I am dating a guy for 7 months now and I really love him with all my heart. I mean what ever happens between me and him I don't want to loose him.
Last week I visited him at his place. I was trying to pack some papers and I found a medical application form. Which it has him and his child and a women's name. But the women is not using my boyfriends surname. I want to ask him about this women. of which he always tells me that he loves me and he will never leave me. He told me about the women that his just the mother of his child. What i want to know from him where do I fit in his life if this women is in his medical aid. I didn't digg for the medical aid I just came accross it as I was cleaning. And it wasn't my interntion to get that. Please give me any advise what should I do. I love him and I know he loves me too.
2006-07-20 20:18:36 · 5 answers · asked by The Shadow 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would really like guys to help on this one
2006-07-20 20:22:10 · update #1
whatever is bothering you, you have to get the answer from him. Have a talk and straighten things out. Dont be afraid to lose him; it will make u too vulnerable. Nothing in life is ever permanent; so be strong and know the truth - the real truth that would set u free once and for all. Learn to move on...
2006-07-20 20:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably still on his medical from when they were together, and he forgot to take her off. Maybe he feels partly responsible for her because she's the mother of his child, especially if she doesn't have any coverage of her own. What will happen to the child if the mom gets sick and can't get any help because she has no coverage???
Ask him about it, if you're both so in love you should be able to be honest with each other. Make sure he knows you aren't angry or jealous first, and that you love him no matter what the answer is - you're just curious.
2006-07-21 03:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a boyfriend that has three kids from a previous relationship so I will tell you from expirience that is not easy to understand someones past if you dont have that much baggage. But what you have to come to terms with is that he is FOREVER tied to the mother of his kids. That does not mean that he loves her or wants a relationship with her.
He is with YOU and if you feel that he loves you dont be afraid of the ex becuse you will affect your relationship with him by getting jealous over something that is OVER. Try to get to know the history of why they broke up maybe that will help you feel better. But if you cannot deal with the fact that he has a past that will ALWAYS be there you should consider finding someone else. Becuse this will torment you both and you will live unhappy all the time. Good luck.
2006-07-21 03:46:59 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a question of applying for medical aid for this other woman, that means that he is permanently invloved with her. So I would suggest that you get on with your life as he is not likely to ever forget the other woman.
2006-07-21 03:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,if it is really bugging you& you really love him,then you should let him knowexactly how you feel about it,if you absoloutly have to have an answer demand the truth out of him
2006-07-21 03:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by joshua y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋