Is it still possible to find a faithful man and have a long lasting marriage nowadays??
I'm 29 ,single, never had kids. Is it still possible for women like me to find a good man? It seems wherever we look we see nothing but bad news.
At times it seems that the only way for me to find a good man is to pray for one. Its like we need a freaking miracle in order to meet and marry one. Especially to find a faithful one.
2006-07-20 19:48:57 · 20 answers · asked by liipl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-07-20 19:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't honestly know about meeting one at 29 but if I met one when I was 16, now 29, then I would think that there are still nice guys. I have even known a few guys, other then my husband who are nice guys. I have been married for 11 years and my husband is still faithful to me. He is still attentive and still loves spending time with me. I would say that there are still good guys out there. BTW, I would say that praying for a good guy to love you makes perfect since.
I'm sorry, but I have to add this. I was reading some of the comments that were written and I ran across cdcdcdcd's answer. If you are settling for a man who isn't faithful, you are only fooling yourself. I might could see straying one time but to continuing to stray is not acceptable.
I am glad I didn't marry a man who had to same opinion as you do.
2006-07-21 11:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nikki R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is. I have been married once for 16 years. I have never strayed. I am not the exception. You may be looking in the wrong places. Church groups(I know it sounds corny) is one place to look, Many churches have groups for singles. The best place I found and where I met my wife was a club for singles(membership of over 3000) that arranged ski trips, volleyball tournaments, weekend stays at the beach or mountains, hot tubbing, bicycling, softball games, hiking, camping, white water rafting(I live in the Northwest) and any activity you can imagine. The point is that it grouped you together with people of similar interests. Most people were single if not all and professional, well educated and enjoyed having a good time. It exposed people to others in a friendly low pressure environment whom you would not meet in bars. Check around. There may be a singles club like that near where you live.
2006-07-21 03:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very hopeful when it comes to men. Maybe because I am surrounded by good male friends and male role models. Out of my entire family, only one aunt had a divorce and I come from a huge asian family. So you can imagine.
A recent aunt just got married at 42 and her hubby was 43. They probably can't have kids but they can adopt. It all works out for the best I think when you wait and be patient. Although my aunt was just picky, but my new uncle is a great man. No baggage because both have never been married.
My husband reckons that the reason why we got together was his prayer to God. We were friends for four months when he prayed to God for an answer to why I was in his life. A week later we got together. And I had no intention of dating him, it just happened overnight, literally. It was around Valentine's day so I say it was cupid who shot the arrow late. haha
2006-07-21 14:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by jade11378 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is
but your NOT going to find one in a meat market, a bar ect...
you going to have to look for religiou places to find a faithful guy
also it's what you seek in a guy ( realistically ) and unrealstically that will determine what you get
keeping your standards
using a filter to weed out those who do not fit what you want
but then in return what do you give that potential guy?
keep in mind most guys now a days come from a divorced family
so al lthey know s that relationship will not last
women are not to be trusted as if they do not get what they want, they can be vicously vindictave
every guy kjnows at least 2 to 3 buddies who are divorced and the hell they went through becuase of it
in every case the guy though he was marrying a good girl
and in everycase the women are as fickle as the men whom you seem to run into
so you can undertsand a guys hesitation for not wanting any long temr commitments and frankly i do not blame them
for them Tom Leykas and his radio program have become a rallying cry to counter that horrnedous rate of divorce
if a guy ask i tell him to NEVER marry, there is simply no benefit in it for him
the laws are such that a women can cheat on her husband and still get 50% of his income, a force sale of a house and the kids
the ones who are good are either married ( and most likely on there way to divorce, they just don't know it yet ) or staying in long term but not married relationships ( where women get impatient and demand marriage, only to find thme say OK they are out of there ). good luck in your search
2006-07-21 02:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to find the man that you're looking for? you can't always be looking or else you'll never find it. You'll be judging every man that walks your path. The idea to find the right man is to not look at all, he will find you. When the moment arises and it will you won't even see it, but you will feel it...in your heart. And is it possible to find us (men). Yeah we're out there...asking the same question as you. Is it possible to find a woman and have that long lasting marriage? I know it, and so should you. I hope that helps you out.
2006-07-21 03:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a faithful man but a man who is attracted towards having sex is needed for a long lasting marriage.
2006-07-21 02:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are looking outside yourself for peace, peace will never be found. If what you seek you find not within, you shall never have it. Pray to God for it if you must. Try dating services if you must. The truth is that true love is reserved for those who are blessed in their own solitude. Let me recommend a terrifc book; "On love & Other Difficulties" by Rainer Maria Rilke. He is a great poet, and what he speaks of must surely hit home.
2006-07-21 02:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by Michael D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is a question of heart-to-heart relationship. Everybody has a suitable partner in the world. It is in the divine scheme of things. Be positive and have enough faith yourself. Then it works to have a faithful husband. Don't be doomed in faithlessness. Soar on the wings of faith. And see for yourself how things develop on their own as if you started improving your eye-sight even in black-out!
2006-07-21 03:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Vijay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same.I am 28 and also want to find somebody nice.Just to be there for me.But it is possible to have a long lasting marriage,but people who have it work hard for it.Meaning not giving up when things go wrong...
2006-07-21 02:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by sanja77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋