Due date was yeterday. I have a 1 1/2 yr old daughter that I chase aaround the house up and down the stairs all day. Even when my BF gets home I never ask him to look after her. She would not take a nap all day today and haad been a handful. The house is always pretty much clean (especially for having a 1yr old) and I try to make dinner and even cook lunch every other day. I walked around so much today that my feet were so swollen that when I walked on them they felt like they would burst. The BF has never even given me a back rub during this pregnancy....Ihave rubbed his back though. I have been through a lot during this pregnancy, even dealing with some physco chick he neglected myself and his daughter for, for 4 months and she wrote on my car and I ahve been going to court about it for months. Mind you ...met him at 16 and this is our 10th year. Anyhow, tonight I turned on the central Air and it is as if I turned it on to dry my toenails or something. He just about through a fit.
2006-07-20 19:22:50 · 9 answers · asked by raindrop_110880 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I am having the hardest time sleeping and breathing at night and tonight I need the sleep after our daughter would not nap today. I don't ask for anything for myself around here. Having a few hours of AC is like my splurge for the month.
2006-07-20 19:26:46 · update #1
It can't be a money thing. We do pretty well and even though I stay at home I bring in my own income and contribute to the houshold from my savings. I typically buy all the baby stuff for our daughter and the baby on the way.
2006-07-20 19:28:46 · update #2
He will help with household stuff if I ask him to, but I am fine trying to kepp the house together. He has been moping the floors since I physically can't. The only thing I want from him is some compassion and understanding and to not have to explain to him why I need certain things becuase I am pregnant.
2006-07-20 20:08:42 · update #3
The hardest time in a relationship is when the second child comes home from the hospital. Your pregnancy is the warm up of how your bf is seperating himeself already. One child is portable, manageable, two children is a trap and both of you will be in it for the rest of your lives.
Of course we love our children, but not all of us make the sacrifice of self for them. While most people I know would do without so their children are safe and warm and healthy, not everyone is prepared to do that. Your boyfriend is one of those people who won't do without.
Your BF is making it clear that he does and will continue to put his own needs before those of his family. You must decide if that is something you can live with.
2006-07-20 19:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by baggyk 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are in an abusive realtionship, at least mentally. You need to get out! I hope you have someone close to you like parents or maybe even a good friend who you can move in with. Don't think you need that man for anything, because welfare exists. Forget how he feels about things think about your children. Do you want them growing up around him as an influence? I highly doubt it! You need to get away from him and love yourself and your kids. Good luck!
2006-07-21 02:55:37 · answer #2 · answered by innosint_lil_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Dr. Laura would tell you to dump this guy and move in with your parents so that you kids can have a male role model from your dad.
2006-07-21 02:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by runningviolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he freak out because of money or because he is just not happy in the relationship and just wants to take his anger on you?
2006-07-21 02:26:31 · answer #4 · answered by Tracy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rub his back anymore. I would leave him, if I were you. It sounds like you can't even communicate with him, and he doesn't sound very compassionate at all.
no more backrubs for him!
2006-07-21 02:29:56 · answer #5 · answered by boogiewunker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you sound very sweet and i'm sure you are a good girlfriend and great mother but he has no appreciation for you and you could do better
2006-07-21 03:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by zoesmom20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon. please ask a girlfriend . close relative for help b/c you are going to need it - I hope he grows up soon but if he doesn't you are going to need a lot of support - you probably just need to ask for it - good luck
2006-07-21 02:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by leo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well set him straight, my husband willing and sometimes asks to do things for me and me not pregnant, he done more when i was, you need to write down and express yourself to him
2006-07-21 02:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by ♥My 2 Cents♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him.
2006-07-21 02:28:46 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Danielle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋