2006-07-20 19:34:47 · 11 answers · asked by Mich 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
and she is not even fat
2006-07-20 19:39:11 · update #1
Just try to explain yourself. most people with problems like that know that it is bad for them, they just don't care. So just explain that you just care about her and that you would feel better if she stopped.
2006-07-20 19:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is suffering from a serious eating disorder in which she continuously "binges and purges" [ eats lots and lots of food, and then forces herself to vomit, either by ingesting a vomitive such as Ipecac syrup, by mechanical means such as stimulating the gag reflex by inserting an object deep into her throat like a spoon handle or a finger, or a combination of both ]. Although she's not fat, no matter how thin she gets, she still perceives herself as fat and in need to lose more and more weight. This is a potentially fatal medical condition, and just by the fact that you posted this question here, is plain to see that you are a good friend and wish to help her. Sadly, there isn't an OTC or miraculous cure for these kind of disorders. Only a staff of properly trained medical professionals in an appropriate clinical setting can be of some help to this girl. Talk to her privately and let her know that you are aware of her problem, that you love her and want the best for her, and suggest that she seek professional help. I wish you the best of luck, and hope that your dearly loved friend gets better real soon.
2006-07-21 03:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by la_nena_sabe... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, talk to her as though she were your only sister. Reassure her that you do not mean to intrude on her privacy, and let her know that you'll be there for her always. She will need a lot of emotional support to even admit she has a problem. The best you can do for her is to gently attempt to get her to submit to professional help. If she refuses, then I would speak to her other family members and ask them if they are aware of the problem. If they are not, maybe they can give you more insight as to what her attitude would be if they got together as a group with a therapist. She does need professional counseling and you could be her 'angel' in disguise.
2006-07-21 02:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by chole_24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only a bad friend wouldn't say anything. the fact that you are on here looking for advice means alot. Just talk to her build up her confidence tell her how pretty she looks now. get some info on bulimia and its side affects show her the downside let her know you love her and you need her to be healthy...who else will be around to give you a run for your money. throw a little sense of humor and alot of heart in your talk....I'm sure she will come around
just remember if you really love your friend don't give up shes worth it its just going to take some time...this isn't easy for her either
2006-07-21 02:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by redserenity0804 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how concerned you are. do some research on it first. do some research as well on counsellors in her area that can help her deal with her self esteem etc. get to the core issue on why she is bulemic. tell her you want to help her and are willing to help her see through this whole thing. not saying anything knowing she is participating in a behaviour that is so self distructive is being a bad friend. cause you sitting by doing nothing when she probably wants someone to help her. otherwise you wouldnt' know about it. bulimia is a very secretive disease that most people have no idea someone is actively bulimic. and can go on for years. so if you know, then i think some how she wanted you to know. so help her deal with it
2006-07-21 02:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try just being her friend and telling her how concerned for her health you are and show her the damage she is doing to her body. Research it on the net and show her the most gruesome pictures. Help her to build up her self esteem and her confidence so that she stops on her own. Take her on the Dr. Phil show??
2006-07-21 02:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. i have watched a lot of lifetime television with me mom so....i know what you mean....if she really is your friend than tell her or say that you are leaving her as a friend if she doesn't get better. i have seen this TV show that is called Intervention...it is about people with addictions/drugs/bulimia/ anorexia..those things..the family/friends call the show and they schedule with a rehab center who has it all figured out and everything...the family/friends has to right a letter of why they should get into treatment today because they will not get better..
SORRY.. I AM BORING YOU AREN'T I..
well what i am trying to say..
Just tell her....once she gets better she will thank you!
2006-07-21 02:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥puppy♥luv♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her professional help. bulimia is a serious disease and she needs to be stopped. i had a friend with an eating disorder, and it was very hard for him to overcome it. yes, i know it was a guy, which meant some people didn't believe us when we tried to help him. talk to a responsible adult, like a parent, teacher, counselor, or minister, and get her the help she needs. if anything, not helping her would make you a bad friend.
2006-07-21 02:39:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cheesie M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this worked for a friend of mine - point out a girl that is too skinny and try to get your friend to agree that girl looks like she needs help , then say you know you are skinnier than she is and i am concerned about you
2006-07-21 02:49:27 · answer #9 · answered by leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, if it gets to it tell her parents so she can get help before she does damage. It is for her health. She may hate you for a while but when she notices that you saved her life she will appreciate you.
2006-07-21 09:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋