What if you are 14 and about to have a child.?

Answer 1

Life might be very hard for a 14 year old who wants to raise a child. I don't think most 14yrs old have the emotional and financial resources let alone the patience to raise a child.

I would say if your family and the father cannot help you support and raise a child you should give it up for adoption.

If you decide to keep the child it might be best to put the fathers name on the birth certificate. Many men and boys when confronted with paternity frequently deny responsibility and will claim your a sl*t. Demand a DNA test to establish paternity. The courts will make the father pay child support. Mothers can be forced to pay child support if the father has custody and needs child support.

If you are a baby's father and the mother of your child keeps the baby invest some time in your child's life even if you do not have custody.

Wear a condom the next time you have sex.

Parenthood can be an 18 year commitment so if you just want to have fun protect yourselves from becoming pregnant or impregnating some one.

Answer 2

Tell your parents (yes, even you hate them), whoever the father is, and any friends/support group you have. If you can't depend on your parents for help, then go to an adult (or at least an older, responsible person) to help you.

You have a choice here. Abortion or follow through?

Abortion will be more convienent... for you. Your child will die. I know that doesn't mean much to you now, but it will hit you sometime in your life, guaranteed. You won't have to put up with anything (ie, birth, reputation, raising the child...) and, if done cleverly, you can even hide it from your parents. However... it will SEVERLY screw up your body. The further along, the more screwed up... your body was getting ready to have a child, suddenly it's not there... there are severe repercussions. Go and read up on it.

I recommend letting your child live. It could be shameful, must likely, to be found pregnant at your age. And you never know how your boyfriend will react. That can hurt, in many cases. Sometimes, though, they can be shockingly responsible. I wouldn't count on anything. You'll go through the nine months, with the ackwardness, getting larger, morning sickness, random cravings (hey, your body knows what it needs...) and so forth. This is where your support group comes in. They will pull you through. Then there's the birth, and living with a newborn, and raising a child... This is where parents come in.

Women's bodies are ready to give birth and raise a child once they have their period. However, the mind isn't ready at all until they're at least eighteen. It's a huge shock, and major, major, responsibilty to mold a new life into a respectable person.

Whatever you do, talk to someone. I cannot repeat that enough. And not just your friends, your parents/guardians.

Answer 3

I was 14 when I got pregnant and when my baby was 3 months old his father got locked up for 4 years. I continue with school and graduated. went to college and graduated. I started working at the age of 17 from there on I was on my own when it comes down to financially taking care of my son. It times it gets hard because you did not plan for your teenage life to be like this. What always work for me is to just look at my son hug him and thank god for blessing me with something so beautiful and healthy. I am now 21 and I am now pregnant with my second baby (17 weeks) and the F**king bastard got lock up again when i was about 9 weeks long. I am so stressed over this, but I know deeply inside I can do it again, but it want be easy. Thank god my first child is in elementary school now. I just hope you have family willing to stand by your side because, because you will need there support. Good luck on making the right decision that will last a life time.

Answer 4

Is your mom willing to raise the child? You are 14. You cant get a job. You needed to finish school then have a child. Babies are not dolls. You cant put them on a shelf when you get tired of taking care of them. They are a 24/7 responsibility. Are you ready to get up every 2-3 hrs to feed and change it? Are you ready to have no life other then what you can get with the child? I know I had my first when I was 17. It isnt easy!!!

Answer 5

If you decide adoption, let me know, Ive wanted a baby for 6 years and would give it a wonderful home, with lots of love. If you keep it do a good job, and good luck. I can't even imagine having a baby at 14.

Answer 6

Parenting, in general, is tough. But at that age, it's even tougher, simply because of the lack of maturity involved at that age. It will test your patience, that's for sure. But know that this child is your primary responsibility from here on out. Reach out to your family and ask for their support, especially your mom or another female figure in your life. They will help you through the difficult times.

Answer 7

I would say that I am sorry you are in that position. 14 is much too young, in my opinion, to be a mother and parent. I would seriously consider putting the baby up for adoption, it will be very hard but better for you and for baby. And learn from the lesson not to do it again.

Answer 8

my friend had a baby at 14 he is now 7 and she has a 3 month old daughter, she is married to their dad and are all doing very well. Depends how mature you are. Good luck

Answer 9

No telling. This story could have multiple endings. If you were really 14 and about to have a baby I think you would be little more prepared ... So I think you're fibbing for the attention.

Answer 10

Then your parents should be charged with neglect if they are not knowing where there 14 year old is, or not preaching to them about safe sex and waiting. At 14 you still so young. There is no reason a 14 year old needs to have sex. that is just sick......