i dun enjoy being antisocial. i feel lonely. but whenever im with some1 its very hard to start a topic. so i rather avoid pple. then ill feel lonely.and sad.depressed..
2006-07-20 23:42:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
how can i be brave and nt feel shy..
2006-07-20 23:52:25 · update #1
Antisocial is something really different from shy. Antisocial implies problems with understanding others emotions (e.g. empathy) and to do anything for yourself. An antisocial person would do something even if it gained him/her only a bit, and had a great negative effect for a another person (often even "loved ones"). Antisocial persons are often perceived as NOT BEING SHY.
If you're shy, you should try to find the reasons. Some people are afraid of social situations, this do not have do mean that they do not have anything to say. Others have not learned very well how to behave in different situations. The best tips would be to try to stay as long as you can in every social situation, even if it's hard (if you've got fear: at least until your fear is gone) and try to talk to people even though the situation seems embarrassing. Little by little you will see that people accept you for who you are and are interested in your life/opinions, and also that you feel more confidant talking to others.
Give yourself credit!
Treat yourself in a good way!
2006-07-21 14:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by pulsi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it goes down to your personality. You should be a quiet person. Normally a quiet person have this sort of characteristic. Dun be too depress, this is some thing you face yourself. You have to change to tryr to communicate with others. be it you start a conversation or others start a conversation. You can listen to what they say and join in later if you wish too. I believe you can be successful if you are willing to take the first step.
Coz I am just like you previously and I slowly changing now but it takes time so must be patient
2006-07-22 01:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you, I guess you have some reasons to be what you are, I guess you are shy, and you don't start the initiative and you are afraid to show your feelings towards other people. It's pity for you, but I don't blame you, well I would advice you to try to be brave, or at least try to make friends, and talk to them
2006-07-20 23:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was like this for a very long time, now i am quiet unless someone talks to me. i know others at work call me the quiet girl, but they also are intrigued and know i work hard.i came to accept it, and now i am to myself, but i can be friendly. it takes time to get comfortable in one setting . it took me a year to talk to the others i work close with, and at first when i did i would get soo nervous i would just say something quick and be quiet. i avoid everyone lol, but not in a mean way, ive come to like my own personal space but it takes time to look at this as actually something positive. mostly the people around me are not people i would really want around me anyways, so im content with just having associates, and no friends. maybe you will see that this is better, but you have to have confidence in time i think it will come to you.
2006-07-21 00:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should it be you to START the topic?
how about socialising via an interest - try out a local (any old) interest / hobby-type club - (see local nwspapers, aswell as internet) - where most people are there for the common activity, not conversation ?
2006-07-20 23:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lalalahooah D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different dude, just because ur shy and not the loudest person on the planet doesnt mean theres anything wrong with you, we are all different , just be who u are and stuff em!!
2006-07-20 23:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by yahwhoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is just normal!I know people like you but they are contented and happy!Maybe you have a lot of insecurities that you must have to evaluate your inner and outer personality check!
2006-07-20 23:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby and then you will start to talk to others about the hobby. It will make you talk to others. Then you will see how easy it is!!!
2006-07-21 01:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make some friends,go out with them and enjoy your life!!!!
2006-07-21 02:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by akar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just the way u feel..that is your personality ..you dont hav to feel bad about your self ..but try to socialise with others too for the sake of your health..
2006-07-20 23:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by embe dodo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋