Me and and My Boyfriend were planning to have a child... Smthing we both wanted .. last week we did it .. see what happends!! but know all the sudden hes not the same with me he dosnt want to come over he says hes tired ... he dosnt talk to me tht same way i ask him whats wrong he says nothign that hes fine but i know hes not ... i can fell it .. why ? does he regret doing it ? oorrrrr what it is please tell mee !! THANK YOU
2006-07-21 04:45:15 · 7 answers · asked by ChuLAD3P0nC3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why would you choose to have a child with someone that you don't even live with? the usual order for that kind of thing is 1)dating 2) moving in together 3) marriage 4) children though sometimes step 4 comes between steps 2 and 3, but you're not even past step 1. Maybe he realizes that there's kinda something wrong with choosing to have a child when you guys don't even live together. Otherwise, he might just be nervous about the idea of parenthood because he didn't really comprehend just how much responsibility and time is involved with being a parent until now, which is far too late. It may be bringing up other issues he wasn't considering before--the possiblities of paying child support for instance. Or how about custodial arrangements? If you ask and he says nothing is wrong, corner him. Tell him you KNOW something is wrong, tell him why, and demand the explanation. Ask if he's nervous, ask if he's scared. Sometimes it's hard for guys to be able to pinpoint exactly what they're feeling until someone helps them work through it or figure it out.
2006-07-21 04:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by hecatesmoon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this has happened to you, but it be a lesson to you. You can't undo it, but never let anyone convince you that they love you without you really feeling that they do. Boys/Men have a tendency to want what they can't have. Once it's conquered, the thrill is over. I have a male friend that I've known for 30 years and he told me just that. I've heard it from other men as well. You should always keep it challenging and the one thing they will always want is your body. Realize that there should be more to a relationship than sex. Next time ask yourself this: Do we have other things in common? Do we talk about other things? Do we do other things? Because if all of your discussions surround getting it on, that should raise a flag right there. Hold on to your goodies as long as you can.
2006-07-21 11:55:53 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but why were you trying to have a child before you were married? You are not even living with your boyfriend either. Were you even considering marriage first or lets have a kid. Kids are not like puppy dogs. You don't go to the store and pick one up. You are not even living with your boyfriend either.
2006-07-21 11:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he was more interested in the challenge of getting you to sleep with you. Now that he got it he's lost interest. You didn't do anything wrong except like him enough to go through with it. I'm really sorry. Lesson learned!
2006-07-21 11:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by theletterQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You're being extra sensitive right now...so just calm down
2) He's probably freaking out, and you can't blame him! Be empathetic, and talk things out...
3) You can't make him love you or marry you...or stay with you...this is why you don't have premarital sex or have babies with guys you aren't commited to.
2006-07-21 11:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie, it sounds like he was using you to get what he wanted & is now going his own way...you're better off without him.
2006-07-21 11:49:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make sure you get child support
2006-07-21 11:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lil mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋