Why Stay Married for 20 Years????

Question

Once the kids are gone, why should a man stay tied to a woman for the rest of his life?

For years women have prided themselves on being able to work and take care of a home....why not let them.

For the most part all most men have done it all too in the last few generations [except actually give birth]

Answer 1

This question shows an immiturity.

But Ill bite... The reason to stay ina marriage for 20 years is because you have struggled through some trials that have strengthened your marriage. The 20 year mark is when things REALLY start to pay off!!! The house can almost be paid for. The kids are about ready to leave the nest (not in my case..still 4 more little ones 15- 2years). You know eachother like the back of your hand. Retirements are around the corner..yes!! I say because after 20 years it all starts to pay off. You can breathe a sigh of relief that "you've made it! Against all the odds and obsticles that were in your way.

Married 20+ years...it gets better every day!

Answer 2

They should remain together because of love. If you feel you are tied down, then even after 20 years, not much growing up was done.

And you are right most men have worked and taken care of home but not in the same way women have. Most woman have had to go out to work because the cost of living is so high now that one income is just not possible for most. The difference is that even though a woman's job has shifted from just working at home to having to work outside also, most men have remained the same. Working outside the home and helping out financially. Women have had to continue doing most of the household tasks such as cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids, while most men come home from work take a shower, eat dinner and relax. I speak from experience!

Notice, I did say MOST, I didn't say ALL. I know that there are some men out there that put in their fair share out there, so please don't misunderstand me. I am just saying that when women started working outside the home, they just added another job on themselves.

Answer 3

I think people stay together that long because they actually want to not because they are forced.They love each other with all there heart and soul and together they are one.Hey that love does exist but in these ages its very hard to find.My grandparents were married 55 years and would still be if they were alive.I think if more people had that kind of love for there mate or had that kind of commitment before hopping into marriage that are divorce rate would drop drastically.Point is if you dont want it to be FOREVER then dont get married.Listen to the vows TILL DEATH DO US PART

Answer 4

becuase the husband LOVES the wife, and after 20 years they are a well integrated team. And they got married promising each other a lifetime of marriage.

Sorry, but I didn't marry my husband only to have him around to help with the kids. HECK, we might not even have any. We love each other, are best friends and love doing things together. I am already looking forward to kicking the kids out of the house, and growing old with my husband and having our freedom again.

you sound pretty selfish, I wonder who's going to be there to take care of you and keep you company when you are old.Actually, sounds to me like you don't give a crap about love and just want to deposit your sperm in a few places and run along. Sounds like a lonely life to me

Answer 5

This sounds like a loaded question if you are married and feel this way you should do your wife a favor and not stay "tied" I understand some people truly believe in the "til death do us part" and I say bravo to them but for some I think we marry for the wrong reasons then sit back and wonder why it all fell apart.

Answer 6

If the couple truly loves each other and loves doing things together, they should stay married. They made a commitment to do so, and took vows. Society today is based on upgrading everything - from computers to people. It is disgusting to think that it's all about "using" someone until someone else better comes along. I don't believe in that.

Answer 7

Marriage is supposed to be, it not always done, but it is supposed to be a union of minds, souls, hearts, bodies and emotions. Finding that best friend and hanging on to them for life. Why would you want to get rid of your spouse after the kids? Especially if you hold out and marry your best friend? Yes, females can work, but that doesn't mean the emotional need for your soulmate goes away. If it does, you need to really sit down and ask God why.

Answer 8

When you stay with someone for that long you have a few benefits. They know what you like and what you hate. You can be at your absolute worst and you are pretty sure they won't run away screaming. Or you can be at your absolute best and they will be there to give you a high five. They have seen you in the morning and at night. Hmmmmm, I am thinking best friend with benefits.

Answer 9

So the man could have his wife bury him. You do realize that women usually out live men. Usually it is more beneficial for the man than it is for the woman to stay together.

I take it you are not around a lot of senior citizens.

Answer 10

You have an interesting perspective. My husband and I are not having children at all. How do you explain those relationships?

If you are with a woman because you feel "tied" to her, you should not be with her at all. You are doing a disservice to her, the children, and yourself.

I hope you find someone who helps you see relationships differently.