i was with a man for four years and we were enganged and we had a house and were trying for a baby, then he got distant from me. he would ignore me at times, until one day he turned around to me and said that he has never loved me. call me crazy but was it just lust or did he fall out of love with me. i dont care now as i have a very loving partner and i hate my ex for being like that but i want to know everyones point of veiw? lust or love??
2006-07-21 00:57:05 · 14 answers · asked by luckylu2k3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That was hurtful. Whatever his problem was it wasn't you kid. He probably did love you but if this is how he expresses himself he's done you a huge favor,toxic people give toxic love which in my opinion isn't love at all. I'm pleased your with some one else that deserves your affection, it give me hope for me. Thanks.
2006-07-21 01:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 20⤊ 3⤋
Love hun defo love!!! Four years is waaaaaayyy to long to be in lust! Personally speaking, I think lust wears off after the first 6 months when you know someone intimately!!
The fact that ye got the house and trying for a baby was a sure indication that he loved you. You dont make decisions like that on a whim or hope taht you may grow to love a person.
If you ask me he had mental issues and thats why he tried to turn against you with what he said. You're defo better off without a jerk like him - and best of luck with your partner now!
2006-07-21 08:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that when men act like that, there is ALWAYS an underlying circumstance. If you were with him for four years with no children, then some dynamic of the relationship has changed. Did you gain weight, did he fall in "lust" with someone less concerned with have a child? Did he feel like his freedom would be in jeopardy, or maybe is he needy, and felt like the "baby" would or was getting all the attention, and he was feeling left out? What ever the reason, no woman should be made to feel less than loved. Congrats on the new partner, and look forward with love in your heart, and it will all work out for you.
2006-07-21 08:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by doublediamonds1409 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Lust is a powerful thing. I was in lust (at the time I thought it was love) with a guy for 2 or 3 years. We had an AMAZING, INCREDIBLE, PASSIONATE physical relationship However, when lust dies, if there is no love, there is no relationship. That guy and I are no more.
2006-07-21 10:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by enigma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.tought one. In my opinion he must have been in love with you at somepoint to let the relationship progress that far. If he wasn't then he was an idiot for stringing you along for so long. I doubt Lust would have lasted four years.
Sorry to hear about your breakup but glad to hear you have found a loving partner :)
2006-07-21 08:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by hollykingham79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have loved you, but if he was then he fell out of love with you at some point...not sure it's possible to lust after someone for that length of time, although it may happen.
Hope you can move on.
2006-07-21 08:02:17 · answer #6 · answered by Gavin T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he must have loved you at some point. I think he just fell out of live with you. I don't think someone can be in a relationship for all time, especially having gone through what you guys did, and not love each other for a bit at least.
2006-07-21 08:01:05 · answer #7 · answered by Tricky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never really know.
There would have been lust at first. You would have given him love and he would have liked that and felt love for you in return while you were making him happy. Something within him made him feel he wanted to move on so he tells you he never loved you to make you feel bad and him guiltless. Very typical of men who can't settle down.
2006-07-21 08:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by FontOfNoKnowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion I would have to say lust, he fell for a woman, got a house, tried for a child then prolly though 'wait a minute am not really ready for this I don't want to be tied down' then chose to be heartless to you cos he wasnt man enough to dump you in a respectable way either that or he said it to you to make you hate him so you would'nt beg him back
2006-07-21 08:03:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't stay with someone for 4 years if there's not an element of love goin on,my guess is that yes,maybe he did eventually fall outta love with you,maybe things were crap towards the end and he became bitter towards you which resulted in him saying such a hurtful thing,in any case,i think he did love you,just fell out of it after a while,does happen unfortunately,glad to hear you've moved on,good luck!
2006-07-21 08:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by ♥cozicat♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im glad youre now with someone else instead of that complete idiot. what some guys do is they'll be with a girl, but they'll still look for somebody else, and when they make that catch, they'll forget you. Although, most of my girlfriends have done the exact same thing! but I think it was lust, to be honest
2006-07-21 08:04:49 · answer #11 · answered by shadowrunneruk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋