I was born in the USA but my birth parents took my back to Russia (that's where they are from) and I stayed there till I was nine. I thought I saw my birth parents die when I was in Russia. Now I am 13 and living with my parents who adopted me and I just found out my birth parents are alive and they wanna be meet me. Does anyone have adivce cuz I would love to hear it!!! Badly!!
2006-07-20 18:58:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was born in the USA but my birth parents took me back to Russia (that's where they are from) and I stayed there till I was nine. I thought I saw my birth parents die when I was in Russia. Now I am 13 and living with my parents who adopted me and I just found out my birth parents are alive and they wanna be meet me. Does anyone have adivce cuz I would love to hear it!!! Badly!!
2006-07-20 19:01:30 · update #1
Sorry about the second post it was an mistake...
2006-07-20 19:03:29 · update #2
I jsut wanted to mention about what something said about me being sold.
I'm not offend but I know I wasn't sold I was nine when this all happend I remember going through all the adoption stuff.
The reason I was in a adopted is because my parents were bad parents that's another thing I wanted to add
2006-07-20 19:10:26 · update #3
To Sandy:
That's something I can see them doing...
And yes They did throw away another child
My cousin.
She was her god mother
We were adopted by the same parents
2006-07-20 19:14:34 · update #4
Hello everyone I (after a couple weeks of thinking about it) have decided that I will meet them. I could be making a mistake but I know if I never get this chance again I will most likely regret it. Thank you sincerely for all the advice I’ve gotten and it’s really helped.
I will tell you how it go’s. And thank you so much again…
2006-07-22 22:49:02 · update #5
Okay wow.
I did say I would expect the worse… And I got it.
We actually ended up yelling at each other.
Oh and before she said my dad was alive…He’s not.
To all the people who told me to meet them: I do not blame you at all. This was completely my choice and I kinda thought this might happen.
And even though it didn’t go well I don’t regret going because If I didn’t I would always wonder what it would have been like.
Yeah it sucks. But (and not trying to sound snobby) it’s her fault not mine she’s just not a good mother. I mean she had me when she was twelve. Twelve! Whatever, before part of me wondered what it would be like if I still was with her and now I know it’s not what I want and I can move on. It has been in the back of my mind since I was taken away from her and now it’s gone and I’m grateful of that. Finely it’s over. Thank you for your advice once again I might not have gone and I might still have that nagging feeling but it’s not there anymore. Thank you…
2006-07-26 18:40:08 · update #6
Just be smart...smarter than anyone who is in a desperate financial state. I hope you weren't sold...and now they think they can get more money with your help. I'm not trying to insult you...I just want you to be aware of these things. Good luck.
2006-07-20 19:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being adopted myself, I can tell you that you will need and want to know. But this is something that you should do only if you are ready. If you are not ready, it can be devastating. But most of all remember that your adoptive parents love you and accept you for who you are.
2006-07-21 02:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by llemarr2005@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet them, like everybody says, here what they have to say about what happened. You dont deserve any of this, so the least everybody should do is tell you the truth. This involves your adoptive parents too, they need alow you to meet your real parents.
2006-07-21 02:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by Happy hippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only do what you are ready to do. They must have a reason...although i can't think of anything at the moment. If you are not ready to meet them, then don't. Just don't live with any regrets...
2006-07-21 02:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know why your birth parents want to meet you?........they have this morbid & sadistic interest to find out how fuxked up your are since they dumped you!
.....dont flatter yourself that they want to see you out of love.....
killers always return to their scene of crime to check if their work has been ..........horrifying (to victim's friends & public)....or satisfying (to himself) ..........or mystifying (to police & FBI).... or just plain easy to redo......to another victim in a new setting!
Do you know if your parents threw away a sibling as well?
Send them a 'love letter' and get on with your life!
2006-07-21 02:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must know what actually happen. Find out.
2006-07-21 02:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Shahriar A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o mii gosh! im shocked too.. i would be mad if my parents gave me up
2006-07-21 02:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by KryssyBeyondBeauty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet them .
2006-07-21 02:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋