She basically called me a stripper and a "horse face". She called my husband crazy and ugly. And she called our relationship a sham! We have been married for almost 2 years. He left her for me over 2 years ago. We HAVE NEVER spoken to her since, but recently found out about the blog through a mutual friend. We are very happy with a house, jobs, and a cats/dogs. I don't get it! Do I fight back!? Do I respond!? I'm hurt.
2006-07-20 19:01:55 · 43 answers · asked by Rayslittlegurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just to clarify she was his girlfriend and they were never married. They were together for 9 months. I knew her because we were all in law school together.
2006-07-20 19:05:53 · update #1
Wow! I can't believe I got such a response. Thanks everyone for what you've all said. II know that this sounds immature to some of you and I appreciate your sentiments, but honestly I just wasn't sure how to handle it. And secondly I'm an attorney myself, so I don't need legal advice but thank you anyways!
2006-07-20 19:29:17 · update #2
This is tough, but you need to take the high road here and just not respond. If anyone asks you questions about it, tell them you have no idea why she would say something so hurtful and leave it at that. I know it's hard to keep your mouth shut, but the less you react, the more she will look like the psycho be-yotch she is. She's obviously jealous.
2006-07-20 19:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by BB 5 · 10⤊ 1⤋
hmm. You are going to waste a lot of time if you spend any time at all fighting her. That being said, if she is using your name and things that could potentially cause you harm you should ask her to stop and see if there is anything legally you can do.
She probably is jealous that you have made a succesful marriage with your husband and the only way she can make herself feel better.
The best thing you could do that would drive her absolutely crazy is you keep doing nice things for her. She wants to get a rise out of you. Bake her some cookies. She'll go NUTS that you aren't being bother by it.
2006-07-20 19:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by keb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're wondering if there's any legal action you can take, unfortunately there's not a thing you can do. It's a free country and anyone can say anything about anybody they want. Just look at all the tabloids on the newsstand. As someone else advised, IGNORE it. This woman seriously has other issues going on if she actually took the time to sit and ponder your personal life then write about it. She's obviously not fulfilled in her own life if she's obsessing over yours. You should feel good about yourself that you have mind power over someone who devotes their day to thinking about you when you can careless about them. When you think about it, you have full control over this woman's mind and she has no idea. A little pathetic don't you think? Good luck to you and don't let her get you down.
2006-07-20 19:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by SoCalGal75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see... You're husbands ex wrote something bad about you & Hubby in your blog.. Well, if I was still in high school, I would get really mad over it, and tell her to meet me after school at 3:00 p.m. sharp, then beat the living crap out of her! But from a grown adults point of view, I would ignore it.. She's just venting.. Obviously, she is jealous and/or still hurt from the break up with your husband.. They are just words! ( Horse face?? Stripper?? - what is she, still a child herself?? Couldn't she think of anything better to call someone?? LOL) Get over it!!
If you and hubby are happy with what you have, then what does it matter what ANYONE says... Including your husband's ex!
2006-07-20 19:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would Jesus do if that was happening to him??? In the bible it says to turn the other cheek!!! Be nice to her, tell her nice things, be very sweet and she will try harder to make you hate her but whatever you do don't hate!!! If you need more answers, pray about it or read the bible...Jesus is the best friend that any person could ever have, he is always there for you and will never leave u or forsake you!!! Just open up to him and let him handle the business!!! He would never give you something that you can't handle, keep that in mind!!!! It always helps me when I have problems!!!!
2006-07-20 19:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by afinechic_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dealing with a jilted lover who feels betrayed and hurt by a lose. She needs time to get over it.
So here is a link to keep it within bounds of the law. You probably don't have a case, but it may help to consider what boundaries there are in situations like this.
2006-07-20 19:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can or should do.
Unless something she says winds up doing something like costing you your job or other duress, then you can nail her for libel or defamation; however, since she's just venting on a blog, she's well within her right to call you whatever she wants.
It's best to just ignore it. She's bitter and miserable and doesn't know any other way to cope with it.
The best revenge is to live happily.
2006-07-20 19:06:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares get over it. You should think about growing up and stop being so childish, I know this may sound rude but I dont mean for it too. the ex is in the wronge for writing about you (u can Sue its called libel) any way just try moving on
2006-07-20 21:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by daniel l 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cool someone is noticing you, maybe not in a good way buit she is noticing you. well what did you expect her to say nice things about you or her ex? let her say what she wants. it is her life and her thoughts, no one knows your name or who you are, i say you go under a weird name and defend yourself and start to talk to her and do the same to her, try to be her friend at first and then tell her who you are, ifyou want to get even with her do the same thing and make sure she sees it, but heres what i really think, ifyou are happy with this guy it shouldnt matter what she says, whoever reads this and tellsyou about it , will know it is all a lie,
2006-07-20 19:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're hurt, either talk to her, or cry on your husband's shoulder and then forget about her. she's bitter, because your man left her for you. If she can't get over it by now, then she's a little immature lol
2006-07-20 19:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋