we invited our guests over last time so they can use our extra room so they can do whatever they want in it so they don't have to waste their money on the hotel. well my husbant and i realize dit was a bad idea, for we had no privacy etc etc. now they're asking if they can stay over the weekend again and we don't want them to. what can we tell them without hurthing their feelings? thanks
2006-07-20 20:15:17 · 11 answers · asked by chapped lips 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you don't want to just say no then make up a reason, like you already have someone staying over - if they drop by and no one is there say that they cancelled at the last minute and it was too late to tell them.
Tell them you are going away for the weekend and no one will be home. If they see you didn't leave, invent a reason why you had to cancel plans at the last minute.
Tell them that one of you are very sick and won't have anyone over so that no one else catches what you have.
Tell them you have food poisoning and you are so sick you aren't in the mood to have company.
2006-07-20 20:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
If your "guests" are coming from far away then you can always tell them that you have couple of other people using your spare room (friends, relatives anybody) as they needed this favor pretty bad.
Another way is to make that spare room unavailable by making it un-cosy (no couches, no beds) dump things to make it look like a studio, Home theater room or anything (which you would like to have in yr home) ..and tell them "oh we are so sorry, we had this planned so long, you can come home anytime to watch a great movie ...popcorn's on the house ..chuckle chuckle" ;)
2006-07-21 03:32:32 · answer #2 · answered by sans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a child at home or a study room? This is one of the best reason for unwanted guest trying to stay at your home.
I face this every school holiday when friends from overseas come and stay at my place (I have 2 spare room as my daughter sleep together with us in one room.
I make one room into a study room, move my cupboard from my room, put in a computer desk. and leaving space not enough to put a bed in.
2nd room, I put my daughter's bed, her cupboard, a study table and all the toys.
Whenever a guest pop over my place, they will notice that I do not have any space room to offer.
If you do not have a child, make that room as your dressing room. Move all the cupboard, dressing table, ironing board, whatever that can fill the space room.
2006-07-21 03:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by davidtay25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Tell them, "We have discussed it, and we feel we made a mistake and should not have done that, so we are not going to do it again. I'm sorry, but our house is not a free hotel. We don't want to hurt your feelings, but it just can't be done anymore." That clears the air, with no doubt, and it will remedy any future inquiries. Besides, if they are responsible to have sex, they should be responsible enough to pay for the room or make their own arrangements. After all, they're not children. If they are going to behave like adults, they need to pay like adults. Your house is not a brothel. It's your home, your sanctuary, and nobody should be allowed to invade it, no matter WHO they are!!!
2006-07-21 03:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by godslovelyrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure the room will not be available anymore... use it as your computer room, a video/audio room, or whatever that comes into mind. in this way, you don't need to lie about the room not being available.
just add... the room was just temporarily free during the time you let them stay, and it was really up for redecoration.
2006-07-21 03:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have been very busy these days and will let them know when it is convenient to have them over again.
Then when they ask again tell them how much you enjoyed having them there, but your mother-in-law (or mother, or grandmother, or sister etc.) is currently visiting.
All of this is assuming you do not want to hurt their feelings. Does neither one of them have a place of their own?
If theirs is an illicit affair I would just tell them no that I don't feel right about contributing to hurting others.
2006-07-21 03:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell them that you are going out on the weekend or that you have other people coming over for the weekend or tell them plain and straight that weekends are meant for the Family.
2006-07-21 03:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by majorcavalry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you don't like to have company as often as that. Blame it on your husband. Tell your husband to blame it on you. Either way you will get the message across. Tell them you like your privacy because you like quality time with your spouse.
2006-07-21 03:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think honesty will serve you best in the long run. Tell them you value their friendship, but the "experiment" you tried made you uncomfortable.
2006-07-21 03:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by Sheila Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say sorry but the room isnt free anymore that you are using it for work, gym etc
horrible when that happens isnt it
2006-07-21 03:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋