I work with this guy at a steakhouse and he is my age and the nicest most caring guy I have ever met. He is always helping me out and when we see eachother our eyes just "click" and "lock" for about 5 seconds. I just melt when I see him. He will touch my shoulder a lot and joke around even with the language barrier. He is learning English and I am learning Spanish so we can communicate some, and it will only get better once we learn more. I am afraid because I am really falling hard for this guy and I am worried I'll only end up hurt in the end because I feel that this hurdle is too big and this could never work out. First of all do you think he is interested in me? Also, my family thinks I'm being naive and silly to like this guy, and my friends think I should go for it. What do y'all think having an unbiased opinion?? I want to just let this go and forget about it but our connection is just insane and he's really unforgettable. Should I pursue this or get over it? Thanks GB!
2006-07-20 18:48:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
P.S. I am saving myself until marriage so I am not interested in a sexual relationship. I am genuinely interested in this guy as a person because of his kindness and sweet character.
2006-07-20 18:49:57 · update #1
I am friends with him right now..I'm not planning on marrying him or moving in with him right now!! hehe...I just want to see if he seems interested and also if it is a good idea to even like him THANK Y'ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR ADVICE! God bless!! :D
2006-07-20 19:02:51 · update #2
aww.. that is so sweet .. but hm i dunt like that of you r family i am hispanic and latinos are the greatest!! ...look the way you say that hes touchy and looks at you the same way you look at him .. its probably because he likes you back .. when a guy touches a girl .. or does anything to get his hands on her ,, that means flirting.. and they do that to make "physical contact" is human nature.. now you are very grown up and opened minded because i see you dunt really believe what your family thinks about it .. technically its BS! bullsHIT.. dunt listen.. keep on being his friend .. and maybe you can help him learn english here and there.. and that will make you guys closer.. love has no language.. and after all its not your parents who are going to chose who you marry its you ! YOU like him girl? GO FOR IT!!.. for gods sake you only live once... :) ENJOY!
2006-07-20 18:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family might just be thinking that the language barrier might make things hard. Communication is the basis of any good relationship and if you can't communicate then you aren't going to have much to go on. Being at work and joking around and everything is great - but what are you going to do when you are alone and you can't understand eachother.
If you really feel for this guy and think he feels the same way (which it sounds like it does) then you should pursue it. Maybe you can help him with his English. The fact that you feel very strongly about him is indication enough that this might be something you regret if you don't give it a shot. Good luck!
2006-07-21 01:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
~*~ I'd say if you two feel something for each other, go for it.. Don't let your parents or anyone else tell you what to do.. Do what you feel is right.. You never know, this guy could be the love of your life.. The language barrier isn't a big deal.. If he loves you or cares for you that much he will learn English.. If you love him or care for him.. you will learn Spanish.. Just keep in mind though that differences in culture/language/religion can cause problems in a relationship.. I hope this helps.. Goodluck..~*~
2006-07-21 02:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mexitaliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should wait until you are not working together anymore. Many times when there are relationships in the work environment, it make things stressful for people, even the people not in the relationship. Find you what he is like out side of work before you make any decisions. That is great that you guys are both learning each others language. It will be better for you in the long run. For now, I think that just being friends is best. Finding out what he is like outside of work is probably important when do to decide to date him.
2006-07-21 01:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well If you two like eachother I say why not! I dont see how dating a spanish guy would be naive, even though yes latin guys have the 'ladies man' or 'player' stereotype theyre not all cheaters and jerks lol, I say if hes willing, try going out with him :)
To kokoarteest: Thats not stupid, she clearly stated that he is LEARNING english, I don't see the stupidity there. I was offended by your answer. Next time, READ before you post, it'll make you look like less of an ***.
2006-07-21 01:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by angelbabe3009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people around you, like your family, will give you advise to protect you. In their minds, they are looking for someone with the tools to provide a future for you and that hopefully you will also have your own tools to survive in case he does not work out. There is such thing as the "Totality of the circumstances" but right off the bat, this does not look good for you. If you are saving yourself for marrieage, that takes a lot of work, and it is sort of an investment. Physical beauty and attraction wear out, so take that out of the way and what do you have left in him, a good person? without tools for the future? that is something only you can see and we don't know but make sure your investment pays off. You are on the right way by seeking advise. To keep it simple, take the emotional aspect out of the way and see if what you have left will help you achieve your life dreams.
2006-07-21 01:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Humblewarrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. You are young still . Even if your parents say you are being naive. Screw them. Their lives are over (in a matter of speaking) Your life is JUST begining. Don't forget it and then spend the rest of your life saying "I wish I did this" Regret is the worst! You know the guy likes you and you like him. Just say "Hola hot stuff (use something better)" Even though the language barrier is hard. Dont they say Love knows know boundries? Good luck. You'll do great :)))
2006-07-21 01:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by jpspiderman2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to take a careful decision here - because no matter whether you fluently speak his language or he speaks yours, the cultural difference is always gonna exist. It could cause problems in your daily communication & you will struggle a lot if you start living with each other. You will have to decide whether your love will be strong enough to help you eliminate the language barrier.
My odds for your success = 0
2006-07-21 01:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they are unsure about him and do not want you to get hurt. but as long as the two of you happy,then who care right? he's teaching you spanish and you are teaching him english,thats great. just hang in there,everything will be ok. just make sure this is what you want to do,and that this guy is right for you.no matter if there is a "language barrier"
2006-07-21 02:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by runnin_4_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say. go for it. but as far as marriage?? very risky until u get the communication part totally resolved to the point where u guys can talk about everything...i really mean everything- everyday stuff like money to complicated topics like politics. otherwise if the communication part doesn't pan out...then u'll only be living a fantasy...u have this fake image of him and he will have this fake image of u...u both will make judgements and create expectations based on these images. this then sets u both up for huge diappointments and frustration. not worth it. communication is one of the foundations of a strong marriage.
2006-07-21 02:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by chloe 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋