how can i inspire my little girl, aged eight, to clean her room?

Answer 1

tell her that is how she'll be more beautifull. that when she is out she's dolls are crying cause the room is not clean.

Answer 2

You say she is 8 well are you just now starting her to clean up after herself or her room? I am the parent of 4 youngest is 15, she was the baby and the other 3 did for her. but she knows how to clean and she must have her room clean before going any where? Now I started my childrend off at about 2 to put away their toys and to make the bed to the best of their ability at that age. but in time it all came together, 8 is a late starting point but know that you are the parent and she is the child and that at this time in life her Job is to go to school and to keep her room clean. and little odd things around the house to help out. and in return you take care of the cooking and paying the bills and driving her here and there. You need to know that you are always working for the child and what is best for her. The least she could do is clean her room. And none of that treat stuff or ice cream just makes them fat. but rewards for doing a very good job is great. A hug, a flower, a sticker, "great Job. Encourgement. and Praise. and all Done In Love.
CLEAN UP, CLEAN UP EVERYBODY CLEAN UP.........

Answer 3

You know when I worked in daycare I always had this problem. Getting the children to clean up after themselves. Now I'm not sure how fun it would be for just one child. But what I found worked best was to make it a game. Like Freeze Dance. Instead it was Freeze Clean! When the music starts you clean, when it stops you stop. Of course with other children if you kept moving after the music stopped you were out of the game. And we all know nobody wants to lose! : ) Other than that I'm not sure. But if you have other children maybe this could work?

Answer 4

I'm 21 now, my room is a mess (I'm home for the summer, I'm a senior in college) and I am not inspired in the least to clean it....my mother has threatened me, my father has offered reards....and there's just nothing....

When I was younger my mother used to make me clean my room all the time. She would yell and scream, she would give rewards, but it always had to be clean....to this day I still don't care because it was never a problem for ME...it was always that my parents were unhappy ith my room...I don't care at all. My kitchen is always clean, my living room, pretty much everything that strangers or family will see if they visit. But my room shouldn't be viewer friendly as far as I'm concerned.

My fiance on the other hand. His mother used to make him clean and organize everything. She told him it would help him to be more prepared hen he got older. Even his legos were color and size coded. To this day he is the biggest neat freak ever. Because it's important to HIM.

So I guess what I'm getting at in all my ramblings is...that...You have to make it important to her to have a clean room. There is nothing anyone could do now to make me want to clean. But if you give your daughter a reason for it to be important to her, not just rewards or punishment, then you could have a fighting chance

Answer 5

There are lots of things that you've probably tried. But one thing that I find has worked with kids of all ages is this. Okay you can't control their choices, but you can control their priveledges. So, figure out what it is she just dies for like ice cream for example. Be like a friend about it rather than get into a power struggle. Maybe she likes to go out for ice cream. Instead of just taking her based on the fact that she is so cute and fun to spend time with - use this to your advantage. Would you like to go with me to Baskin Robbins for an ice cream cone in your favorite flavor? She'll say, Yes oh please let's go! Then, say great, I can't wait. As soon as you clean your room - we can go! You can do this with whatever she loves to do whether it is a movie or a special snack or a game. It takes some training and time to get a child used to this method and at first she may not like it - but motivating factors always have helped me get kids doing the right things. Eventually, she'll get into the habit of cleaning her room without having to motivate her this way - but it does take time. Be patient. So basically, she doesn't get to do and have the fun things she really likes without doing what she is supposed to do in developing good habits and disciplines. Save the take aways and time outs for more serious matters such as disrespecting you - you'll really hurt an 8 year old's self esteem and heart if you push them too hard and base everything on a menial punishment or constantly punishing them for every move they make. Remember, kids are not little adults - they are wild animals - that makes you the wild animal TRAINER. You'll also damage your relationship with them. Dr. Phelan's 1,2,3 Magic is TOTALLY awesome!!!

Answer 6

I raised my kids as a single dad and found that when I made household chores the responsibility of our household in that we all washed dishes and cleaned. Before we went and did anything special we had to leave the house clean and before we went to bed we did the dishes and took out the trash. Being consistent is the most important thing in parenting. But if you make it fun and no big thing any chore becomes another thing like brushing your teeth or flushing the toilet a simple habit.

Answer 7

Well the way I got my girls to clean their room, and I am a single dad with two daughters, I used to do it with them and make a game of it, never get mad at them and after they helped me I would pretend to be really tired and need to get some refreshment that was either a trip to the local McDonald's for soft serve ice cream or to the Baskin Robbins ice cream parlor for a milk shake, or smoothie so it got to be something they did automatically when they wanted to go out, they would come over and tell me they cleaned their rooms and could I take them out to the mall for ice cream or whatever.

Answer 8

Positive Reinforcement.

If she does something good, reward (who knows? Makeup, shopping, or just a pat on the back, etc). If not, then restrict rewarding. Cleaning a room is instrumental in showing a child personal responsibility.

Answer 9

Positve rienforcement - Build her self esteem.

Tell her - big girls take responsibility for their rooms.

Use a reward system - Graph her daily room cleaning on the fridge and make a big deal about it on a daily basis.

Have a special end of the month treat for BLANK amount of days she cleaned her room.

Kids soak this stuff up.

Answer 10

Model the behavior you want your children to exhibit by picking up your personal items and putting them away. Even make comments out loud about putting your things away.

Try making a game out of cleanup or offer a reward such as going outside or painting.

Remain neutral in tone of voice and posture when following through with a consequence. Children can read frustration and anger and sometimes act negatively because of it.

You may have to change consequences periodically if they fail to be effective.

Answer 11

My parents used to pay me a dollar a week if I could keep my room clean all week. One of my friend's parents charged her money if she didn't keep it clean. My friend didn't want to give up her allowance money because of a messy room, so that method worked pretty well I guess.