I am pregnant I was on the pill when it happened I am 23 in college should i keep it?

Question

I currently live with my boyfriend and he doesn't think i should keep it. due to the fact that we both go to school full time and work full time. I don't know what to do. part of me wants to keep it and part of me doesn't. Help me

Answer 1

Did you faithfully take your pill? I am wondering right if I am or not and I too am on the pill.

Answer 2

This is a decision that you and your boyfriend must decides to do together, only you can decide if your ready for such a huge responsibility, this is a life long commitment. If you decide to have the baby, who will watch the child until he/she can be left with a daycare provider, can you afford the child -medical bills, food diapers, clothing, are you prepared to stay up when the baby is sick or is hungry at 3am, there are lots of situations to consider in having a child. Only you can choose what is the best path for you. If you decide not to keep the child, what is your option you chose- adoption or abortion? both of those decisions can be as equally as hard to chose from- when I was younger I choose an abortion and it took me a couple of years before i got over it, but in the end i still felt that I was too irresponsible and could not provide for my child, in my heart I know I would not have given my child the life it would have deserved. I haven't made that mistake again, I have learned to become more responsible-( i know your case is different, you were taking preventative measures I wasn't at the time ) This is ultimately a decision you will have to live with for the rest of you life, so no matter which choice you chose you will be emotionally effected by this decision, until your ready to get over and truly except your choice. I wish you well on your decision and know that mistakes are a part of life, we live we learn never forget that. Good luck with school and I hope your decision doesn't negatively effect you relationship as well, most importantly I hope your decision is the best for you and your child.

Answer 3

I like you was in the same situation when I was a junior in college. I was on a full ride, playing volleyball but I made the decision to keep the baby. My daughter is now just about five years old and she is the light of my world. Her father and I didn't stay together but he is a very mush involved in her life and her upbringing. The best advice that I can give is to first pray and follow your heart, make no choice to make a man happy or to make life on you easier, I did the same thing and six weeks to the day found out that I was expecting again, so you do what you can live with and what your heart says. Good luck and may the blessing from your god be with you forever.

Answer 4

Hmm That is your choice whether to keep it or not. However, I have 3 children, work and my husband works and I am a full time student. My children are 6, 4, and 2 years old. I am not going to say that it is always easy but I wouldn't not give up my children for any amount of freedom that may come.

There is nothing like looking into the eyes of your child and knowing that you love him or her more than anything in this world. As you can tell I am pro life but you do have a legal right to do what you wish to do. I just want you to know that you can have your cake and eat it too.

Answer 5

I would suggest speaking to a guidance counselor at your school or at a pregnancy center, they can give you all your options including adoption, abortion and keeping your child. I am 23 and I have two children, your life will have to change if you do decide to keep your child, but change isnt always bad. Dont let anyone bully you into a decision, cause this is one of the most important decision that you will ever make. Talk to a third party I think it will help you come to a decision that is right for you and your baby. God Bless

Answer 6

Honey, only you can truly make that decision. You are gonna have to think about what is best for you and the baby you are caring. If you want to keep your baby and just don't know what to do try talking to a counsler or a family member. Your boyfriend is a part of this too, but he also needs to stop and think what is best and important. This is a life changing situation, but you both are adults and you have to make decisions like adults. Don't act on impulse, or let anyone make thse important decisions for you. There are a lot of places out there that can help you. All you have to do is reach out to one of them. What you are feeling about not sure if you want the baby or not is normal. We all have been there a time or two. Be strong and find someone that you can talk too that will support you in whatever decision you make. Best of luck to you.

Answer 7

#1, if you are contemplating on keeping it AT ALL, you will regret your decision when you get an abortion. I know people that have got abortions and they think about their child often and what it would be like with it.

Your boyfriend may just be scared. It may also be embarassing to be unmarried, pregnant and in college. But you are old enough to be considered "mature enough" to have a baby.

I became pregnant when I was 19 years old by a boyfriend that I was "madly in love with". I too contemplated abortion. I felt bad for doing so, but I was going to college and my boyfriend lived in Chicago while I lived in Michigan. There were so many sacrifices that I had to make. After much conversation with close friends of mine and my boyfriend, I decided that I would keep it, finish the semester of school and move out of state to my boyfriend's residence AWAY from ALL of my family before I had the baby.

To this day, I truly value what I have done. I LOVE my child more than anything in the world. He is going to be 2 years old on Sunday and he is the most beautiful & loving person in my life. I can't even tell you the amount of sacrifice it took, but it was ALL worth it.

My boyfriend and I are raising him as if we were a married couple, just purchased our house that we have lived in for over two years a couple of weeks ago and are happy.

I say, keep him. If you are contemplating it at all, as I said before, your heart is telling you to keep it.

Answer 8

You made the conscious desicion to have sex, you should own up to your desicion. You're 23 years old, you can definetly handle a baby. Maybe you will have to change your work/school schedule a bit, but you can do it. I know you're scared, but at the same time, if you're thinking you want the baby, you should keep it. Many women go through severe depression after an abortion, imagine how bad it would be if you didn't even truly want it. Getting an abortion is the easy way out, be brave and keep the baby. Trust me, you will never regret keeping your own child, you will regret however, killing your own child.


On the contrary, Morgan, it would selfish to give it up. She would be giving it up because she is too busy to have a child. Not because of what would be good to the baby.

Good luck!!!

Answer 9

You have to really think about the situation, yes having a baby will dramatically change your life in some ways for the better. You would have to change your school schedule, but in the end it is all worth it. Talk with your boyfriend and after the feeling of shock is gone I'm sure he will change his mind, if not come to a decision together, do not let him force you into a decision. Make sure that the decision ya'll make is one that you can live with. If there is no way to keep the baby I suggest adoption before abortion.

Answer 10

that is totally up to you but i would hope you put the baby up for adoption not abort it! there are women out there that wait for babies so give yours a chance at life.....also i am 22 and not married, i am on baby #2 due in November, i have a 22 month old son, i wouldnt change it for the world and both of my babies were surprises(the best surprises i ever had) you are 23 so you are old enough to take up this responsibility..if you feel you ae not ready then like i said make a responsible choice and go through the pregnancy. being a mother and a father is the best thing you 2 will ever experience, yes your life changes but only for the better, and to watch your child grow inside of you is amazing...stick with it , call the doc go see that little heart beat and then decide to keep it or put it for adoption, my advice keep it, you can lay down and make a baby so stand up and take care of it...good luck

Answer 11

it is a question that only you can answer. You have many options out there. Look at all of them before you decide what to do. There are counseling places that will discuss this issue with you and basically you make the decision on what to do. You can keep the baby, place it in an open adoption, and so forth. An open adoption would let you get pictures and sometimes lets you see the how the baby is doing.