is it wrong that i don't want my g/f to go to a gynacologist??? that the though really upsets me????
i know that I shouldn't try to stop her, and i'm not going to, but why does she not see why it bothers me sooo much????
she was a virgin, and i am the only one she has been with. why does she act like the idea of someone getting between a girls legs and poking around seem ok to everyone???? why is that necessary to get on bc pill???
AM I A BAD BOYFRIEND / PERSON FOR NOT WANTING HER TO GO????? BECAUSE I GET SICK EVERY TIME I THINK ABOUT IT, AND BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW IF I'LL BE ABLE TO SEE HER THE SAME AFTERWARDS???
2006-07-21 02:00:42 · 21 answers · asked by my_name_is_what 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok, all you people comin on here slingin insults, you can just give yourself a thumbs up, and then sit on it!!!! i don't care what you have to say!!!!
and it has allready been estableshed that she is getting a female. that is the only way that she will have it!!!!!
so just bugg off!!!! i don't go around answering your honestly concerned questions rudely, so keep your crap to your self, and to the others, thank you for your answers, all the insight has really aided me. i understand she has to do it, i just feel really bad for her. and like it's my fault she has to got through that. and any rude comments on that one, SHUTUP!!!! GOOD GRIEF!!!! SHOW SOME FRIGGIN COMPASION!!!!!
2006-07-23 03:32:09 · update #1
i do not mind that she go. we have talked about it. i'm ok with it now. i just am afraid for her. the last girl i knew that went for her first time, came back miserable. traumatized. and i don't want her to have that happen.
2006-07-23 03:34:12 · update #2
It is very important that your girlfriend see the gynecologist for a pap smear and check up. There can be hidden problems lurking if a woman doesn't have her check up...even cancer! It is a necessary evil.
While I understand your point of view, you need to be a little less possessive in this matter and think of your girlfriend's health. Especially if she is going to go on the pill. These are hormones that will be introduced to her body, and the Dr.needs to be sure that all is ok with her first. The whole process is professional, quick, and chaperoned by a nurse. It is a clinical thing and the Dr.is not thinking of the patients as anything but patients.
If it bothers you so much, explain it to your girlfriend nicely, and ask (key word is ask, not demand) that she see a female gynecologist for your sake.
It would be unfair to her and her health for you to not let her go.
2006-07-21 02:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by AlloAllo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a horrible boyfriend. I am being very serious. She needs to establish a relationship with her doctors. Especially the one that will possibly be delivering her children. Not all doctors are alike and it takes a while to find one you are comfortable with. I should know, I changed ob/gyn, dentists and general practitioners several times.
You are a retard who should have his penis checkout as well. When was the last time you had a checkup? She is being smart and taking care of business which could save a lot of heart ache in the future for both of you.
Plus the only thing a doctor is thinking about is driving his/her Jaguar to the club for a round of tennis, you dweeb. If you can't stand it why don't you go to medical school and become a doctor yourself, smarty pants.
By the by, were you a virgin when you got with her? If not she needs to run to the doctor and drag you along with her.
2006-07-21 02:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a bit weird to have to think of things like this. If your g/f is now sexually active with you, she will be going for what is called a smear test. Yes, it is nessessary Im afraid. It is to check for cervical cancers. All women have to have them every 3 years (in England, anyway) just to keep safe. She can always ask for a female nurse to do it if she is also worried about it. There is nothing sexual about these cervical scrapes, believe me! They are simply taking tissue samples.
No you aren't a bad boyfriend because you have said you wont try to stop her. Remember that she is only looking after her health. Did you ever stop to think that she might be uncomfortable with the idea, too? Just support her the best you can.
2006-07-21 02:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by lucy b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is necessay for an exam to assure her there is nothing going on that should not be. My gf was afraid to do that when she was yonger and ended up having a hysterectomy at 19 because of undetected cancer, never able to have a child, and had a micarriage shortly prior to it....It is imparative that you support her and encourage her to seek medical attention if need be and not let your own insecurities sway her decisions. Maybe you can ease your discomfort by having her see a female gynecologst.
Good luck.
2006-07-21 02:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok..u have a serious problem. each woman has to visit gynecologist in certain intervals to have check ups..is u really love ur gf u wouldnt be bothered abt it...on the contrary..u would encourage her to take care of her health! after or even better before first sex each girl should visit her gynecologist...its it the standard thing to do!!! and...if u really hate the thought of a guy checking up ur gf...then u can ask her to find a woman gynecologist...aslthough i have to say that doctors perform their duties highly professionally and there is no reason to fear something will happen...and now for my own well being... BOY U R SICK because u think a visit to gynecologist will change how u see ur gf...if ur relation will really change...this will be a prove how little u love her!
2006-07-21 02:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by teja_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Yes you are a bad Boyfriend. She's doing it for her own health, and to make sure she stays healthy, and you say 'Is that really necessary?' Yes, it is necessary to get on the birth control by doing that. They need to make sure that she has good health down there and to ensure that everything is fine before they give her the pill, for her OWN SAFETY. It's not like she's going to damn well enjoy it, it's uncomfortable and annoying.
Get over it. She's not "Yours" exclusively, she is her own person you know.
2006-07-21 02:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chill out. Regular exams are necessary for a woman's health. And the doctor is professional and isn't going to do anything that he or she hasn't done to a patient thousands of times before.
2006-07-21 02:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Biskit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not....but you are apparently uncaring.....He/She is a doctor, and what he/she may find could save her life.....before you take any pill, you need to have an exam....of some sort.....you don't get them over the counter......get over it....she will have to go 100's of time in her life.....and if she gets a cancer....could be a lot more times
2006-07-21 02:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to talk to a counselor about this one. Your concerns are COMPLETELY unfounded here. This is about women's health, NOT about your relationship. If you have a problem with the fact that your girlfriend is a GIRL, and girls have special health needs, then maybe you shouldn't be dating her.
2006-07-21 02:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by shawnybaby82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to chill out! it is so important for a girl to go to the gynocologist, especially if she is sexually active! and unless your ready to have babies (which i presume you are not by your ability to cope w/ a doctors appointment) she should go on the pill. would you feel more comfortable knowing she was going to a female gynocologist? you need to trust your girlfriend and be supportive, it's not always that easy going to a gynocologist. think about how she feels for once!
2006-07-21 02:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋