I'm 31, he's 37....He's got a million and one excuses not to be intimate. He's tired, the kids are home, I said something to upset him, just not today, a headache.....the list goes on,like, FOREVER! I'm not ready to be a nun! He's straight, definitely not cheating, says he's totally in love with me, just that sex isn't a priority for him. What does he mean? How can I get him to understand I need this intimacy, without threatening to cheat on him, which, honestly, I've thought about!
2006-07-21 04:11:53 · 17 answers · asked by sunny1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've talked with him repeatedly! He just pouts and gets pissed, like I'm demanding something crazy! He was NOT like this when we met! I miss him and he's right here!
2006-07-21 04:17:04 · update #1
If I spiced things up anymore in that department, the neighbors would call the police,lol.
2006-07-21 04:19:06 · update #2
Well, like u said he's tired and u already have kids right........and the fact that sex isn't a priority 4 him right now doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings 4 u anymore, like u said he's still in love wit u.......all u have to do is chill out for a moment. U know he wants it more than u do so he will eventually come running back to get it u know. It's not always about intimacy........at least that's how some ppl see it, what really matters is that u both love each other very much and u expresses it in different ways. Well, u don't have to cheat on him if he isn't giving u some all u gotta do is have a talk with him and tell him how important this is to you (intimacy that is) he'll try to do something about it hopefully! Good luck with everything though!!!!! Smiles.......
2006-07-21 04:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by mustbtru07 2 · 1⤊ 8⤋
Have you tried spicing things up sexually? Wear sexy lingerie? or maybe you need to get a away for a romantic weekend/vacation. Can you ask your inlaws/parents to take care of the kids while you are away? Change it up a little. If that does not work, maybe there is something bothering him. Talk to him about it. Is it really stress at work or fatigue? or is it just an excuse? You need to communicate to get to the bottom of it. Because until you find out what it is you can even begin to work out a solution.
2006-07-21 11:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by Wibble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex kinda goes "downhill" in a sense once ure married/have kids...
his reasons seem pretty accurate,
try talking to him one more time MORE openly about it. You may wanna spice things up a bit by trying something new sexually....
Send the kids away and enjoy massaging each other and rekindling your love! Tell him you miss him...massages can get through to him..Id really try that..men LOVE massages...once hes into it I say go from there : hehehe, good luck!
2006-07-21 11:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and get rid of the kids for the evening. fix a dinner for two,
go out and buy yourself some sexy night attire, you know set the mood make things romantic,try out new things you two haven't done before. remember men fantasize about hot women all the time. you have to stand up and become the fantasy. good luck
in that case you may have to learn to take care of yourself.
2006-07-21 11:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by cwallflower32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont know about him, but i can tell you for a fact that it isnt you at all. Any guy would be thrilled to have you. You are so sweet and nice that noone could possible get bored being with you
2006-07-21 12:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be embarrassed about not being able to preform. Get him to talk to his doctor, there are things like Viagra that can help if this is the issue.
2006-07-21 11:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just tell him that you don't want to leave him you just want to have some fun and one day you need to have sex. Sex is fun he should be happy you want to have it and not saying no when he wants to have sex just tell him get over the feelings why he doesn't want to be with you and just lo sin up.
2006-07-21 11:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't go jumping to conclusions just yet. He might be going through some stuff you aren't aware of. Could it be a sexual disorder?
2006-07-21 11:21:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's bored, if you are bored too, then leave! sometimes the easiest break ups are the ones where you KNOW that it's not going anywhere and you both just say it out loud.
2006-07-21 11:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by JerseyBleu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a huge black vibrater, and whip it out at bed time, handle yourself. If he complains say "Take care of it then". It'll work.
2006-07-21 11:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by Poppin my Collar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋