We all encounter rudeness. What rudeness bothers you most? Your age? Gender? U.S. state, or country?

Answer 1

I love the question, because I'm conscious of rudeness nearly every waking hour of most days! I suppose the behaviors which bother me most tend to be about noise... inconsiderate, rage-inspiring invasions of peace via cell phone, stereo, or whatever. Some of the ones that fire me up, the most, in the order they come to me...

Nextel phones! Arggg! Keep the damn conversation to yourself. I don't want to hear *you* yelling, much less the mechanical squawk of your yakking partner! Especially in a restaurant, theater, library, or other public place where other people are trying to relax or concentrate.

Cell phones, in general. Must some people have the damn thing attached to their head fifteen hours a day??! What the hell did they *do* before cell phones?! (Some are too young to remember --or envision!--any other way, of course.) Jeez, the loneliness of being out of touch for five minutes must have been unbearable! Again, it's especially irksome in places like I mentioned.

Overly-loud talking, laughing, or yelling in those same places, when it's obviously apt to disturb other people! Even more rude when it's filled with crude language, which further shows how little the person cares about others' feelings.

Boom cars... often (but not always) SUVs or sports cars which are like sub-woofers on wheels. Their drivers apparently are too stupid or rude to consider that most all an outsider hears is the thump thump thump of the bass. Or it gives weak-minded individuals a sense of power. They don't make you a better person, or even seem like one -- well, except to a few other 14-to-20-year-olds. If bricks and sledgehammers were legal ways of showing my feelings about them, your precious car wouldn't annoy me for long.

Blaring music, in general. Boom boxes used to be the big thing, and mp3 players have thankfully sent most of them into history! (I'll never forget a quiet hike in the mountains being interrupted by one obnoxiously rude person who couldn't imagine the value of hearing nothing but one's thoughts for a few moments... or the rustling of leaves.)

Parents who let their children scream for ten minutes or more -- again, especially in theaters, restaurants, libraries, etc.

Drivers who cannot park their car without the beep-beep to inform them it's locked... or approach their car without a beep to tell them it's unlocked, or help "locate" it. Is that really necessary? OK, while it may not be a big deal in the city, hearing that at 2am in a quiet neighborhood, especially if a number of similarly-equipped cars are pulling in and out every ten minutes (like in an apartment) is a huge annoyance to me. It's not the sound, so much as the inability to relax... you never know when the next one will disturb your peace. I'm certain that this can be disabled in most cars, and set to flash lights only (as if that's even necessary).

Car alarms... especially when the owner takes twenty minutes to turn it off. Does anyone even pay attention to these things, other than cuss them out??

People who pull up near your home and lay on the horn to get someone's attention, rather than get up off their lazy *** and walk to the door and knock, like a civilized person!

Just as these rude people were likely raised in noisy households by inconsiderate parents, they will likely raise their own children to be oblivious of others' feelings and peace of mind. There must be dozens more examples, but in each case, the lack of consideration is what I think of (and get riled by) even more than the sounds, themselves. When it's something so easy to prevent, there's no excuse not to, other than ignorance or lack of caring. Isn't there enough *un*preventable stress in the world?

Oh... 40-something, and live in a crowded part of Maryland.

I've heard people curse at the technogies that allow this kind of rude behavior, and those noises. But although I sometimes wish it didn't exist, the gadgets aren't to blame -- the users are!! In the hands of considerate people, they'd be just fine.

Answer 2

Hi, my name is Hank. You don't have my pet peeve-rudeness listed.

I think it is really rude for somebody to answer your question with demeaning, condescending, racist or hateful answer, then don't have a way for you to contact them and call them on their rudeness.

There are tens of thousands of people who are genuine about their answers and give them the thought needed to answer them accordingly. Yet, there are tens of thousands of people on this web site who are rude, crude and devastatingly mean.

It is such a devastating thing to the asker that sometimes the asker leaves Yahoo Answers for good. That last statement should be considered a supposition, because I don't have any facts to back it up. But many of these people go to and use the 360 page.

The rudeness you are referring to is not a problem with me. If anyone tries to slam me for my age, gender, my home state or country they are in for a polemical nightmare. I'm relentless on discriminatory hate spouters.

Hank Feral

Answer 3

I absolutely cannot tolerate routine rudeness from the floor personnel/sales people/cashiers at WALMART!
In fact, I'm waiting to meet the happy, helpful, and friendly WALMART employees just like the ones on TV. Where are they?!
The WALMART store closest to me is the one on Lakeshore in Homewood, Alabama.
Many of those employees could win national awards for being rude, unprofessional, and nasty-acting.
One cashier was having a vividly profane conversation (on her cell phone) while ringing-up my items.
AND..'it's your a**' if you ask an employee about merchandise (availibility, price, location); the resulting eye-rolling and neck-rolling is enough to make one's head spin.
I called the store's manager about his customer-service problem and I informed him that the situation couldn't be cured; unless he was willing to fire a store full of employees and start from scratch!

Answer 4

I really can't stand when people seem to patronize me because of my age and gender. I can't stand it when people slightly older than me call me 'hun' or ask me why I am working a service job with my experience and Bachelors degree when they know I live in an area with a next-to-nothing job market. Basically they are just exacerbating the pressures already felt by many people in my situations and their insensitivity makes me reevaluate how I need to react.

25, female, Michigan

Answer 5

I live in Orlando, FL. This is my hometown. Florida is a very transient state, most people who live here are from other places. The rudness that I hate the most are bad drivers. This city is loaded with them: red light runners, stop sign runners, drivers cruising in the left lane of a highway, road rage, obsene gestures, you name it, it's rampant here. I think the major factor is that most of the drivers moved here from someplace else, so they have no sense of pride or ownership of the city, so they "do as they please" at the cost of everyone else.

Answer 6

Rude people are to be ignored and avoided if possible. I will not allow rude people to pass their ignorance on to me. There problem is their own and they must live with themselves. Too bad they pass this behavior on to their children.

Answer 7

Rudeness doesn't bother me, as I consider the source.
I mean, does it bother you when a dog barks at you?

Answer 8

I think People working in any sort of service industry ( e.i. restaurant, retail store) being rude to customers. As i have worked in such environments, I know its not that difficult to be nice to your customers.

Answer 9

Is this the only question you can ask? 24 times?

Isn't this itself a form of rudeness by asking and asking and asking the same question?

Answer 10

I absolutely cannot stand my intelligence being insulted.

I also don't appreciate it when people assume things about you before they even know you.