I don't want t be rude, but it seems inappropriate to allow a male guest in to the house when I am alone. Also, it would really bother my husband.
2006-07-21 01:19:11 · 9 answers · asked by clair 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just say now is not a good time for me can you come back later.or not opening the door always works.did you know that 90%of women that are killed or raped in there homes knew the person and was comfortable letting them in .I always think of those statistics when I even let a neighbor in my house,I always blame my husband that always works flat out my husband doesnt think thats a good idea, that should work for him if he doesnt respect your wishes then hes not a friend,maybe he goes to your house when you hubby isnt there for a purpose that your not aware of .
2006-07-21 01:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you've just said. You don't want to be rude, but you feel that it is inappropriate to have a male guest in your house when your husband is not home, and that you know your husband would be very upset if he knew. He should respect your wishes. If he doesn't then you can get a little more rude about it since he won't respect.
I suspect that he will gracefully stop coming to visit when your husband is not around, maybe he will stop coming around all together. He may have an attraction toward you, why else would he come by just to see you. This can be a problem, so stop it now before it's too late. You should also let your husband know what is happening so no one can go to him and say that they see this man coming over to see you when he is not there. Explain to your husband that you are not comfortable with this and that you are going to ask him to stop visiting.
2006-07-21 08:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Montclair:
The basis for your question bothers me just a bit. You've got good answers and I couldn't improve on the answer from Blue Passion. BUT, having said that, it bothers me just a bit that you feel the need to do this "gracefully," and "not be rude" in protecting your peace of mind. You and your peace of mind and comfort are primary, second to none, and come far, far ahead of the visitor and his goals whatever they may be. Too often folks put the feelings and thoughts of others before their own. I hope you aren't doing that.
2006-07-21 08:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You politely and respectfully tell him that your husband is not home and at what time he will be there. Then ask him if he could return once your husband is home. If the matter is that important give him the phone number to your husbands location and have him to call your husband to discuss the issue.
2006-07-21 09:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this one. when you open the door block the entrance with your body and after you speak to him for a few minutes tell him you would have invited him in but you are just about to get ready to go out. If that fails then you must tell him straight out that you don't think it will be right for him to come in at this time.
2006-07-21 08:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just politely tell them you'd be happy visit them when your husband is there, and you can add if you want that your husband prefers it that way. Most men will understand, it is a respect thing.
2006-07-21 08:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if it sounds rude.I tell people if my husbands not home no entering.Most of his friends know not to even come by if he is not home.Being rude is better than losing the trust or respect of your husband.Good luck God bless:O)
2006-07-21 08:58:39 · answer #7 · answered by melissa_froggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you have nosey neighbors and that it wouldnt look right.
Good for you! I agree!! It would be inappropriate.
Best wishes!
2006-07-21 12:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by AccountableLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband and let him handle it
2006-07-22 01:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by allboutH1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋