What do you do when you are feeling angry?

Question

What do you do when you are feeling angry to really get that anger out and make yourself feel better?

Or do you simply ignore the feelings and let them boil up? (I hope you don't)!

Answer 1

I lock myself into my room, have an imaginary conversation with the person who upset me, and tell him/her how I feel and why. If I concentrate very well, this conversation will somehow materialize in the near future, and everything will be said in the same way I have imagined...to my great surprise, I have found out that the person I was talking to, has expressed his/her feelings in the very same way that I had scripted!

I used to do that many times in the past just by chance, until one day I read Dr. Joseph Murphy's 'The Power of the Subconscious Mind', describing the very same method that I put into practise.

Surely, it is not healthy to just keep everything inside us, but exploding right at the same time does not do us good either. We may lose control. It works much better the way I have described. You will definitely find the chance again in the near future to talk to this person, in a more peaceful way, and suddenly the solution to your problem will just pop up in front of you! You may not see it, but it is there, patiently waiting for you. All you have to do, is relax...and visualise...

Answer 2

I take myself off with my dogs! Drive to the lough, let my dogs have fun while i sit, have a cigarette and enjoy teh scenery because it makes me feel relax. The angrier i am, the longer i stay! I feel calmer afterwards.

You could also try the racket method? It works as well, you just get an old racket and keep hitting a tree with it, focusing on what's causing you such anger and shouting no every time you hit the tree. I know some tree lover will feel a need to insult me for it but hey! Better than punching someone's lights out!

You should never ignore the feelings!!! It's teh worse thing you could do. Anger is a natural feeling and needs to be unleashed only ... In a positive manner.

Answer 3

It depends on the social situation.

If Im mildly annoyed I will pump my fists, go and find an inanimate object to punch.

But my first response to anger is always to work on calming down through breathing or any of the other methods I have learnt, like meditation.

Other ways of releasing anger are shouting and punching random objects, slamming doors ;)

I am a naturally angry person so I have learnt to deal with that and have no problems with anger, if things are that bad then I will go and be alone until it passes. There is no value in anger, its serves no useful purpose to me. If I am angry with somebody for doing something against me then I will react when I am calm and rational. An angry mind is not a focussed mind.

Answer 4

First thing I don't do is react to whatever it was that angered me. I've learned too many times the hard way about the pitfalls of reacting while angry. Now, when I feel angry, I try to let it off by taking a walk or a break from whatever angered me. Cool reflection always helps me keep my prospective and prevents me from irretrievably hurting myself or others.

Answer 5

I have a punching bag in the basement I can punch or kick. My jacuzzi tub helps, especially if I add a glass of wine and some candles to the mix. I also try to talk it out if possible... even if resolution isn't the end result at least I've made my feelings known. You teach people how to treat you so even if it's only a quick comment like "that wasn't very nice"... I let people know what's not acceptable. If all else fails... CHOCOLATE!

Answer 6

I usually boil up with my mouth shut, take a breath, then let the steam out (like in cartoons) before I start to speak. Or, if it's really bad I need to walk away for about 5 minutes to organise my thoughts, so I don't hurt anyone and then I speak.
If I am to lazy to deal with it I shout but it doesn't happened often. In puberty it was worse, I always exploded and I never reached anything with this behaviour. Life tough me to deal with problems.

Answer 7

If I've had a bad day at work or my boyfriends making me stressed i find that going to the gym for a good work out is a great way to let off steam followed by a nice relaxing soak in the jaccuzzi. they gym is great because you feel really good about your self afterwards not just because you've had a good work out but because you've turned your anger into something more positive.

Answer 8

It honestly depends on the situation. Most of the time I try to just walk it off, go for a drive, just cool off in general. Sometimes, like last night for example, I explode and nothing but foul and evil things come spewing out of my mouth and I ususally end up hurting the ones I love.

Answer 9

I let it all boil up. See people need an outlet (be it a sport, an activity, etc.) I lack a sucessful outlet, Thouhg scince I've never really had one, its safe for me because I can keep it under control for a long time.

Answer 10

I hide in the bathroom and cry and cry. Then i stamp my feet and sometimes I slap myself(as in not on the face). I can't scream because I can't let my family hear them.Yah. Or I'll write down the thing that caused my anger and burn it. Then, i'll forget about it, along with the blownaway ashes.