Our relationship has been beyond rocky, but through it all-lies, deciet, the whole nine-I have never cheated on him. I never even thought about it. Somehow, somewhere, he is 100% certain that I have cheated on him. I at first chalked it up to his own guilty consicence even though I was willing to forgive. How can I get him to see it in his heart that I would not have cheated?
2006-07-21 04:18:37 · 22 answers · asked by G D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's guilty and looking for a way to turn the tables. The constant anger will keep you two from making love and if he's getting it elsewhere that's what he wants.
The longer you allow any person to abuse you (verbal, mental and/or physical) the longer they will continue to do so.
When I was younger and a boyfriend accused me of cheating, I wasn't at first, but since I was going to have the argument anyway, I decided I may as well get me some of the action I had been accused of doing and I could stop denying it.
Now that I'm older, when I encounter a jealous man, I tell him right off the bat, I will not tolerate this foolishness. If you think I'm cheating you need to go to someone who you don't think is cheating... And if they don't change I simply end the relationship. Life is too short for all that drama. When you get older you want to enjoy what love really has to offer and all that drama is not LOVE!
Your husband may want out of the marriage and doesn't know how to tell you this. You have to be brave and ask him what he wants to do regarding the marriage.
2006-07-21 05:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My guess he's cheating and justifying it by blaming you for doing what he's doing. If there have been lies and deceit through your marriage, I don't see much hope in it lasting very long.
He tells you that he's forgive you if you confess? that is total B.S. He's jut trying to get you to confess and he'll bug the daylights out of you for the rest of your life, meanwhile he's probably out screwing around because you did it. Turn this dog to the curb, you need an man that will love, respect and appreciate you. This guy doesn't.
2006-07-21 04:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start worrying about how many times he's cheated. When a guy makes an accusation like that, he's usually trying to hide his own guilt. I'm not sure your relationship will last if there's no trust involved.
2006-07-21 04:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him! When a person has absolutely no proof of you cheating, and they will continue to point their finger at you, that only means one thing.......He is cheating on YOU! When someone feels like they're going to get caught cheating by the person they are with, or they did something behind your back, they will insinuate that you are cheating because need somehow to make themselves look better. You should say that to him, and see his reaction.
2006-07-21 04:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by graciefaith1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he cannot bring himself to believe that you can love him enough not to cheat to him it is impossible seeing that he is an obvious cheater he knows that he wasn't committed enough to you to not cheat that is why he is so certain not that he has proof or anything it is in his head you cannot do anything about it now he has probably discovered that you are the one and he is not cheating anymore and he is vulnerable he feels that now he has stopped and he loves you , you will repay him for all the crap he put you through . Sweetie it is not on you to fix if you are gonna be with him and this is what you want continue to just love and respect him and if he cannot bring himself to see you and not his own faults then i say leave
2006-07-21 04:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never win the battle. Although you can acknowledge accusations and end the discussion, you can never deny something that didn't happen and end the discussion.
But what you have to look at, is "with all the lies, deceit,.. why are you worried about what he thinks. It won't make a difference in his behavior. If you could convince him you haven't, he'd accuse you of something else, just to get the conversation off of his behavior.
2006-07-21 04:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by mt_hopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As men do......they reverse the situation on us women. He's the one who has probably cheated and he feels guilty as. Just ignore him...his guilt, his actions and his words will be like reading a book about "I've cheated on my wife". You don't need to prove anything!
2006-07-21 04:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really is just guilty. People who cheat tend to think that everyone else is doing it becasue they have. Just stick through it. Don't waver in saying the truth, and never stop sticking up for yourself. And if this continues you might just want to leave. Is it really worth it to you?
2006-07-21 04:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by heatherdrake2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me gal when guys go like that it only means that they are the one who have cheated. That's a man's way to relieve his guilt and innner battles by converting it to your guilt. I speak from experience. Just front him in the face and tell him he's the one who has been cheating and watch the shock on his face and enjoy....... :-) that look. You won the battle.
2006-07-21 04:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered that maybe he has cheated and this is his way of covering it up. One sign of a cheating husband is that they accuse the wife of cheating.
2006-07-21 04:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋