How can I keep my self-esteem and confidence up to move on and keep hope that some1 will want me and my baby?

Question

I just found out i was being cheated on and im 7 months pregnant.

Answer 1

just know that you are worth alot more that this loser. in this society you are not a minority you are the majority. just remember you are beautifuland extraordinary. you dont need to change for anyone.when the time is right you willmeet someone. just take care of you and your baby and nail the loser for child support good luckand keep your head held high hes the loser not you

Answer 2

I'm sure you are very upset with what you just found out. You are doing the right step in asking for help. You don't need a man in your life...key word "need". Make a life for yourself and your baby. If a nice guy comes along and will fit in with your life, so be it.

There are plenty of guys out there that would have no problem with getting involved with a girl even though she has a child. It happens all the time (prime example is Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, and then on Big Brother there is a guy name Jase that is with a woman and her daughter and plans on marrying her...these are "high" profile people, but it happens in every day life too).

Whatever you do do not let this guy say it was your fault he did the cheating (because you're pregnant, etc.). It was all his doing and his alone. You did not force him or tell him to do it. Don't let him tear down your confidence or self esteem. Think highly for yourself..after all you have a baby in you and you are nurturing it!
Good Luck!

Answer 3

After being married for 8 years, with 2 children and being 31 years old, I found out my husband cheated on me. I decided to stay with him for the sake of the children, thinking it would be better for them to have both of us and because I was so scared of being alone and not finding anyone. It was the worst mistake I could have made. I was completely miserable. Every time we had a fight it would end with let's get a divorce. So finally, after putting up with this for 2 years I said okay. That's it I want a divorce.

We separated Feb. 2002 when I was almost 33 years old. Our divorce was final Dec. 2002 (you have a waiting period in SC for divorces). On Valentine's Day 2003 I met the love of my life and we married June 2004. He adores my kids and they adore him, too. We had our first daughter together Sept. 2005 and are expecting another child Jan. 2007.

The moral of this story -- do what's best for you and that baby. You deserve to be happy and to be with someone who loves you and respects you. It may mean that you are alone for a little while, but that isn't necessarily a bad thing. It will give you time to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, have your baby and really decide what you want out of life and a partner.

Best of luck to you and chin up!

Answer 4

Just being able to do things on your own gives you the self-esteem and confidence you are looking for. Taking care of yourself and a baby gives you a great sense of independence and pride. The rest will fall into place when it's time. Just focus on you and the baby, no one else matters.

Answer 5

I raised 2 children by myself (after my ex-husband told me that someone was pregnant with his twins). It was a wonderful bonding experience with my children and turned out to be the best thing that happened to all of us. Then, when I was in the midst of raising my children, not looking for a mate, the most wonderful man came along and married all of us. I am now with my soul mate, my best friend and one of the most wonderful people that I have ever had the pleasure to know. I was enjoying my life and doing my best when I met him, and that is what attracted him to me. If i had been depressed and needy, we would never have got together. There is life after emotional devastation. You just have to get yourself healthy enough to enjoy it. Good luck and be well. If you need an ear, or shoulder to lean on, just e-mail me.

Answer 6

A very similar thing happened to a very dear friend of mine. She had two older daughters and her husband left her for another man. Two weeks later she found out she was pregnant. She learned through this that she does not need or want to depend on a man. Her indepenence and self reliance are through the roof and she now is dating a very nice guy who loves her kids. So, if she can do it. So can you! :)

Answer 7

Hi - Cheer Up. You need a lot of motivation now. First take care of yourself. Else you and the baby are going to be affected. There is surely another day - when he will come. Keep your fingers crossed. It will surely happen. I have seen it happen at many times. So be brave and you'll soon be back as beautiful as you really are...

Cheers and Regards....

Answer 8

hunni DON'T think you and ur baby NEEDS someone because you don't need someone, don't go out looking for someone just to be a father for ur baby, someone will come trust me. i have a friend who had a baby and the father was a jerkoff and left her and his son, she is now remarried and has a beatilful little baby girl how is only about 6 1/2months old her son calls her new hubby dad because he is the father he knows, he is a wonderful dad and a beautilful man, she never thought she find someone else when she was pregnant with her son but she did and you will!!

Answer 9

OMG get over the man. You have a child to think about. I was a single mom with my oldest child and raised him for 3 years all by myself until I met and married my husband. NO MAN is worth crying over. Your child comes first. Be an independant woman. Do not worry about having a man in your life or your child's life.

Answer 10

I was 5 months pregnant with my 1st baby and found out he cheated.You need to leave him and move on.If you take him back he will cheat again.