A little over 4 months ago, I thought my husband was cheating.
Then one day, I discovered panties (not mine) in the bed.
When I confronted him, he clearly stumbled and then said
that they were his.
They don't smell like him. I don't believe it.
Since then, I've been helping him see his "feminine" side.
I started out replacing all of his underwear with panties and
then started making him wear bras, which he does daily.
A couple of weeks ago, I started replacing his outwear - he
is now wearing Victoria Secret's Body for Work - pants,
blazer. He's terrified, going into work though he claims nobody
has noticed.
How much further do you think he'll let me push him before
he confesses, and how much further should I take this.
I've been "re-enforcing" the dressing up by only paying
sexual attention to him when he's wearing what I tell him too.
He's becoming very submissive.
Is this road going where I think its going? Where should I stop?
Its nice to be the one wearing the pants.
2006-07-21 01:21:15 · 22 answers · asked by Elana 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are the kind of person who could be that manipulative and that cruel... if you could subject him to that kind of public and private humiliation... if you could use sex as a weapon to control, debase and humiliate another.... no matter what the reason... I understand why he would seek out another.
The saddest part is, it makes you feel good to be cruel. Hurting and debasing another human being makes you feel in control... actually proud. And you're wondering just how much more you can get away with.
That's my definition of true evil.
2006-07-21 02:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 15⤊ 5⤋
ROTFLOL!!! You seem to be in the drivers seat, because he 'wont confess', no matter what you do!
I gotta admit to his courage, for wearing these things and letting you do this, as he "knows" he is guilty as sin, and he "knows" if he confesses after all this, you can black mail him to his friends for wearing this sort of outfits :)
Where this will lead you, is probably divorce court, because eventually, he will say, its not worth it anymore, confess to you, and WANT to get a divorce, because you are humiliating him so much!!!
But, if he doesnt, and submits to your silliness, you will have broken his "spirit" with this nonesense, and you wont have the "man that you married" anymore, and YOU will start to hate his antics, because he isnt standing up and being counted for the man that he is...
So, if you have punished him enough, and have forgiven him, then let things go back to normal and I am hoping that you two will grow closer fot this...
I would also suggest counceling for you both, so that the marriage wont suffer if you dont hold this against him...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-21 01:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they belonged to him to be totally honest. I think he's hoping that you break and not take it any further. What's worse dealing with the affair or playing dress up?
I think I'd play dress up although it sounds horrible. Affairs last forever in the mind of the person that has been violated.
Unfortunately, I think he's called your card on this one and there's really nowhere else for you to go with this.
I'd just take it easy now but keep my eyes on full alert.
If panties were left by the other woman it was definitely on purpose OR you almost caught them.
On the other hand, if you are enjoying this enjoy it but stay alert!!!
2006-07-21 01:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say the panties dont smell like him, but do they smell like another women? Did you make him try them on and if so did they fit? I would care to bet that maybe he is cheating but still likes the dress up and the fact that your in control. maybe thats what he wanted all along.
2006-07-21 01:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta tell you...if I were a woman, I'd be YOU! Are you sure we're not long-lost family of some kind?
I'd go very far with this. Put him in a dress and take him to church. Do whatever it takes. Make a drag queen out of him. You do the driving, make him ride along. Put makeup on him. Take lots and lots of pictures, as this is a time to remember.
2006-07-21 01:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by sideshot72 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what I would do is confess that you don't like cross dressing, that you never did and that you wnated a divorce......... that you can't imagine being married to a cross dresser any longer......... that not even if he stops dressing like that now will it change your mind... that you couldn't forget such weirdness......... maybe if he feels like there is no way out with the cross-dressing that he will confess what he should originally confess......... he thinks he has the control of the situation........ by making you think you have the control........ which you don't........ hes playing you for an idiot.
2006-07-21 01:28:54 · answer #6 · answered by Coodles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would stop this now.Both of you need some couples counceling.Most men would not allow this to happen.Why in gods name would he allow you to dress him like a girl unless he likes it be careful you mat truly be opening up his feminine side and he may realize this is what he wanted in the first place.If he did cheat and hes playing along so he dosent get caught then this needs to come out in the open.This behavior is only going to hurt the two of you and your relationship.Start by communicating
2006-07-21 01:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Surely your not really getting any fun outta seeing your man dressed in drag??? Come on... either go to conselling our get a divorce...
That is certainly not the right way to deal with finding panties...
its just wrong...
And what kinda man goes along with this?? Are you 100% sure they arent his???
2006-07-21 01:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend if you wanted a woman ,you wouldn't have married a man!!! To each his own but It seems really weird to me that you're married to a cross dresser and talking about you being cool wearing the pants ,Women are helpmates to their Husbands so naturally we both wear pants anyway but to both wear panties?Houston we have a problem!
2006-07-21 01:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by cocoa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, that's just strange! But to each his own, if your enjoying your little game keep it up. But you may have more to loose than you think. Be careful. Whatever happened to honest and open communication between a couple?
2006-07-21 01:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of all the fun your having by getting your husband to dress up like that. He is bound to confess if you keep pushing the issue. Maby try make up next.. Good luck.......
2006-07-21 01:35:38 · answer #11 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋