My friend and I got into an argument and we both said some things we shouldn't have. I will apologize but I am afraid she will not do so in return. She has A LOT of pride and is known to not ever admit to being wrong. Should I drop the friendship if she refuses to apologize?
2006-07-20 21:02:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Never say sorry, thats admitting guilt, even if I'm wrong I dont say sorry, if people dont like it they can lump it.
2006-07-20 21:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by yahwhoon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are sorry for the things that you said, then say so, this does not mean you are right or wrong,
Don't apologize with the expectation that she should, just be the person who you want to be,
You can say, i am sorry for any hurt that you felt as a result of our argument, and you mean too much to me to ever hurt you,
if you drop the friendship because she does not do as you do, then the friendship couldnt be that strong,,
if she is worth the times you have spent together. than apologize for the sake of acknowledging you said hurtful things, and for that you were wrong,
just pretened if she were accidentally killed, what would you want to say,?
AND WHY? and then be greatful you have the chance,
if she does not apologize, thats ok (don't need that apology) JUST NEED TO be a better person who puts out every effort to remain close to your friend,
pride is worthless, you can't eat it, wear it or have sex with it,, so good luck,
2006-07-21 04:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important to you, the friendship or getting an apology? If you say the apology than you were never really friend to begin with. Raise above her and apologize. At least you'll have the satisfaction of being the better person.
2006-07-21 04:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by andrea b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly apologize, then you are doing what is right. I advise you to do that, no matter how she will react.
If she doesn't apologize back... it means she is dropping the friendship, not you. But give her time. Apologize, and if she doesn't leave her alone for a bit, don't go on with the fight. If it's true friendship, it will heal, eventually. And I talk from experience.
2006-07-21 04:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How important do you rate your friendship with her? If you rate it as a friendship that you want to keep then keep the friend. Tell her this, "I think both of us said things we shouldn't of said, so lets forget about it and move on." I have a lot of pride and don't like to admit when I'm wrong, but if you tell me to just put it behind me, then I'll do it. Good Luck!
2006-07-21 11:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes. Accept your fault and apologize for the words you had thrown at her. If you admit in your heart what you had done, it would be easy to say sorry. It is not easy though. But I guess, true friendship could stand anything.
2006-07-21 04:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by czaroma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should it worry you that she might not apologize....it's yourself you are freeing by apologizing. By doing so,You have showed yourself you are the bigger person...besides it is a very good feeling...I have always been the first to say I'm sorry, if I really feel sorry..so go on, do it...you will feel G R E A T.....better than post toasties...
2006-07-21 04:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by gigigal906 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember the most mature will apologize! sometimes even the hardest person can break and ask for forgiveness! at this point there is no need to shift the blame, if she is a good friend then go say im sorry even if you were right!
2006-07-21 04:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by DUSTY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Jessica, I always believe sincere and quiet talk would resolve any issues pertaining to your miscommunications or arguments. Set a date and place for just the two of you, alone. Resolve those as soon as possible. I dealt with such instances that all my friends from webdate*com always take my advices and with positive outcom.
2006-07-21 04:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by edz1624 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you drop the friendship it won't solve anything because you'll still feel guilty. My advice to you is to do your part and say you're sorry and then leave it with her. If she accepts then there's nothing to worry about. But if she doesn't then you'll feel alittle bit better because atleast you tried and if she's willing to throw away a relationship then it's her fault, and not yours. I hope that helps you out.
2006-07-21 04:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"With friends like that, who needs enemas?" Were you wrong? If you sinned , it is your job to repent. You may want to re-evaluate your friendship-- but that is up to you.. You can only make you do the right thing, she has to choose for herself whether she wants to carry her pride to hell or drop that pride in the ditch where it belongs..
2006-07-21 04:14:28 · answer #11 · answered by mr.phattphatt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋