i have a possessive boyfriend. he is actually my first. for almost four years of the relationship, i know he loves me more than he love himself. he was even brought to the hospital when i tried to give him up. I love him for sure and i cannot imagine myself loving another. But he is extremely jealous even to my girlfriends, so strict, domineering. I always does effort for him but these efforts are not appreciated. he instead saw the small mistakes i did. i love him but i dont consider him to be my future husband. i want to forget him and erase him completely in my life. it is hurt but i know it is the best thing to do. what should i do?
2006-07-20 21:20:49 · 11 answers · asked by ladyheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just simply leave him. Your heart will love you for this. You dont have a possessive boyfriend.. you have an obsessive one. Tell him when you leave him... that you do love him but cannot live with this overcontrolling, obsessive relationship. He DOES NOT OWN YOU. Get out of this relationship and find you someone who loves you, all your ways, all your friends and love you for being you.
Good Luck girl.
2006-07-20 21:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Erk
Control Freak
Not For Me
You Have To Have Your Freedom
You Are Not Married To Him
So Have Fun N Choose Rite
This Is The Time To Enjoy
Not Getting Tied Up
Have Fun
Make A Good Choice
Take Care N Good Luck
2006-07-21 04:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right using the word possessive. This man is trying to control every part of your life. There is nothing good about doing that to someone else. That is not love. You need to be able to be your own person within a relationship, any man does also. There is no need for you not to have any friends. If he is not letting you see them there is not trust in your relationship. I don't think that you would want to make a loving commitment like marriage with a relationship like this. To be honest, that kind of control is actually abuse, mental and emotional abuse. I have been there. Do not let him do this to you any more. There is a reason you are questioning it. Follow your instincts. Blessed Be.
2006-07-21 04:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already answered your Question, you said it was the best thing to do. Thats VERY good that you know what you must do even if it hurts. All you have to do now is get your friends there to support you. If you leave your going to need to feel loved or you might go back.
No matter what he does dont fall for it. He sounds very manipulative. Just be strong and think about your future wouldnt you rather a person giving you freedom rather than running ur freedom
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-07-21 04:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if it is a restrictive relationship even a hurtful one.
Make the break clean. Do not inquire as to how he is, or ask other people. don't accept calls. maybe you can be friends later maybe not. but you have realized that it is an unhealthy relationship. Sometimes our firsts are very special but we know it is not meant to be. seek counselling if you need it. but the less contact with him initially will make it easier.
good luck.
2006-07-21 04:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by SumoJoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is on your side..
given time and patience one can overcome almost any obstacle.
don't give in and keep letting him know in a nice a way as possible, that you don't want to be with him.
he sounds like he has emotional problems..you are at least smart enough to realize you don't want to be with him forever.. don't make the mistake of going back over and over to him.
people learn things by repetition.. the more you give in to him, he learns you will come back, and it will hurt worse in the long run, and you also learn..to keep going back..
time may not heal all wounds,, but they will hurt less and less as it passes..
2006-07-21 04:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by gorillablunts123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop all the contacts with him,
looks like a extreme person, just be careful what ever you do.
its pain for you if still stay in this relation, just get out soon.
time is the only one capable of healing your heart,
2006-07-21 04:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by who is this 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is dangerous and you need to run away as fast as you can. He will be hitting you before it's over if you don't get out!!! Jealousy is natural, but he's using it to control you.
2006-07-21 04:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by yamaha bassman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your heart conquer you.
Let your brain decide what is good for you.
2006-07-21 04:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what to do. Dump him.
2006-07-21 04:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋