like you love someone but you just can't stand how the ay he ack when he's with his friends or with any body else, and when you want to leave him you can't.
2006-07-21 01:10:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The way I see it, you have 3 options on how to deal with this relationship you have:
First is learn to accept him for what he is. If you truly love him, you will love everything about him, including every flaw and every irritating detail about him. You cannot love a person and just want the good side of him. All people, just like things, come in twos: a good side and a bad side, a beautiful side and an ugly side. You'll just have to learn to love and accept both sides of him. He's not perfect, just like anyone...... just like you.
Second, if this behavior that you can't stand is something that you think he can change (if he wants to), then why not talk to him. I'd say, communication is always the best cure for any relationship problems. Open up and let him know that his attitude when the two of you are in the company of his friends is bothering you, irritating you. If he loves you that much, he'll try to see it from your point of view, or maybe he could explain why he acts that way so you'll understand. Anyway, if both of you are willing to make your relationship work, problems like this can always be solved by talking and then coming to a compromise.
Lastly, break up with him. If you can't accept him and he's not willing to change either, then I'd say, that is not love. You are both settling, and that is the greatest mistake anyone can make in keeping a relationship. You should never settle for second best. In love, there is no room for second best, only THE BEST. So if it isn't working, the relationship doesn't make you happy, then both of you part ways amicably and move on. Clearly, he's not the one meant for you (and you for him) and your "The One" is still out there looking for you.
2006-07-21 01:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand him then it isn't love.
Now that you have that information act upon it.
Dump his sorry @ss.
You are just afraid of being alone.
If you are a good person you'll find another guy real quick.
If you can't dump a guy that's a jerk you'll end up in an abusive marriage.
Have some courage. Do what's best for you. Find your inner strength. You'll need it as you go through life. There's a lot of pain to be experienced.
2006-07-21 08:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him about the way he acts when he's with other people? Maybe he doesn't realize what he's doing. I don't understand how you can love him if he acts differently when your with people. If you really want to leave him and your not happy with the way he is, you need to get the courage to leave him. It's probably one of the hardest things you will ever do but if you wan to be happy and be in a good relaionship find another guy. Good luck!
2006-07-21 08:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assumably you mean "the way he acts". So...just how does he "act" with his friends around. How does it affect you? In what manner? Why can't you leave him? Chained to a wall?
You see.....very little information was provided to properly answer your question. Any answers you receive are half baked and following them could lead you into deeper problems or to make rash decisions that could possibly damage this relationship to the point it cannot be repaired.
Try giving abit more information next time if you're soliciting advice.
2006-07-21 08:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you love him but don't like the way he acts,Then love him enough to leave him alone!!!! Seriously this is the number one warning sign of a bad relationship!!! We as women always think we can look over the flaws and change a man but in reality we can't !!!!!keep it moving baby girl, there is a better man for you!!!
2006-07-21 08:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what we call a dilemma, and dilemma's are usually solved by making a choice, which requires weighing the pros's and con's of each choice, implementing a decision, and dealing with the consequences of whatever decision is made.
2006-07-21 08:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by a_poor_misguided_soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets face it...
He will "be" with his friends for the rest of his life, with you or with out you.
If you cant stand him now, it wont get any better later on in life!! I gaurantee it!
Those friends will influence his behavior for a long time, and you trying to change him, with your "womanly ways" is going to be a trial for him, as he will "reject" you for a long time, trying to change him, because he likes the way he is... You will be trying to change him, so that he will be a good father and husband!!
He may not be ready for that...so, if you dont want to "wait" for him, look for brighter prospects for marriage.
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-21 08:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then sit him..(just kidding)..best you leave him..coz you need someone you can be comfortable with..if the same proceeds, in future you might even end up hating him..so leave while you can..
& if you def cant do that..then sit down with him & discuss the issues & come up with a mutually agreeable solution..
my best wishes ^& luck to you lady..
2006-07-21 08:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by suppu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if already tried talking to him about it, then I would look somewhere else for someone more compatible with you. But if you havent talked to him yet, just mention your feelings and see if you two can compromise respectfully, if not, then bail. Good luck
2006-07-21 08:15:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not want to sound mean... but, this is my honest opinion.
Well, it sounds to me like you are over protective and you need to give him some space.
If you dont like how he is around his friends, or anyone else - perhaps you are jealous?
It sounds like an obsession.
2006-07-21 08:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by Patti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋