My wife and I did a role play the other day and this one kinda freak us out afterwards. So what is the boundaries for "role play" is it play rape or pretending to be a little girl or what about the man playing the submissive woman role what is boundary?
2006-07-21 01:50:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
As imposed from without, there are no lines for role play, although there are some that will cross the line for a lot of people. I would spectulate that anything bordering of beastiality, incest, or pedophilia might be taboo for most people, but to be honest, whatever goes on in the privacy of your home is not any else's business.
The place to draw a line is where at least one of you will refuse to cross. This is the line where it goes from consent to abuse, and it can come from either direction. (Yes, a submissive can actually abuse a Dominant, but it's more common the other way around.)
However, I suspect that what had happened was that the role-play that your wife and you did triggered some kind of negative emotional experience. Maybe it was personal, but I'm guessing that it was something more general, like stepping over a societal taboo.
I think that the problem is that it will be hard to avoid things like that. I would guess that you didn't go into the role-play with anything frightening in mind, but somehow it mutated into something that was not expected. You obviously can't plan for the unexpected, but you can take certain precautions.
Probably the biggest precaution would be to go over the plans for the role-play in advance and see if it might trigger something that either of you will be uneasy with. If one of you is writing the script, then the author needs to be open to the possibilities, but the better suggestion is to discuss this with each other beforehand.
Other than that, there are no real limits to role-playing. The only true limits are the ones that you impose upon yourselves.
Be well.
2006-07-24 18:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ѕємι~Мαđ ŠçїєŋŧιѕТ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boundary is what you (as a couple) are comfortable with. "Role Playing" is a great way to explore you and your partner's fantasies; it can also lead to some awkward situations if you go about it wrong. Sub/Dom, Cosplay, and pretty anything else you can think of is fair game, so long as both partners are agreeable with the situation.
The easiest and really the only way to set the boundaries is to talk about it beforehand with your partner. And a word of caution: if you do go in for a sadomasochistic or romanticized rape fantasy, set up a safety word, and don't be afraid to use it. A safety word is one of the fool-proof ways to stop the fantasy in case of real injury. (I've heard "canteloupe" as a good one; totally out of context to anything that's happening)
2006-07-21 02:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by hogan.enterprises 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the guy asks you to put on a strap-on and do it to him.
None of that stuff is crossing the line. Hey, I've played a hooker, a foreigner hell, even a ghost.
Lol. Look it might be cause for concern if it is something bothers you. Simply put. If it bothered yall than draw the line there.
2006-07-21 02:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by lala<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it you aren't talking about getting carried away by Diungeons and Dragons...
2006-07-21 01:53:42 · answer #4 · answered by rosends 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to not even do that. Just keep things cool and not even sexual if you can. ;x
2006-07-21 01:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by NA A 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋