt get to dee my dad for like 3 years

but now its not really that big a deal, my mom is better off but then again she really isnt, my dad is doing fine to , he has married again

Answer 6

my parents divored when i was 11.both my parents remembered to people that didnt like me. i divoreced when my girls where 3 and 1 i think its easier when young my 3 yr remembers the abuse so i dont think it makes a difference depends on child

Answer 7

I was 2 years old when Dad left when he found out that I am deaf and Dumb can't do anything right. When I got older try to find out what really happen But Mom said bad about him.. when Mom remarried my real dad again when i was 18 years old and Met him and I talk to him and I wearing hearing aid. and he was shocked to see me.... but both didn't last long. My mom let my dad when I was 400 miles from home going to high school mainstream school and fly back home and found out dad came pick me up didn't know what happen to my mom. he told me that mom left and I like she wouldn't left me.. I though he killed her and lie. but my mom called me and told me to come visit her at her apt. oh my god it the worst thing I ever seen my life dirtiest thing I ever saw and her boyfriend is drinking and smoking pot probelm. and i left live with dad and my dad said now you will not see your mother again. HUH. if you do you will never see me again. man! and He comes home drunk telling me how sorry he is and gave me 300.00 dollars and next day he don't remember and he didn't remember where his 300.00 dollars went so Both my parents said bad things about eachother.

I stop talking to my mom 10 years and I found out my real dad has died Feb 2006 from Smoking and Drinking. have Liver fail and cancer. He told my uncle to tell me that tell him that I am not mad at him and I love you so much and proud of you son, not his fault it my fault for not be a great dad to him and I deserve this death wish. I never got a chance to tell him I love you dad. So I have been married to my wife 9 years and I have 2 kids and I made it clear to myself that I will treat my family the way I wanted to be treated so long.

it was the first time i sit down on table with my family and talk to my kids to see how your day and what you do.. talk to my wife and paly alot with kids and telling my family how much I love them everyday. and I wish that My family like that back then.. But they made the choice. I make the choice to do better.

When you get older you will do the same thing and do for your family. I don't care what my mom said or dad said... I do what ever takes to make my family happy, loving, caring, trust, safe, protect, etc. so yeah.. smiling. I hope that you doing ok as long your dad and mom loves you and if they don't then just do what best for you for your own family if you ever have one.

Answer 8

i was six. it was awful. finally i started to believe my mother and i tried to forget my father. it never happened. not even when my mother got me another "father" who was a total a...hole. i was really lucky when he died of cancer.