we are from a church family,to keep her name good, i was going to step up and make it right so she don't have the baby out of wedlock .just remember the baby isn't mine, and i don't have no interiesties in sleeping with her
2006-07-21 03:58:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If it's merely a religious/moral concern, you could do that.
But these days, being a 'single mom' is more about having the resources to raise the child, rather than be worried about the morality of bearing a child out of wedlock. if I were in your situation, I'd rally the family to support her, and the church too. That is what matters, that the child grows up in a happy, safe, and supportive family, dad or no dad. Have you thought about being the baby's godparent?
If all you're concerned about is her 'reputation' then I think everyone should take a good long hard look in the mirror... especially those people that would be saying bad things about her or her child.
(I was put up for adoption when I was born, so yeah, it's kind of a sensitive issue. Your mileage may vary.)
2006-07-21 04:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by dcnblues 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is not ever supposed to be a quick fix to a problem. That is sacreligious!
if it is a religous issue, than you even being a step-sibling isn't any more acceptable in the position of her spouse, than her being pregnant would be, if you are trying to live by the standards of others.
Think about it, neither one of those scenerios is more acceptable than the other.
why don't you just be there for her emotionally and maybe talk your family into helping her financially? Everyone is only human and humans make mistakes, even in charactor judgement.
Finding out you made a mistake in judgement while finding out you're pregnant is probably pretty scary and depressing for her. Sounds to me like she needs a shoulder to cry on, and good emotionally supportive people to help see her thru this.
2006-07-21 11:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about her name. If you're from a 'church' family, how is entering into a loveless marriage with her going to save her name?
Let her deal with her issues. This is the time in her life where she gets to realize that actions have consequences and that not all of them are bad. She'll learn and grow.
She doesn't need to be marrying a relative to protect herself from the judgment of her church.
2006-07-21 11:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by slagathor238 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a church family then the church or your family will not accept this it may infact make matters worse. She made her bed not let her lie in it. You can't fill another mans shoes in this department. STAY OUT OF IT. Just be there if she needs you.
2006-07-21 11:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry her. Sh*t happens, don't let her problems totally affect your life. This is her problem and she is the one who needs to deal with it. And who knows maybe the father will come around. Tell her to show him the ultrasound picture, I am sure when he sees those he will change his mind. And if he doesn't, screw him. Tell her to go get child support ASAP. He was man enough to do the deed with her and make a baby, then he should be man enough to step up to the plate and take care of his child. It shouldn't be you who makes up for their mistake.
2006-07-21 11:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by harrio84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should step up and marry her, God will forgive her and she aint gunna have a bad name as long as she is a good mum, and over then age of consent.
I think if she is old enough to get preg then she is old enough to decide what happens to her and the baby, and not have her family dictate what she should do and buy marring you i think it will ruin both of your lives and you sound like a decent chap so your life shouldnt be ruined by your s.sis mistake.
2006-07-21 11:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by linsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You'll find someone you're in love with later and so will she. Would the church look upon you better if you're divorced?
Just support her as much as you can.
2006-07-21 11:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just let her deal with it on her own. It would look weird if you step up and marry her.
2006-07-21 11:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[quote]// just remember the baby isn't mine, and i don't have no interiesties in sleeping with her // {quote}
righttt chum
call a near by doctor
2006-07-21 11:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by x_cybernet_x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah thats a little weird. she shouldve thought about that before banging the dude. it is not your problem and trust me god will forgive her, your thickheaded family just has to realize that.
2006-07-21 11:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by hazellaura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋