For being attracted to both sexes, you would think your chances of finding someone would double. It's hard even telling a potential partner you're bi because there are some who won't date you because they might think you would cheat on them.
I've been in str8 and gay bars and I don't get approached at either, which gets me depressed. Have you told your dates on your first time out you're bi? Does it turn people on or off?
2006-07-21 03:41:28 · 12 answers · asked by dnnzak 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wish I could be happy being single, but that's not what my heart wants.
2006-07-21 06:40:54 · update #1
If you're a Bi-female looking to go out with a straight guy it seems as though it's somehow easier (the fantasy of a guy servicing two women must just be too strong a prospect). I can't say how easy or hard they find it with the lesbian community.
However, Bi-males can tend to find it harder to gain the trust of prospective partners. Having answered a few questions on this very topic, I think we're not supposed to exist!
Chin up though: since I came to realise that I was Bi, all my dates have known from before we went out that first time.
Your time will come.
2006-07-21 04:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I'm fine with being single because I really like who I am and I don't need to be in a romantic relationship to be happy, but they are nice. I do know what you're saying though. People think I'm straight or a lesbian depending on who I'm around. If I tell them I'm bi then it can freak some people out cause of the bisexual myths out there. I just have to be around other open-minded people and things will work out well.
2006-07-21 12:17:54 · answer #2 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been very happy being single for a while. With my current partner, we came out as bisexual to each other and then started dating later that night.
And I think a bi's chances of finding a date are actually cut in half since quite a number of people don't even believe that bisexuals exist. In the Chicago Gay Games, 4.9% of the people participating are straight and only 2.9% are bisexual. Less than 1% are transgendered, leaving the rest to be gay/lesbian.
2006-07-21 11:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by michellesm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a bisexual male and experience the same problem myself. However, in a gay bar, I tend to get approached by the wrong people (usually someone much older than myself). In a straight bar, I simply don't know "how to cut it" and this probably scares people off - as I am unrelaxed.
I can relate to this depression, as I'm currently feeling like that at present.
The web site attached to this posting is a good article on dating when you're bisexual, and answers your questions about telling potential dates that you're bisexual.
2006-07-21 16:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bi as well and have a husband to keep me company. An answer 4 your question... I am depressed a good bit of the time because I prefer women. I feel as though I am stuck. Sometimes I wonder why not one or the other? As far as double the luck.... It's more like dousle the heartache.
2006-07-21 15:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by 2crooked 2b straight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexual and loney about not being with someone are two different things. When you go to a bar or club it is just as much your responsibility to approach others as it is for them to approach you. Go out have some fun say hi.
Bisexual and being with someone. If they love you they love all of you, bi or not. Just be very clear about your needs and what you can live with and live with out. If you cant be monogomous, you are never really with someone, just renting space.
And , yes, I get depressed when I am not with someone. Age is a bigger challenge than dating or being bi or gay.
2006-07-21 10:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me being bi, I'm always in relationships and sometimes I feel happy, but their are times where I feel like I will never find that special someone. But I've been in and out of relationships. The depression comes with not being able to settle down with someone.
2006-07-21 14:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am bi... and it doesn't get me depressed because i fell like if i am not comfortable being alone then i have not right to be in a relationship to bring some down.
usually if i am out with a guy i don't tell them i am bi but if i am out with a girl i will tell them i am bi. don't ask me why i work that way but that's what i normally do.
i have had a gf cheat on me with a guy. but we are good friends now. so oh well.
2006-07-21 11:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by scared2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't really bother me. Being single has it's perks. I usually tell dates that I'm bisexual as soon as possible because a lot of lesbians and some straight men don't want to date bisexuals so I like to get that out of the way before it gets too serious.
2006-07-22 02:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by holidayspice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I do get lonely sometime, especially when you realized that age is catching up and you have not really got yourself into a genuine relationship before. Gosh! Its not that there is no suitors for me nor no one is attracted to me. In fact (seriously I mean), there are quite a few (both male and female) who wants to go into a relationship with me.
Guess the problem lies in me; kinda of difficult to fix on which one is really suitable for you. I always got the feeling that if i went into a relationship with either sexes, i might hurt them eventually.
For those people out there who think that bi got to enjoy the best of both world: you really got to put yourself in our shoes and think twice again.
2006-07-21 13:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ristlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋