Is it true that lesbians have a bad relationship with their mother/father?

Question

I know a few lesbians and they all came from single parent households. Their father was absent. However, can a lesbian have a father that is emotionally smothering? And/or a emotionally detached mother? Or vice versa?

is there any research/ and or life experiences that can back up your answer?

you guys are the most pathetic group of answerers i have ever saw

Answer 1

im pretty sure there isnt a definant formula for calculating what causes people's sexual prefferances, if thats what you're trying to figure out. But... to answer your questions in the most honest way i know how...

Yes some lesbians have bad relationships with their parents, and yes some lesbians come from single parent households. Yes, some lesbians have fathers who are emotionally smothering, and yes some lesbians have emotionally detatched mothers, or vice versa.
To further answer your question, yes many heterosexual people experiance these same conditions when growing up. HOW CAN THIS BE????
(i read and have friends.)

the reason is that each person is differant. i will use myself as an example.

I was born with no sexual prefferance, but i had it in my capacity to be a lesbian. i know this because i am a lesbian. I am not sure if i would be straight if my mother had been more...i dunno... nice?
some times i feel that i missed out on some female affection from my mother, and that my father was the only one who was ever there for me. other times i feel that my parents hardly existed.. and then there was my grandma who was there all the time no matter what and she was awsome. i even sometimes wonder if my parents made me gay. but see... then i remember how it feels to be homosexual.. and it doesn't FEEL like something ive been taught..it feels like its me. but who knows...or cares?

what i do know is this: i am sexually and mentally attracted to women, and i would not **** my mother OR my father.

Answer 2

It's unlikely that is has anything to do with parenting, since you'll find straight children in the same home as gay children. If wonderful v. assholetic parents were the issue, you would have families with either all straight or all gay children. Since we have families with children of multiple orientations, bad parental relationships does not seem to be a correlation.

You likely also know many straight women who came from single parent households with absent fathers.

I have lesbian friends who are from single and two parent households. Some have absolutely wonderful relationships with both parents, some haven't talked to their parents years. Some lesbians may now have bad relationships with their mother or father because of the orientation - Not all parents lovingly accept their gay children. So, if you are seeing this trend, you can also consider that lesbianism could be the cause of the rift rather than the result of a bad relationship.

I hope that makes sense.

By the way, i read your other questions. Dump the boyfriend already! You'll find someone else who is really good to you that doesn't have all the hangups. And, I recommend putting baby wipes in the bathroom.

Answer 3

I had a not great relationship with my mother, and a father who I had never even met until a year ago (that's pretty absent for you). However, I'm not a lesbian (nor did I CHOOSE to be straight, that's just the way I am...). That doesn't really provide you with an answer, but it shows at least that absent fathers are not a necessary and sufficient condition for homosexuality in women.

Answer 4

It's not true their are many lesbians who have great relationships with their mother or father, but their are some who the father or mother figure is missing, so a relationship with parents depends on how supportive the parents are towards the daughter.

Answer 5

Women who love other women are human beings, with the same blessings and difficulties as all other people. A rethoric question would be : Do straight people have perfect relationships with their parents?

Homosexuality is not "caused" by outer forces, neither is it chosen. It is a natural variety of sexual preference.

I wish to thank the asker for giving an upfront and thought provoking question though! Many just assume based on what they have limited experience of.

Thanks

Answer 6

Define a good/bad relationship with a mother. My mother passed away when I was 15, but I knew I was a lesbian, before that!. Plus I was raised by my mother and grandmother, my father was absent since day one, so please tell me how I became gay for my mother being absent. My mother was home with me everyday of my life, I was loved very much by my mother.

Answer 7

As far as I know there are no studies to prove or disprove this theory. Your question assumes that homosexuality is due to nurture rather than nature.
I am a lesbian by nature, I come from a two parent, christian home with multi siblings. We were raised the same way and none of them are homosexual.

Answer 8

Not in the slightest, i only told my family about 2yrs ago (they had no idea!) we have always been close an it has never once affected our relationship, my parents are just as close to my girlfriend as they are me.
Parents should be proud of there daughter or son whatever their sexual orientation.

Answer 9

this is actually a very researched subject and when my family sent to therapy becuase i am gay that was brought up it turned out to be true.......i never really hung out with my mother so my father was distant in my life!! and it is said that
we eroticize the unknown and men were my unknown.....bu that still didnt change me!!! i still like the dick

Answer 10

There is considerable research into why people are homosexual. For most, at least, it is a factor pre-determined at birth, and thus unrelated to childhood relationships.